An overlooked secret to keeping your New Year's resolutions

An Overlooked Secret to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions

Despite your best intentions and efforts,  do you still fail to keep your New Year’s resolutions?  If you said, “Yes”, you are likely missing an overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

You are not alone. Research shows that about 50% of all Americans make resolutions.  Yet, of those, only about 8% are successful in keeping them.

If you are like most resolution-makers, you choose goals related to health and fitness, finances, or improving your of life.  You may want such changes, but still not be successful despite your best intentions.

If you find it difficult to actually keep your resolutions, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • Am I making resolutions based upon my “shoulds” and “musts”?
  • Are my resolutions the same as what everyone else is doing?
  • Have I made this resolution year after year with no real progress?
  • Am I still falling short despite an accountability or buddy system, and breaking my goals into small steps?

If you answered “Yes” to any or all of the above questions, you may be missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.  You are likely making them from your “head”, i.e. what you “think” you “should” do.

What’s wrong with that? Well, let me ask you this: do you actually feel good about, and enjoy taking the action required?  If not, how likely are you to stick with doing something you don’t like doing, or feel passionate about?

If you don’t feel good about it, you are likely missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

What IS that overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions?

secret to keeping your resolutionsHere it is: Following your heart.

If your heart isn’t in the game, you lack the passion, drive, and desire that provide lasting momentum and energy needed to keep you going.  Your motivations come from other sources that don’t last, like willpower.

You are created of something greater than your personality self, designed to be and live a certain way YOU-nique to you.  Your heart knows what that is, and shows you your path in the form of love, joy and passion.

Positive loving, joyful emotions are life-sustaining Source energy flowing freely, and abundantly within and through you.  When you TRULY love what you are doing, it is a sign that you are on your path to living fully aligned with your Purpose.

Align with your Purpose. Follow your Soul Intentions.

secret to keeping your New Year's ResolutionsYour Soul Intentions for this lifetime are your Purpose.  Your heart knows what your Purpose is, and is guiding you with its love, joy, and passion.

You come into this life designed perfectly to live YOUR Purpose.  When you set goals aligned with your Purpose, you will find you enjoy accomplishing them and that you have the resources needed to do so.

That doesn’t mean it is always easy because there will likely be some tests to support your growth along the way.  But, you will feel less like a square peg in a round hole, and feel less stressed as a result.  You will love your life, and feel like your heart is in living it.

The overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions IS following your heart, thus aligning with your Purpose, i.e. your Soul Intentions for this lifetime.

Don’t make resolutions.

That’s right. Don’t pledge to do those cliché things that you always SAY you should/must do, but your heart isn’t in.   Isn’t it easier to “do it if your heart is in it”?

You are built and resourced to live your Soul Intentions, and when you attune yourself to, and align yourself with those, you will find you have better results. Set goals aligned with your Soul Intentions instead of making cliché resolutions you think you should.

The common tips and tricks to keeping your resolutions still have value.

Most people benefit from breaking goals down into doable, practical steps.  It also helps to celebrate reaching each of those mini milestones.

It can also be helpful to have support in community with others who have similar goals.  You can lean on each other and hold each other accountable.  You also can benefit from suggestions others find helpful.

Another very useful tip is to focus on the feeling of having accomplished your goal.  The feeling is actually the motivator behind it all.  The path you take to get there can vary, and the end result may end up being different than the goal you set.  What matters is the feeling you have at the end showing you whether you ARE on your path, or not.

Choosing the optimal time for changes can also help you succeed in creating them.

The urge to start fresh, commit to change, and begin anew is natural at this time of year.

secret to keeping your New Year's resolutionsIt is related to the cycles of light, and dark, and forces greater than you (remember the Rich Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories ?).  It is an optimal time for aligning with your YOU-niqe path, choosing the changes you will make, and setting your plan in motion.

Above all, have fun and be gentle with yourself in creating your plan for 2017.  Tune in to, and honor your heart.  See what you notice and enjoy the journey.

How do I align with my Soul Intentions?

Meditation and Imagery can help you align with your soul intentionsI meditate, and use guided imagery to listen to my Inner Wisdom, i.e., my Higher Self communicating my Soul’s path to me.

Meditation and imagery can be powerful tools to assist you in aligning with your Soul Intentions, and choosing your goals.  They help you open to the possibilities in your heart, while allowing your “head” to rest in its proper place – out of the way.  These are the same skills I teach my coaching clients to develop.

If you need help discovering your Purpose, or aligning with your Soul Intentions, apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today. Transformational life coaching can help you transcend your “shoulds and musts” to discover your heart’s desires and bring them to Life.

Happy New Year!

Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories

There Is Rich Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories

Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday StoriesThere is rich spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories.

Taking your cue from the spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories, and aligning with the seasonal cycles of nature, can enrich your own journey through spiritual growth to self-actualization. Each of the holiday stories in their own way, and the cycling of the seasons, symbolize the same process: your spiritual growth through illumination of your soul and its growth in consciousness.

The holy days and the winter solstice embody significant stages in our personal and spiritual growth. This is the season of rest, i.e. hibernation, in preparation for renewed life to begin its next phase in Spring.

You likely feel instinctively inclined to connect with your Soul intentions for the coming year at this time.

Many people manifest this inclination by making “resolutions”.

Yet, your Soul intentions are deeper and more meaningful than traditional resolutions.  Your Soul intentions are related to your Purpose, which is connected to your soul’s growth, and is what those inclinations to make resolutions are REALLY about.

Looking deeper at the spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories….

To manifest, i.e. birth,  your Soul intentions, there must parents.  The father figure is the mind, the spirit, the masculine principle.  The mother is the heart, the soul, the feminine receptive principle.

In part, the holiday stories symbolize preparing and purifying yourself by transcending your Human Ego, harmonizing your mind and your heart. In other words, opening to your pure heart and mind working together to manifest your Highest intentions.  Opening in this way, you are birthing the Light within you into your earthly self and existence.

You are birthing your Soul intentions – YOUR Purpose.

Spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories - your inner lightWhen the heart and soul are pure, then the “Child” is born not of the mind, but of the Universal Soul, or the Holy Spirit.  It occurs in the form of Divine Love, entering the human heart and soul. (You know that feeling, don’t you?  The one where you feel deeply inspired, awed, connected, and at peace)?

As Divine Love fills your heart, your Inner Light shines brighter, and your connection to your Purpose is stronger.  You are manifesting your Soul intentions.

As you enter this time of rest and preparation for renewal, reflect upon what you have manifested thus far, and the infinite possibilities awaiting manifestation.

The shortening of days represents the veil of forgetfulness about why you came here and what your purpose is.  As the daylight again increases, your Soul is released into the light, making its way back to Source.

Thus, you have a rich opportunity now to re-connect with your purpose for this lifetime, and set your intentions for the coming year.

Which seeds will you “resolve” to plant?

As you connect with your Source, and open to your Soul’s intentions for this lifetime, do so without reservation or judgement.

Recall the importance of your mind and intellect supporting and protecting that Soul connection through your heart as needed, unconditionally.  Invite your human mind to accept that there is more to your Being than it alone can create, or even understand.

It is a rich time for feeling and experiencing “awe”, which is the most relaxing, stress reducing human emotion. “Awe” is associated also with experiencing unconditional love in the deepest, most profound sense.

Letting your Light shine – more spiritual symbolism of the holiday stories.

Spiritual symbolism in the holiday storiesWhen you are too busy eating, drinking, amusing yourself in the human materialistic sense, there is “no room at the inn” for the one who has received the Divine within.  In other words, your connection to Source isn’t as open, strong, and clear.  Your higher self is not as “welcome”.

When shifting to a “poverty of material conditions” (a.k.a. “the manger”), the connection is made clear, and this inner divine Light is projected from you.  Others can see it from afar, and will be drawn in.

Your Inner Light is there to support, nourish, comfort, heal, and revitalize you on your journey.  It is always within you, and available to you lighting your way.

How will you let your inner light shine more brightly?  What will you bring forth in the new year to bring your Purpose to Life?

I invite you to spend this holy time of solstice reflecting upon your own journey, and opening your pure heart to the possibilities within.

What infinite potential lies within your pure heart, your Soul’s intentions to be birthed in this lifetime?  How can your mind best support this process without your Ego’s judgement interfering?  How will your masculine and feminine aspects harmonize to birth your Purpose?

I find this a very deep, interesting, and complex topic to ponder.  I do not pretend to be an expert in it at all.  What I do profess to be an expert it, is doing my personal best to live my own version of that.  No one else can do it for me.

You are an expert in living your own journey.

Only you could have gotten to exactly where you are, the way you did.  The path you are following is You-nique yours to follow.

You are exactly where you are meant to be, how you are meant to be at all times.

You meant to experience not only the joy, but also the feelings of fear, doubt, and judgement around yourself and your journey.

Spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories - guiding you(I bet you even objected in your own way, if only a little, to the idea of being “an expert in your own journey”, didn’t you?).

Those difficult feelings are your friends and guides.  They are showing you the opportunities for your next steps in your personal growth: to dissolve those fears, doubts, judgements and further purify yourself.  They are showing you where you are blocked from more fully BEING YOU.

The purification process opens you to receive even more clearly from Source, and let your inner light shine even brighter.  In terms of the spiritual symbolism of the holiday stories, it is purifying your heart so that you can experience spiritual birth, and hence renewal.   In so doing, you move closer to living in alignment with your Soul intentions.  Intentionally.

Thank you for BEING You.  In BEING YOU, you fulfill your Purpose, filling your space in the WHOLE.

In the spirit of the spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories, I invite you to devote some quiet, quality time to going within. Connect with stillness, and allow yourself to listen to your own Inner Wisdom. It is guiding you to your next steps with energy, joy, and peace.

During this sacred open time, let your Inner Wisdom help you determine your Soul intentions for 2017, and resolve to align with those to the best of your ability.

The world needs you now more than ever to bring your Purpose to Life, and Life to your Purpose.

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In the spirit of the spiritual symbolism in the holiday seasons, I see your Light!  I see your Greatness!

May you and yours have happy, healthy holiday and winter solstice seasons!  Thank you!  I love you!

 

Simple Self-Care During The Holidays

Simple Holiday Self-Care for Less Stress and More Energy

Simple self-care during the holidays can reduce stress and keep you energized. Is your own self-care even on your holiday list?

If you are the type to put everything and every one else first, you probably do so even more at holiday time, and your answer to that question is likely “NO”.   Simple self-care during the holidays can help reduce stress, and energize you.  Then, you may even find you get more done in less time because you are more effective and efficient.

Putting yourself on your list can be simple and effortless.

You don’t need to buy anything, schedule hours into your day, nor go anywhere.

There are some tips for simple self-care during the holidays you can incorporate effortlessly into your routine that will help minimize the effects of stress.

Simply minimizing the effects of stress can help short term.

Minimizing the effects of stress does not have the lasting effect that getting to the roots of your stress does.  But, it can help short term until you take the needed time to resolve your issues at the roots for long-term, lasting results.

First, it is important to recognize some of the signs that you may be stressed.

Though it may be easy to blame the weather, and being around others, you can’t ignore that these “symptoms” can be directly related to the stress of this very special time of year.  You may be experiencing the fallout of holiday stress if you are experiencing any of the following:

  • Feeling run down, fatigued, irritable, overwhelmed
  • Getting sick
  • Headaches
  • Neck, shoulder, hip, low back pain/tension

During the holidays, you are likely:

  • doing more
  • spending more
  • eating more (and more poorly)
  • sleeping less
  • socializing more

Your innate drive to serve and care for others is likely amped up, fueling your desire to make the holidays perfect and wonderful. For others.

Yet, feeding your deep desire to make the holiday wonderful for others may not be enough to nourish all of your own needs for self-care during the holidays.   You may feel good about what you have done on one hand, yet drained and irritable on the other.

Sound familiar?

If you identify with this, or simply desire to add in some effortless self-care this holiday season, here are 10 tips for simple self-care during the holidays:

Simple Self-Care During the Holidays

  1. Breathe deeply. Deep breathing can trigger a natural relaxation state.
  2. Ground and center yourself.  Take a moment to really feel present, in the moment, connected to Source, and to Earth.
  3. Smile.  This actually tricks your nervous system into a state of feeling happy.  Did you just smile?
  4. Turn on the music. Sing or whistle an inspiring or upbeat tune. Dance as if no one were watching.
  5. Savor your morning routine.  Start your day off positively. Really savor your morning routine – a cup of tea, meditation, prayer time, your shower, applying a favorite moisturizer, the sunrise, the promise of a new day.  Really take it in. Have fun.
  6. BE in the moment.  Find something you can appreciate with your senses, such as a new pleasant scent, something beautiful in nature, a new sight, a new flavor, the coziness of your sweater, the sounds, the silence, etc.
  7. Be gentle with yourself and realistic with your expectations. Don’t beat yourself up for your choices and outcomes.  It is great to notice your feelings around your perceived shortcomings.  Holidays aren’t the time to change dramatically (though you can choose to feel gratitude for the insight into your own ways).  HINT: Set your intention to dig deep here at a better time for handling it – say in the New Year? Request a complimentary consultation for a Discovery Session with me to explore how life coaching may help with expectations, intentions, and goal-setting in the New Year.
  8. Know and honor your values, and set your priorities according to them.   What is REALLY important?  If you honor your values, you will feel more fulfilled, confident, and less stressed.
  9. Eat and drink as healthy as possible, focusing on what you DID eat “right”.  Have an extra glass of water to maintain your hydration.  Try smaller portions, and eat mindfully.   If you give yourself a minute to really savor that one cookie, or piece of candy, you may not really want another…..
  10. Choose the feeling you DO want to experience when all is said and done, and create it for yourself.  How? First, identify the feeling.  Perhaps it’s gratitude, peace, joy, or even can’t be put into words.  Then, using your imagination, assuming anything is possible, imagine actually having that feeling, being in the situation that would create it.

These tips for simple self-care during the holidays can help mitigate the effects of stress short-term, but you need to get to the roots for lasting results.

Ultimately, your beliefs about your situation, expectations, choices, options, experiences, etc., are what create stress, and must be dealt with realistically to resolve stress at the roots.  Taking the plunge into exploring what makes you tick takes time, and commitment, but has its long term rewards in satisfaction, health, joy, and peace.

Put yourself on your list…..

Consider being as generous with yourself as you are others.  Your health matters.  You can’t give as much, as well, to others from a an empty box….

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Which tips resonate best with you?  Which do you find most useful?  Feel free to comment below!  Love to hear from you!