Your Answers Are Within

Your Answers Are Within

Did you know your answers are within you for all of your health challenges, stressors, and even knowing what’s next for you?  Yes, your answers ARE within.

Whispering to You Through Your Heart, Your Soul is Telling You Your Answers Are Within.

Looking to feel better, experience improved health, find your next steps?  Want to the satisfaction and fulfillment of knowing and living YOUR purpose? Your body is guiding you to follow the path that’s best for you.  Your heart knows your Purpose.  And, your Soul’s whispering through your heart all you need to know to be all you’re designed to be.  You first need to know and trust that, then learn how to listen and follow along.

Centuries ago, the “church” decided that the more esoteric matters of the mind, heart, emotions, and spirit was its domain.  The medical community decided the physical body was its domain.  That was the beginning of separation of “church and state”.  Perhaps that’s what lead to a tendency to look for our answers and solutions outside ourselves.

Sure, you must consult with professionals at times because they have necessary skills and knowledge you don’t.  And, that knowledge will enhance your understanding and decision-making.  But they don’t have ALL of the information.   Only you have lived your life, in your shoes, with your experiences.  You’re the only one who truly knows what’s going on inside your mind, your heart, your Highest self.

Ultimately, only you can make the best decisions for yourself, and manage your thoughts to keep aligned with your design, your Purpose, what IS best for you.  And, when you stray from that, your system will respond in kind with symptoms of stress and dis-ease.

I’m honored to share with you the second in my 12 article series with the newly published international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Answers Are Within”.  Please share your comments below – would love to hear from you!
Your Answers Are Within - Your Soul is Whispering to You Through Your Heart.

Ready to go within to find your answers, reduce your stress, improve your health and well-being, and live your Purpose?  Grab your free copy of my 5-Step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress today. 

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Your body's saying, "Be YOU!"

Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU!”  It begins with a whisper, and if you don’t heed its message….. it gets louder.  First, you have to know enough to listen. Are you listening?

I’m pleased to share with you my first article from the newly launched international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”: 

Your Body's Saying, "Be YOU!"

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU.”

If you’d like to learn to listen to it and follow its guidance to resolve your issues at the root joy, peace, purpose, fulfillment,  apply here for a complimentary Discovery Session.    Questions?  Email me today.

It’s an honor to be a contributing author for Sibella Publications’ newly launched Luminous Wisdom – Sophia online magazine.  If interested in a subscription, you can learn more here.

Live an extraordinary life - it is your design

Live An Extraordinary Life – It IS Your Design

You ARE designed to live an extraordinary life.  Did you know that?

You’re programmed and designed to be a YOU-nique BEING, with a you-nique place only you can fill.   You Purpose is to fill it by learning, growing, evolving into the best version of YOU that you can. When  you fulfill your Purpose, you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and love what you’re doing.  Your life fits you, and you fit your life.

Isn’t that in itself amazing, incredible, remarkable?  I think it is.  Oh, and by the way, “amazing”, “incredible”, and “remarkable” are all synonyms for “extraordinary”.

Live an extraordinary lifeI invite you to first consider what “extraordinary” means to you.  It means different things to different people.  Some, because of their “definition” don’t believe they’re meant to live an extraordinary life.

I’m not suggesting you’re necessarily meant to rise to the top in your profession, win a Nobel Prize, nor become famous and filthy rich.  I’m suggesting simply that you are you-nique, and something of value is contributed to the WHOLE when you aspire to being the best version of “YOU” you can be.  Then you’re showing up fully for the world, living your Purpose to the best of your ability, letting your Inner Light shine brightly.

Think about it.

An Intelligence created 100 Trillion cells of “YOU” before you were even born, from 2 completely individual single cells.  Isn’t that incredible? And, it isn’t done.  There is much more of “YOU” to potentially be created, maintained, and evolved.

Your nervous system is key in carrying out that Plan.  It’s continually making adjustments based n your experiences, situation, circumstances, etc.  It’s in charge of keeping you going, functioning, healing, evolving, living.

The ease with which your system can follow the Plan is affected by whether you align with, and support, it in your choices and responses, or you thwart it.

How do you know when you’re thwarting the Plan for your extraordinary life?

Follow the Plan for an extraordinary life - or get off courseYou feel stressed.  Yep.  Stress is an indicator that you’re out of alignment with your Purpose. Any stress, i.e. any sign of living less than an optimally healthy, high quality life is an indicator.

When stressed, your nervous system has to work overtime to make up for the alteration in the Plan.  It’s showing you how to get back on track with symptoms of stress.  If you ignore or tolerate the symptoms, or simply go for a quick-fix to eliminate them, you miss that “re-direct”.  And, you stay off-track.  Thus, you live a less-than-extraordinary life.  It may well be ordinary, or average at least.  But, it isn’t extraordinary.  Click here to see a great TED Talk YouTube video on this topic: “How Ordinary People Become Extraordinary”.

Listening to your Inner Wisdom guiding you through the symptoms of stress you experience can help you better align with the Plan for “YOU” so that you live an extraordinary life.  One in which you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and passionate.  A life that feels like the right fit.

Are you TRULY satisfied with your life?

Or are you settling….. for ordinary?  Ordinary is ok if you are ok with life’s aches, pains, health issues, and the other symptoms of stress.  It’s your life, your health, your choice.  Only you can decide what is and isn’t acceptable, extraordinary.

“If you would like help living an extraordinary life, grab your free copy of my “5-Step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress”:

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Embracing Change while Handling the Fear and Guilt

Embracing change isn’t always easy, but the right perspective can make it worth it in the end.  It will help you become the best version of YOU.  It’s time!

In my last article, I suggested Spring cleaning your life for more energy, joy, clarity and peace. Part of your Spring cleaning likely involves answering the call we all are receiving, i.e., to BE who we are YOU-niquely designed to BE – for the good of the Whole.  Even if you don’t recognize it as such, the TRUE longings in your heart are telling you, “BE YOU!” Always.

Embracing change of that nature can surely stir up resistance, masquerading as guilt and fear. Which can stop you dead in your tracks unless you are prepared to handle them.  I will share with you below how to make it easier.

It’s not always easy letting go and embracing change.

Change can be especially difficult when we are anchored by deeply ingrained habits and “belief baggage” with strong emotional ties.  Your “belief baggage” is especially difficult because it’s a part of your identity, a form of intellectual property, and your familiar home.  In other words, it’s your center and ground, your comfort zone.  Instinctively we protect what is “ours”, and our “home”.  All normal.

And, all holding you back if you aren’t willing to face it head on, feel the fear, and do it anyway.

You aren’t only changing a mental construct, you’re changing your programming, i.e. the wiring in your nervous system.  You’re opening to new ways.

Letting go and embracing change takes time, courage, persistence, and patience.

(It’s also helpful to have a support system, and a plan to help you navigate the journey.  Just sayin’. You know, like your life coach can do with you…).

Letting go and embracing change

What’s stressing you?

Think about the changes that, deep down, you’d really like to make.  The ones that you dismiss, or ignore, but which resurface repeatedly.  You know the ones I mean….

The changes that, if made, would ultimately land you in the most amazing place in your life.  That amazing place for which you are YOU-niquely designed to be.

What’s continually stressing you that needs to go (or needs a belief “re-vamp”)?  A relationship?  A job? A commitment?  Something else?

Which habits could use a little variety, or even hit the highway?

What’s missing that’s waiting for you to open the door and welcome it in?

Let yourself really feel into what it would be like if there were no limits, no excuses.   IF ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING were possible.  How would that feel to have your life EXACTLY as your heart longs for it to be?

How would your body feel?

I invite you to ask yourself, “What’s holding me back?”

And let the answer come through your heart, your gut, from your Higher Self.

Note how you may be limiting yourself with beliefs of impossibility, lack of worth, lack of self esteem,  “should’s”, and “musts”.

Be willing to admit what you’re afraid of.

How much of any of those limits is REALLY true?  Seriously.

Embracing change to be the best version of you...

Sometimes there’s guilt involved. Which is really fear in disguise.

And, you may not even know what you’re guilty about.  Regardless, its your beliefs at work.  Again, knowing yourself and drilling down are key.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you in that process:

  • Are you afraid of hurting someone by saying “no”?  Have you thought of how you might actually empower them to handle something themselves if you say “no”?
  • Is it REALLY true that you don’t deserve improvement?  Do you deserve to take your next breath or even eat when hungry? Aren’t those improvements of a sort? Where’s it fair to draw the line regarding what improvement you DO deserve?
  • Who’s suffering if you “improve”?  Might they benefit, learn, grow, or even become empowered if you improve?
  • Who are you dishonoring or disappointing by making a change?  Are you living YOUR life, or theirs? Aren’t they responsible for their own reactions?
  • What are you really afraid of?   Keep digging.  You answers ARE there.

If someone REALLY loves you unconditionally, they want what’s best for you, and what makes your heart sing.  And, that’s a two-way street, right?

None of us can decide what’s truly best for another.  We only know for certain what is going on inside of US, and what’s best for us.

It’s your birthright to become the best version of you.  It is your Purpose, and your destiny, to be the best YOU, and make your difference in the world.

And, everything you need to do that IS within you.   You will see it, feel it, know it if you look past the fear, and the guilt.

Bottom line…

Which is worse/more stressful?  Changing, or tolerating the way things are now?

Change isn’t necessarily all butterflies and roses.  But, personally, I prefer the stress associated with personal growth and improvement to that from tolerating something that isn’t a good fit for me.  It has a different quality to it. HOPE, ENTHUSIASM, OPTIMISM are mixed in.  That’s better than despair, pessimism, anger, and resentment-  in my book.

And, I also know that I have to be ready, which includes having a plan and support in place…..  Otherwise, the stress WILL be worse – because the anger, resentment, pessimism, and despair will creep into my “new” path to test my resolve as well…..

Are you ready to let go, embrace change, and be the best version of YOU?  A great way to start is to use your complimentary copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress. Get your copy here:

5-step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress

Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring cleaning your life inside and out can give you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.  Have you ever thought about it that way?

When in sync with spring, you naturally feel restless and you want change.  You want to eliminate what’s in the way, no longer serves you, and/or is cluttering your space.  You want a fresh start, to feel alive, and to welcome “the new”.

Those impulses apply to your life, not just your material world.  The same way cleaning your home, office, car, etc. helps you feel refreshed and rejuvenated, with space for “the new”, cleaning your life can bring you new clarity, energy, and peace.

What does Spring cleaning your life mean?

Eliminating the “obsolete, detrimental, old, toxic, and/or outdated” ways of thinking, doing, and BEING.

You know…. the things that zap your energy, distract you from what’s important, keep you in unhealthy patterns, and keep you stressed.

Spring cleaning your life frees you

How do you know where to start?

Knowing yourself is key.  Be clear about, and honor, your values and Soul’s intentions.  Taking a good, honest, unfiltered look at yourself and your life and drilling down to the core will help you discover what you need to see, know, and do.

Your heart is your source of power and motivation.  It’s the seat of your Soul.  It embodies your Soul’s intentions, values, desires, and Purpose.  Listen to your heart, and then allow your intellect to serve your highest good in bringing what’s in your heart to Life.

Some questions to ask yourself when spring cleaning your life:

Trust your first instincts, your first response, then go deeper.  There’s no “right or wrong”, just your answers ….. for YOUR clarity and guidance…..

Spring cleaning your life for change for the betterIs stress interfering with my quality of life?

What are my biggest “button pushers”?

What nags me most frequently?

Where in my life are my values lacking?

Am I aligned with my Soul’s Intentions?

What do I want to improve?

Am I willing to improve it?

Can I improve it?

How can I begin NOW to be a better version of myself?

What do I commit to changing?

Follow the steps in letting go…..

  1. Identify the need to change
  2. WANT to change
  3. Decide to change
  4. Make the plan – baby doable steps with support
  5. Follow the plan – to DO and BE different
  6. Actually LIVE it – be kind, patient, and consistent with yourself over time to develop new habits
  7. BE the new change – rewired by living it long enough that it IS you. For now.  Until you hit #1 again…

The litmus test:

Do your current life, your current ways, your current possessions embody your values?

Do they support you in realizing your Soul’s Intentions?

Decide what you are ready, willing and able to let go of as you begin Spring cleaning your life.  What’s keeping you from the clarity, energy, joy, and peace you want?

Think about what you are ready to incorporate in your “cleaner” life as well that can bring you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.

Is it time for more FUN!!! ?

I know its time for me to include more FUN!!! in my life.  I have been getting rid of some of the “old” to make room for more “FUN!!!”.

And, isn’t change is always easier, and more FUN!!!, when you don’t go it alone?

I find it is. So, I am creating a new opportunity as my gift to you.  AND, you have the chance to participate in creating that opportunity with me.

It will be a program to help us get out of our own way, and create a plan for FUN!!!, and have mutual support to keep us on track, ending this Mother’s Day.  A gift to the parts of ourselves that give to, support, and care for others.

If you would like to include more FUN in your life, and are interested in learning more, possibly creating and participating in this with me, click here to receive more information.     This time-sensitive opportunity ends April 7.   Click here now to learn more.

Spring cleaning your life for freedom and letting go

 

5 Tips for Managing Overwhelm

Overwhelm – 5 Tips For Managing It

When feelings of overwhelm creep into your daily life, do you ignore them and just keep pushing through your day?  If you’re like me, and many of my clients, you do.   But, if we don’t recognize overwhelm as the warning sign it is, we can end up crashing.

Our daily routine and habits give us our comfort zone, and perhaps a false sense of being in control.  They can keep us from realizing that we really DO need to tend to our stress.  And, we can, therefore, miss a rich opportunity for improvement to ultimately impact our health and well-being.

Until…..  a crisis hits, and feelings of overwhelm are an understatement.

The reality check of a crisis can really push us to the limit, as we are drawn into survival mode, with its own set of dynamics.  It forces us to re-examine our priorities.  Unless we value our wellbeing enough to prepare in advance….. without hitting the wall first…..

Our recent snowstorm here in the Northeast was a great opportunity for me to appreciate all I’ve gained in my ability to handle the tough stuff, as well as discover that, well, let’s just say….. I still have a little work to do……

My home can quickly become inaccessible in poor weather.  That’s bad enough, without also considering: a dairy herd, barns, equipment, two homes (father-in-law next door), and a nearly-96 legally blind grandfather living alone 20 minutes away.  Add in: being a one-person business with no paid time off, and no way to recoup lost client time.

My husband and his aging dad run the farm.  I mostly watch, encourage, and empathize, occasionally handling the dumb end of a shovel, or trying to look imposing while running around waving my arms and yelling (usually to chase cows, sometimes to flag down one of the guys … marginally effective at either). But, when there’s a crisis, I’m often called upon to “girl-up”.

Back to the snowfall, and overwhelm.

It seems like everything needs to be done at once in the morning.  Starting stubborn diesel tractors.  Creating access for the milk truck to pick up our milk (luckily – every other day).  Plowing space in the field to spread manure.  Clearing the manure collection area for the wagon and tractor.  Breaking free the frozen barn cleaner.   Clearing the barnyard so the cows can go out so the guys can clean the barn, or exit in an emergency.  Monitoring roof loads.

In the meantime, water bowls must be thawed so the cows can drink (equivalent of a bathtub of water a day), and silos unfrozen and cleared so feed can be put out.  Then, birthing happens…..

Waiting patiently are the houses, roofs, vents and chimneys, driveways, etc.  Not to mention, access to, and fueling of, the outdoor wood furnace. If lucky, we find our vehicles and clear them off.  All while praying we don’t have an emergency or breakdown……

Not done. I still need to check on my grandfather and his home (as well as other family), cancel and re-schedule appointments, hope my office is still accessible and intact, and remember to eat, drink, bathe, sleep, etc……  Get my drift?  Yes, a pun.

Overwhelm? Definitely.

Overwhelm.  Where do I begin dealing?

Better question: where do you begin?

Here are 5 tips I find useful, and share with my clients, for dealing with overwhelm:

  1. Notice how you’re feeling, and tend to your self-care first.  You’re no good to anyone if, well, you’re no good.  Right?
  2. Be present and mindful, “in the moment” to stay focused, clear, and open to what you really need to know.  Listen to your heart, and gut. Then, you’re more likely to notice important changes, and respond appropriately.
  3. Prioritize calmly, objectively, yet intuitively.  Obviously, a crisis necessitates different prioritizing than daily stress management.  Remember, knowing your values is key in setting priorities that keep stress under control, and get you through a crisis. Let your heart and mind partner-up.
  4. Break tasks into smaller steps, focusing on what you’re doing, not on what else is still waiting for you.   Acknowledge your progress and stamina along the way.
  5. Find a silver lining.  Some joy, accomplishment, awareness, experience.  Try to have fun, and appreciate something or someone…..
What overwhelm?

Birdwatching in the sunny, warm window.  Art, skill, both? Or, just adorable?

I find times of overwhelm are excellent opportunities to remember what is REALLY important to me.  It’s a time to bolster my self-care, be in the moment, acknowledge myself for the small things, find pleasure and joy in the simple things, feel connected to something Greater, and be grateful.

One thing that stands out for me, too, in a crisis, is pulling together in community.  Nothing is more heartwarming to me than seeing everyone do and BE their best to help each other and make the world go ’round.  How about you?

Needing support in times of overwhelm, or managing stress? Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session.   We’ll hop on the phone for about 30-40 minutes and get you on your way! Talk with you soon!

 

 

You shouldn't lose weight

Why You Shouldn’t Lose Weight

I often have requests for help with weight loss.  The first thing that comes to mind when I hear that is: “you shouldn’t lose weight”.

Why you shouldn’t lose weight….

Did you know your non-conscious mind automatically takes action to help you find something you lost?   So, if you lose weight, your non-conscious mind will naturally try to help you find it and get it back……. Hence, you shouldn’t “lose” weight.

And, when focusing on weight loss, where’s your focus?  On the excess weight?  We know from the Law of Attraction, you get more of what you are focused on….  excess weight.

You shouldn't lose weightAdditionally, deciding to “lose weight” can set you up for feeling guilty and upset with yourself, especially if your head is in charge. You may have an ideal diet, size and weight in mind.  All numbers, and very heady.  And, if your head is in charge, you may be setting yourself up for failure because you are missing the underlying issues.  Your heart is what really provides the momentum to carry you to your destination. Your head should follow your heart’s lead for optimal success.

When your head’s in charge, you’re likely relying on willpower to get your through.  “Willpower” is really just saying “no”. “NO” doesn’t work well.  Why not set yourself up to succeed from the beginning by creating the right environment, and having the right internal momentum to maintain your progress and deal with guilt that arises?

Your heart needs to be in it, and your mind needs to be open….

Powerful invitation: adjust your thinking.

Consider “releasing” weight, i.e., that which no longer serves you, vs. “losing” weight that your non-conscious will then try to help you recover.  Let it go to where it best serves, wherever that may be, which is beyond you.

Focus on what you REALLY want, and you will have more success.  What you REALLY want IS NOT a certain weight, or a certain size, or even a certain look.  Nope.  Your motivators for any change are the feelings you will have when you acquire or achieve those “externals”.  Feelings come from the heart, not the head…..  Transformational coaching 101.  Just sayin’.

You should aim for balance, you shouldn't lose weight

Your weight’s a result of many complex interrelated factors.

It’s important to get to all of the underlying issues to achieve your ideal healthy weight.  Genetics, physiology, diet, lifestyle, emotional factors, other health issues, medications, etc. are some of the factors that play a part.

If your weight’s an issue for you, I invite you to expand your perspective.  Assess yourself and your life holistically. What is out of balance?  Commit to restoring balance, and your health as a result.  Your weight will follow.

You shouldn’t lose weight.  Aim for balance in your life for optimal health.

If you wish to begin addressing your weight by focusing on your food intake, check out: “Put Your Best Fork Forward”.  Or, “Enjoy the Taste of Eating Right”.

Your answers ARE within you.

Everything I do with my clients is based upon the idea that within each of us there is wisdom that is guiding us to become who we are designed perfectly to BE.  Learning to tune in to that Inner Wisdom of the body/mind can help you discern what’s holding you back and blocking you, and choose what’s best for you going forward.

It’s about living intuitively.  It’s neither hocus-pocus, nor saved for the “special ones”.  Living intuitively IS in your design.  That applies to living your life in all respects, which is ultimately interrelated with your health and well-being.  Being your ideal healthy weight is no different.

If you’d like more help living intuitively for a balanced life and well-being, just click here to apply for a complimentary Discovery Session, and we’ll set up a time to talk.

I see your Light!  I see your Greatness! Do you?

Create More Energy In Your Life

Would you like to create more energy in your life?

If so, you are not alone.  Feeling depleted, and/or unmotivated, is not uncommon in today’s world.

If your energy is seriously lacking, you should first consult with your healthcare practitioner to properly address any serious underlying health conditions.

Lacking physical energy, motivation, or both?

It’s helpful clarify whether you are lacking physical energy, motivation, or both, so you can seek the underlying causes more efficiently.  Physical energy and motivation go hand in hand, but one aspect may stand out for you more.

Knowing which you are dealing with can help you more efficiently identify the underlying causes and choose long-term solutions.

Understand that Life is the Flow of Energy.

Quantum physics now says we are made of energy, not matter (read more here).  That understanding can help you further determine how your energy is moving, and what to change.

Create More Energy - follow your heart

To Create More Energy, Consider:

  1. Whether your energy is flowing too freely and leaking from you.  
    Some examples of this include giving to situations that do not serve you, and being in unhealthy relationships that chronically drain you.
  2. Your energy may be “stuck” and unavailable.  
    Some examples of this are health issues, tension, pain, and stress.  All of this ties in with your beliefs and mindset as well.  Where are you blocking yourself from reaching your full potential, living and loving unconditionally?Address your health issues, shift your beliefs, adjust your mindset. Open to your worth. Receive. Relax and de-stress.
  3. You may be spending your energy in ways that don’t serve you.  
    Fear-based choices of the Ego drain you, vs. love-infused heart-felt choices that motivate and sustain you. Giving of yourself conditionally (i.e., with unrealistic expectations) could also be a drain. Avoid negative situations, including news, people, etc.Are your fears realistic?  Can you shift them to take off the edge and allow yourself to follow your heart (which is fueled by Source energy: unconditional LOVE)?  Are your activities ones you enjoy, and supportive of your Soul’s intentions for this lifetime?
  4. Refuel.
    create more energy with healthy foodThis boils down to receiving sufficiently from Source, whether that means prayer, and spiritual connection, or general self-care and nourishment. Quality food, hydration, sleep, rest, meditation, and exercise are also ways of refueling from Source energy.  If nothing else, in the moment, breathe deeply to relax and refresh.
  5. Maintain balance between giving and receiving, as well as doing and being.  
    This should be self-explanatory. Input and output must be equal, right?

Spend Your Time Wisely to Create More Energy.

Managing your time wisely, and maintaining a balanced life are both important in maintaining your energy.  If you need refreshers, re-visit my previous articles: “Mastering Time Management for Greater Fulfillment” and “Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being”.

Nothing will change unless you are aware that there is a problem, decide and commit to taking action, and follow-through.  A doable plan is helpful.  Where might you start?

Create more energy with good self careRemember, mindset is everything.  A positive outlook can help maintain your commitment and determination as you create more energy in your life.

Above all, be gentle with yourself.  Change takes time.

Can’t Do it Alone?

Need an objective professional to help you create a clear plan, and stay on track?  Click here and apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today.  If I accept your application (I only have a limited number of spots each month), we will schedule a time to hop on the phone and get you on your way!

Create a balanced life for fulfillment and well-being

Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being

Do you desire a more balanced life, but feel stuck when it comes to creating one?

A balanced life means something different to everyone.  What would a balanced life look and feel like to you?

To me, it means feeling calm, grounded, clear, focused, and on-track with a sense of connection, purpose, and meaning.  It also means having a handle on your life without being pulled too much in one direction.

How do you know if your life is out of balance?

Only you truly know how you are feeling and what you are thinking.  Being honest with yourself, listening to, and heeding those persistent whispers calling for change, before they become shouts, will help you find balance.

What is your Inner Guidance telling you?  Is it whispering “imbalance” to you through feelings of stress, discontent, agitation, being spread thin, and/or irritability? Fatigue? Depression? Health issues?  Simply a persistent desire for things to be different?

If you are experiencing any of the above, ask yourself if there are certain areas in your life needing more, or even less, attention.

Where do you start?

Assess if you have a balanced lifeAssess your life, state of mind, and how you are feeling.  Where would you like to feel more balance? What are you neglecting?

Would you like more balance among:

  • Doing vs. being
  • Giving vs. receiving
  • Being responsible, vs. being care-free
  • Being alone vs. with others?

Delving a little deeper, do you feel balanced in time and energy spent on your inner vs. your external world?

Inner World:

  • mind/thoughts,
  • emotional life,
  • spiritual life, and
  • physical health and wellbeing

External World:

  • work life,
  • social life,
  • family life, and
  • recreation/fun time

Are you so focused on the activities of life that you are unaware of what is going on inside of you?  Conversely, are you so focused on what is going on within you that you are missing out on living life?

Going deeper…..

You may feel balanced between those two main areas, but desire to balance out the aspects within one or the other. For example, you may feel a need to spend less time thinking, and more time feeling, and connecting to spirit.

Within one or more of those aspects you may desire more balance. For example in the aspect of family, you may desire greater balance between fulfilling family responsibilities and creating healthy boundaries.

Spending time and energy in any of these ways can be positive.  However, excess in any one area can turn that positive into something detrimental to your well-being in the end.

Living a balanced life decreases stress, improves health, and increases well-being.

A balanced life is less stressful and healthier

How do you find your balance?

Knowing what values you hold close to your heart is key in creating a balanced life.  Ultimately, it is the value within that you instinctively seek in your most fulfilling choices. Do what you love.

I teach my clients a process to get their head out of the way, and listen to what their hearts value. Choosing to spend their time and energy in ways that embody those heart-held values helps reduce stress, and increase their fulfillment.

Make a list of your values, and verify that the ways you spend the majority of your time and energy embody those values. Are your values present or absent in the aspects of your life in which you have chosen to create more balance?

How do you create a balanced life?

Commit to being balanced, and embodying that commitment in every decision.

Set intentions.

Make a plan.  Identify tasks needed to achieve your intentions daily, weekly, monthly, annually.  Start with small, baby-step changes.  Then, when you start seeing results, its easier to maintain and build momentum.

Make time to check in with yourself and reassess on a daily basis.  Notice what has and hasn’t worked.  What changes, if any, do you choose to make?

Empower yourself ahead of time to thwart the negative voices and challenges.

Know ahead of time what inner stuff will get in your way so you can be prepared when the resistance rears its head.  It always does.

Know:

  • how you stayed focused in the past when you accomplished the most important things
  • what you need to remember to overcome those worries, fears, doubts, anxieties, and self-sabotaging thoughts
  • how it felt to have succeeded despite the parts of yourself that had a difficult time
  • what you need to tell those parts of yourself
  • how to be kind to yourself so that being balanced feels good

Connect with someone who can be your cheerleader, witness, and support person to keep you focused, supported, motivated.

If you feel you could use an objective professional to fill the gaps your friends can’t in supporting you, consider working with a transformational life coach.  Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session to see if this may be a dynamic resource for you.

A balanced life

As with any change, it takes time and practice to create new habits.

Give yourself a minimum of 3 months to establish new habits and patterns.  If you stay on track with this intentional process for that long, chances are good you will create lasting new habits and feel more balanced and fulfilled going forward.

 

Mastering TIme Management for Fulfillment

Mastering Time Management for Greater Fulfillment

Are you good at mastering time management to bring your Soul Intentions into your life, or could you use a little help?

Do you, like many of my clients, find yourself feeling scattered, spread thin; and/or lacking the focus and organization needed to using your time well?

Or are you are good at mastering time management, falling asleep at night feeling satisfied with your day?

If  you the latter is you, great!  But, if that isn’t you, read on…..

Need a little help? Here are some tips for mastering time management.

  1. Align your actions with your values.  This is a big key to using your time in a way that feels effective, efficient, and satisfying. Otherwise, you will feel drained, resentful, reluctant (i.e., procrastinating) and/or overwhelmed.
  2. Know, and give priority to, what you value most, i.e. what is in your heart. If you listen only to your head, you will be following those draining “shoulds” and “musts” with no momentum and fuel from your best motivator – your heart.
  3. Know what motivates you to create new, lasting habits and patterns. Again, this is another critical step in my work with coaching clients.
  4. Be organized.

Another big key to mastering time management is…..

Organization.

Many people I work with are admittedly stellar procrastinators, easily distracted, unable to see the bigger picture, unable to see the details in the bigger picture, and/or unable to sort the details and map out their day in a satisfying, manageable way.

Sound familiar?

So, how do you organize your time?

  1. Make list of tasks to be completed. Some do this at night for the next day.
  2. Verify that your tasks align with, or embody at least one of your core values.   If a task doesn’t ask yourself if you REALLY need to do it….. You may be surprised at the answer.
  3. Set your priorities based upon life-sustaining tasks; time sensitivity and deadlines; and those things that you feel most ready, willing and able to do.
  4. Make schedule. Some find it helpful to do this at night for the next day.
    • Schedule time for those big time consumers such as checking email, social media, messages, etc. Yes, some of those ARE important, but I bet you can easily get lost in them, too…..  You know what I mean.
    • Break your day, and tasks, into small manageable 15-50 minute increments, depending upon the task.
    • Schedule breaks every 50 minutes.

Tips for Success and Momentum:

  1. As you complete a segment of your schedule, acknowledge your progress for a sense of accomplishment to build upon.
  2. Use your breaks to refuel, i.e. time to BE, vs. doing, doing, doing.
  3. If you must “DO” on a break, do something that will feel good to complete, but doesn’t require as much of you – fold a little laundry, dust a shelf, pick up a small area, put something away that has been waiting for its home.

Your time is your most precious resource.

You can’t get it back, until you master time travel, which is beyond the scope of this article….

How can you make the most of your time, if you aren’t clear on what is most valuable to you?

And, how can you spend it wisely if you aren’t organized once you have your priorities clear?

I can help you find what is REALLY in your heart, and manage your time in bringing it to life.  Apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today to discover how to make the most of your most precious resource.  Make your time count!

In my next article I will give you some tips for mastering time management at the next level: creating a more balanced life.