The Power Within You

The POWER Within You

You have the POWER within you to create your health, and your life.  You can awaken to it, and align with it. It is waiting for you.

Granted, opinions vary as to how much you can create, and how much is destiny, fate, pre-determined, etc. Regardless, you can control how you view your circumstances, and the choice of where you place your focus.  And, you can improve upon that skill with practice.

The Ability of Your Conscious Mind

The ability of your conscious mind differs from the subconscious and unconscious minds in 2 key ways:

  1. It is able to direct your focus.
  2. It is able to imagine something that is not real.

You can use these abilities of your to help re-write the obsolete programs that are holding you back in your subconscious and unconscious minds.

The Key to the POWER Within You

This ability to re-program and train your subconscious and unconscious minds is a key part of the power within you to create your health, and your life.

You can learn to think, act, and respond differently.  You can help update the “knowledge base” of that primal, survival part of you so it “knows” which threats are “REALLY tigers”, and which ones aren’t.  You can make new choices to think and act differently with new awareness.  Thus, you stress less and improve your quality of life.

In other words, you are RESPONSE-able for your health, and your life, by choosing to respond, think, and act differently.  You can BE differently.

The power within you is the key to changing your mind

The Superconscious Mind

We also speak of the Superconscious Mind.  This is considered to be that part that transcends the normal human conscious mind, and would be referred to as the experience of a spiritual consciousness, God-consciousness, Christ-consciousness, etc.

I think of the Superconscious as “MIND”,  greater than myself, something I can’t control or change, yet with which I can partner, align, and co-create.  In other words, I see that as the aspect of “mind” that decides or creates destiny, fate, the non-free will aspects of my being.

The Superconscious Mind is the part over which you have no control, but which creates you, LOVES you unconditionally, which you can embrace, and with which you can partner and align to live On-Purpose.

The power within you includes the Superconscious Mind

You Are Response-Able

You DO have the ability to change your perspective and outlook.  It is easier for some than for others, yes.  Focusing on the positive alone does not necessarily change what is happening in the sub-/non-conscious minds, but it is a start.

There are many ways to address those old programs helping to erase and re-pattern them into something empowering and useful.  First, you have to know they are there, and determine whether or not they are serving you well.  If not, you are RESPONSE-able – you can choose to heal them and grow, or keep them…..

You Have the Power Within You

As I have said before, those patterns exist not just as energy in the form of thoughts, but also as energy, processes, and patterns of tension and being in your body as well.  They create changes in your tissues and organs in response to your thoughts as filtered through your beliefs.  Remember? That is how they influence your health, pain, etc.

The resulting physical health and life changes depend upon the nature of your thoughts and beliefs. This is explained and exemplified very well in the concept of chakras, as well as Louise Hay’s work and something for future articles.

You have the power within you to change

You have the power within you to change….

A Wholistic Approach Uses the Power Within You

The more engrained the patterns are into the fabric of who you are, the more beneficial it is to utilize a wholistic approach to addressing them in mind, body, and spirit. This is where the field of mind-body medicine comes into play with concepts set forth by such leaders as Carolyn Myss, Donna Eden, Barbara Brennan, Mona Lisa Schulz, Christine Page, Anodea Judith, Louise Hay, and others. A wholistic approach uses the power within you to create change.

I have found combining craniosacral therapy with the tools and concepts of transformational coaching, including meditation and guided imagery, invaluable in my own journey.  That is why I love using those in my practice with others.

Those transformational coaching and craniosacral therapy have helped reveal and release the patterns that are meant to change exactly when, at the rate, and in the way, that is best for me.  They do that organically, naturally, by tapping in to my inherent healing capacity.

You Have the Ability….

You have the ability to change your journey, change your course, just like the captain of a ship. You may need to give new orders.  You may need to re-train your crew to work in new ways.  You also may need to give them new tools and resources.

You have the power within you to choose

You have the power within you to choose….

As with any seasoned captain and crew, there is a gut instinct available to follow.  That gut instinct is your inner sense about how to best follow the course.  That course is also your healing journey.

You have an inherent capacity to heal yourself, don’t you? Wouldn’t it therefore make sense to support and resource that capacity? That capacity IS your POWER and potential.

Therefore, you have the POWER within you to create your life and health.

We will take a closer look at nature’s healing gifts and your inner wisdom in my next post.

The power within you includes nature's gifts

Nature has gifted you the power within you……

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How does your mind work?

How Does Your Mind Work?

How does your mind work?  What are its different aspects? How do they work together to create your reality?

Having answers to these questions about your mind can help you be healthier, happier, and more confident.

Did you know that you are unaware of 90-95% of what goes on in your mind?  You live and exist primarily in your conscious mind, which is the part of your mind of which you ARE aware.  It gives the orders, like the captain of a ship.  It is also that part of you that you tend to identify with as being “me”.

Your conscious mind communicates to your inner self and the outer world through speech, pictures, writing, physical movement, and thought. But, did you know that it is only about 5-10% of your brain activity? I bet it seems much larger than that, doesn’t it?

An estimated 50-60% of your brain capacity is what is called subconscious or preconscious.  Your subconscious mind is in charge of your recent memories, and is in continuous contact with the resources of your unconscious mind.

Your unconscious mind is the remaining 30-40% of your brain capacity.  All memories and past experiences, including repressed trauma, and those simply consciously forgotten or no longer important to you, are stored in the unconscious.   Your beliefs, habits, and behaviors are formed from those memories and experiences.

Your unconscious and conscious mind are in constant communication with each other via your subconscious.  Your unconscious mind provides you with meaning in all of your experiences in the world as they are filtered through your beliefs and habits. You perceive your unconscious mind through your feelings, emotions, imagination, sensations, and your dreams.

To Summarize:

A ship’s captain may give the orders, but it is the crew that actually carries them out.  They do their best based on previous experience and training.  Your subconscious and deeper unconscious minds are YOUR crew.  They are what is actually driving and running YOU.  You follow?

The aspects of your mind


5-10% of brain capacity = conscious mind – speech, pictures, writing, physical movement, thought. Your “captain”.

50-60% of brain capacity = subconscious a.k.a. preconscious – information stored for quick recall;  recent memories, information  currently in use – phone numbers, names; recurring thoughts, behavior patterns, habits, feelings. Your “crew”.

30-40% of brain capacity = unconscious mind; long term storage of memories and habits, patterns, etc. Your “crew”.

The information stored in your unconscious and subconscious is essentially the equivalent of programming in your computer.  They receive input from the world around you and your conscious mind, run that input through their programming, and create responses based upon the programming.  The programming began long, long ago….. and can be updated – though not necessarily easily.

Their “goal” is to keep you safe and ensure your survival based upon all of the input you receive.  They are assessing the level of threat to your survival and creating needed responses and changes accordingly. If “it worked in the past”, i.e., you survived, their logic says “it” will get you through similar situations again using the same means.

However, Their Priority IS Survival, Not Quality of Life.

Their primary function is a very primitive instinct built within you, with no regard to how misguided, or painful, or unhelpful the outcome is to you in the world.  Thriving, and enjoying a quality life are something that develops with training and experience, i.e. additional programming.  We will get to that in a future post.

Remember that stress results when there is a perceived threat to your survival.  The resulting stress response in your body favors functions needed short term to survive at the expense of those associated with long term thriving.  This creates dis-ease, premature aging, and a host of problems when it becomes chronic, i.e. your “norm”.

Your survival depends upon direction, coordination, and regulation of many bodily functions by your non-conscious mind.   In other words, the crew of your ship is constantly reading various gages, and making adjustments as needed to keep your ship working.  This includes such things as your heart beat, respiration, digestive functions, hormone production, blood sugar regulation, elimination, blinking your eyes, swallowing, immune system functions, temperature regulation, sleep/wake cycle regulation, etc.

Your ship can continue to sail, whether in rough seas, or simply a course you neither love nor enjoy.  Light winds and calm waters wear on it less…..

Sailing a course for which it is not designed may damage it.

If you are not the right captain with the skills, knowledge and talent for the course you are following, you may also be giving the crew orders that are detrimental to your ship, too.  They may have trouble following your orders if they weren’t adequately trained, talented, prepared.


Different ships have different purposes….. Using the right boat for the right application is only part of the challenge. You are YOU-niquely qualified to operate a certain boat on a certain course and straying from that too far can create dis-ease, stress, and other problems. For what are you designed?

And, if you are attempting to use the ship for something other than its designed/intended Purpose, aren’t you also in trouble potentially?
is your mind charting a course for pleasure? what's your mind designed to do? what's your mind prepared to do?

What's weighing on your mind?

Much of this is actually difficult to empirically prove, and has been debated and contested over the years, but has become a largely accepted model that serves many very well.

You are the captain of your ship.

Is your ship designed to do what you are directing it to do?  Are you sailing it according to its innate Purpose?  Or, are you pushing its limits?

Or, perhaps it is sailing at less than its full potential….. Or, maybe it hasn’t left the dock yet…..? What’s it costing you wasting its potential?

Are you “qualified” to direct your ship in the way you are sailing? Is your course aligned with your gifts, traits, talents, and experience? Is your mission aligned with the design of your ship?

All of this relates to what is YOU-nique to you.  How you have been you-niquely designed, and what you are potentially able change or influence to change your reality.  It is about being respons-ABLE, not about blaming yourself.  As a human you are subject to the human condition.

I leave you with those thoughts for now.  We will explore the implications of all of this in relation to your ability to change your journey in future posts.

Here’s to Smooth Sailing!

How does YOUR mind work? What is going on beneath the surface in you?

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Mind-Body Continuum

Mind-Body Continuum

What do I mean “mind-body continuum”?

We often talk of the mind-body connection, as if mind and body are separate, but I have come to think it as a continuum: mind=body. Different aspects of the same……

This is similar to how vapor and ice are different states of water.  As the kinetic energy, i.e., energy of motion, within changes, so does the physical state of the water.   In the right set of circumstances, all states could exist at the “same time, same place”.

Your Mind Is Your Body like water is ice

I find this “mind-body continuum” model better serves me in understanding how “I work”, in managing my life and health, and in working with my clients.  I suspect it can serve you well, too.

Explaining “Your Mind is Your Body”…. Mind=Body

Let’s assume for argument’s sake here that it is true, as quantum physics now says is proven, that you (like everything) ARE energy (the scientific debates around this kind of do require a degree in rocket science to understand……). Matter = physical substance, i.e., your body.  Matter IS energy. It is simply energy in a very condensed state, which behaves in its own ways.  Like ice is very condensed water vapor and behaves differently than water vapor….  And, the water can contain other substances and components.

Wouldn’t you typically say thoughts are energy, not matter? They have a vibration, a quality that lifts you up, brings you down, or is somewhere between – neutral.

But wouldn’t you also agree that they also fuel creativity, whether it be the next greatest invention, dinner this evening, or peace in the world.  Aren’t the thoughts that created those things still embodied in those things?

When you think of “mind”, don’t you think of “thoughts”?  Your mind is thoughts, memories, etc.

Thoughts with that have a connection to feelings also make you calm, nervous, laugh, or even cry. They fuel responses in your body to make you sit up, run, stand, walk, etc.

Talking, laughing, relaxing, crying are all your body in motion, a state of being.  What if that were the same as water being liquid, snow, or ice based on the conditions, i.e. the “thought” at the time….?

What if it is thought, a function of “mind”, that is creating your body?  All of your body as you know it…… In other words, what if your body still embodies the thoughts that created it.

Suppose some of that “thought” creating you, is higher, bigger, greater than what you think of as “you”, or your conscious mind/Ego/intellect?  Even bigger than your subconscious mind…. What if that bigger, higher, greater “MIND” is what is meant by the term “superconscious”?

I am using these terms simply to represent an idea, a neutral conceptual framework for contemplation. It is not intended to have any affiliation with any spiritual or religious beliefs, and is intended to neither support nor negate any such beliefs.   These are paradigms that we are contemplating, exploring, researching, each in our own way.  The term “superconscious” can be substituted with the term for your higher power, for example.

What if you, and Life as you know it, are simply a beautiful, complex, awesome THOUGHT based in the superconscious MIND?

Why Do I Share the “Mind-Body Continuum” With You?

Why do I continue living my deep desire to inspire you to think out of the box, and open your heart to new possibilities?

For one thing, this IS what finally changed my life and health for the better when:

  • a traditional medical model alone did not help
  • that medical model not only didn’t feel like the “right fit”, it actually could have made me worse
  • that medical model disempowered me
  • I had no idea that it was time for a change in my life, until I listened to the now louder whispers of my non-conscious mind
  • I discovered “I” indeed had way more to do with what was happening than I realized
  • I realized how the past was still actually “my present” in unresolved patterns and emotional responses
  • I feared my condition would continue to worsen, and I may become disabled
  • I knew my life would lack meaning if I didn’t have the opportunity to bring the same awesome, life-changing awareness and opportunities to others

Another reason I persist?  I have already done the work, the learning curve, the trial and error, and I can save others from tripping over themselves, wasting valuable time and money trying to find their solutions. Not only can I help them find relief from their symptoms,  I can help them get to the roots of their problems so they have TRUE lasting change.

The information out there is vast, and it can be challenging to digest it all.  I can help you cut to the chase, take control of your life and health, get to the roots of your issues, dig for those pearls of wisdom in your stress and pain, and live your second chapter on your terms.  You CAN live your healthiest, best life yet.

Our beliefs influence our perceptions.  They can be limiting, or open us to new possibilities.  And, they tend to find evidence to reinforce themselves, unless we are willing to open ourselves to new ideas when the old ones aren’t working.  If you are stressed, your old ideas aren’t working…..

Mind-Body Continuum

Going Deeper into the Mind-Body Continuum

In my next article I will dig deeper into the different aspects of the mind, and the roles they play.  I trust that it will make this concept of the mind-body continuum even more intriguing, and understandable…..

In the meantime, I do believe you have enough to think about for now……

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unresolved emotional issues create energy cysts

Unresolved Emotional Issues Can Cause Health Problems

unresolved emotional issuesDid you know that unresolved emotional issues can cause health problems? And, did you know that your beliefs play a part in those unresolved issues?

When you experience anything, you have thoughts about your experience or situation, whether or not you are aware of them.  Your thoughts are filtered through your beliefs to determine the degree to which you are safe (vs. threatened).  That degree of perceived safety creates feelings, such as fear, terror, rage, anger, happiness, joy, bliss, gratitude, awe, etc.

The greater the perceived threat, the greater the (negative) stress response – fight, flee, freeze – to survive the “danger”. Your system’s default is to help you survive.

Your body’s stress response is intended to escape/survive a short term threat, then return to thriving.  The stress response tends to support inflammation, and is not healthy when it becomes chronic, or your “norm”.

Your physiological responses to stress are the same no matter what causes them.   They are primitive responses that were intended to escape the proverbial tiger.

tiger chasing youAre you being chased by tigers regularly?  Probably not real ones.  But, your body doesn’t know the difference.  Running late for your day, trying to be 6 places at once, getting a speeding ticket, having a bad hair day, forgetting to pick up the dry cleaning for tomorrow, multi-tasking while the dog gives you “sad eyes”, worrying about retirement, and hating work, are all stressful. They ARE your modern-day tigers.  And, your physiological response is still the same, varying by degree depending on how significant (i.e., threatening) your stressor is to you.

You process thoughts all the time about your situation, whether or not you are aware of them.  Those thoughts trigger feelings, which trigger emotional physiological responses.

Unresolved emotional issues exist, in part, because of your beliefs about your situation at the time, and your resulting ability to process the situation.  They are a stress response that becomes your “norm” when you are not able to resolve them.


What happens when you experience something that leaves an emotional mark?  Your belief about what is happening triggers a response in you, remember?  Perhaps you are simply too young to process what happened in an emotionally mature, resourced way.  Perhaps the situation was traumatic or overwhelming, and at the time your physical survival was on the line, channeling your resources to simply staying alive.  To survive, you coped, compensated, and moved on, losing sight of the emotional aspect of the event.  Or, maybe you were just human, very sensitive, and are still “hanging on to it”, whatever it was…..

That energy of the unresolved feeling, that patterned response, is still within you to some degree.  It is like fireworks going off continually within a bag.  Bumping, wearing, tearing, burning, hurting.  Inflaming.  Setting the stage for dis-ease.

And, every unresolved similar experience you have had since layers upon that, and adds to it.  More fireworks in the bag.

unresolved emotional issues create energy cystsWhen those fireworks are focused in a particular area of the body, craniosacral therapists call it an “energy cyst”.  It also may manifest as a tension pattern in the fascia, muscles, and organs, especially if there was a physical injury at the time of the event. It is like a dent in your car.

It actually can disrupt the fluidity, movement, and function of the tissues, glands, and organs involved.   It interferes the flow of fluids.  The disruption from the unresolved emotional issue and tension creates dysfunction, chronic pain, and limited range of motion.

Stress adds more layers and further complicates things.

Think back to the last time you had an ache or a pain that bothered you enough to remedy it.  Maybe a stiff neck.  Maybe a sore back.  Remember the list of “causes” you contemplated: “Did I sleep on it wrong?  Do I need a new pillow?  Did I lift or twist wrong?  Did I over-do it on the ski slope, or in the garden?  (Or….. the infamous “its old age catching up to me”..).”

Or, perhaps, it has been a chronic problem since that time you fell off your bike, slipped on the stairs, were in that fender-bender, or had that baby. Maybe it has been with you since you were in the womb……

unresolved emotional issues can create health problemsDid you contemplate the insults, injuries, slips, falls and accidents that have built up over the years and how those unresolved issues may be impacting you?  Your physical injuries may not have completely healed no matter how you handled it emotionally, but they also may not have completely healed BECAUSE of how you handled it emotionally.

Did you ask yourself what stresses you, and what the beliefs are that are causing that stress?

Of the hundreds of clients I have had in the 15 years I have been doing bodywork,  I have never had anyone say to me that the possible cause of their pain or health issues may have been a belief they had.  They may have gone so far as to say it is stress, but they stopped there.  As if that is the norm, and there is nothing to do about it but relax for a while.  AND, then go back to living the same way…. Lather, rinse, repeat.

I used to be the same way.  I didn’t know better then, either.  It is the way we are raised.

It isn’t how I live now.  I always look at my Inner World.  Always.


It isn’t your kids’ fault for asking too much of you.   It is what you believe about saying yes/no.  It isn’t your spouse’s fault because they left their dirty socks on the floor.  It is what you believe about the dirty socks being left.  It is the choices you make, even when you say you “have no choice”.   It is your Inner World……  Follow me?  You can control that, but not THEM. Notice, I didn’t say it was easy, though.

If you really want to stop the pain, stress, and health issues, you need to get to the roots of it.  You need to release the unresolved emotional energy.  You need to address the underlying beliefs.  Make sense?

And, by the way, surgery to remove the painful part doesn’t release that energy……  Neither do pain killers.  Can you guess if muscle relaxants do?  Nope.  These are all symptomatic treatment, which may be necessary, but don’t address the roots of the problem.


Inflammation is considered a precursor of disease.  While it is a necessary and natural part of the healing process, you don’t want too much of it.

Negative emotions contribute to inflammation, where as positive ones reduce it.

Do you know what the most positive of all human emotions is?  If you guessed awe, you’d be correct.  It is the most positive based on its association with the lowest levels of Interleukin-6, an inflammatory marker ( ). In other words, it helps reduce inflammation more that the other positive emotions.

As I said in my last article, focusing on positive thoughts doesn’t mean the negative thoughts don’t exist in the background.  It would be the same as saying what is behind you, i.e. out of your line of sight, in this very moment isn’t there.

Spending time thinking and feeling positively is still beneficial to your health.  The question is, how much of that do you need to do to off-set what is going on negatively in the background? Is that realistic and attainable? Do you still want that old tape running beneath the surface?

What obsolete beliefs and unresolved emotional issues can cause you health problems? What lives within your Inner World waiting to be resolved?

You can only handle so much at one time.  You are human, and it is natural to resist change when it requires you to step outside of your comfort zone.  And, it may be way more comfortable being uncomfortable.

You may not be ready to accept dirty socks as the new floor covering.  And, that’s ok.  As long as you are aware of what is going on, and choosing the best you can for yourself at the time.  Or, maybe you are trying let it be “ok”, but you just can’t seem to….yet.  Being aware is different than not having a clue.

It is also possible that whatever lies beneath the surface eludes your conscious memory because it was too painful to recall, or you were too young.  It may have happened before you were born.  That’s ok, too.

You still can release it, and the unresolved emotional issues that go with it, whatever it is.  You can take a step toward better health.


The older you are, the more likely you are to have unresolved emotional issues.  It is a part of life.

You may or may not be aware of them. You may have thought you were “so done with that” and moved on.  You may not have realized how something has impacted you.  You may be aware of those difficult moments, and your challenges dealing with them.

Do you have chronic stress?  Chronic pain?  Health issues?  Anxiety?  Depression?  Difficulty sleeping?  Low energy?  If you answered “yes” to any of these, you may have unresolved emotional issues.

There are many ways to address unresolved emotional issues, each having pros and cons.  You should determine which is best for you and your particular situation.  The important thing is to make an informed decision, and DO something.  The longer you wait, the more layers will be added on, and the more difficult it can be to get to the bottom of them.

A holistic approach encompasses all aspects of the unresolved situation – body, mind, spirit.  Some approaches are not holistic.

I love, and use, craniosacral therapy and transformational coaching, especially when together as a Well-Being Program. They helped me, and others, when nothing else did. They are not intended to substitute for necessary medical or psychological care, but can suffice or complement when you are well resourced.

These holistic approaches get beneath the surface, without using the same mind that created the problem to solve it.  They go deeper to help the energy move out that needs to, releasing those energy cysts, releasing the tissue tension, transforming obsolete patterns into empowering ones. And, because we are working with the energy of the situation, and the non-conscious mind, you don’t need to know, or necessarily recall the details.

Now that you know unresolved emotional issues can cause health problems, and your beliefs contribute to that, what will you do differently?

How can I help you today?  Contact me for a consultation to determine how we may work together to help you attain optimal health by releasing and transforming unresolved emotional issues, obsolete beliefs, and chronic tension patterns.

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I see your Light!  I see your Greatness!  Have an awesome day!

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BTW, my girl Adrienne Cow arrived safely at Farm Sanctuary on Thursday April 7, 2016.  She was greeted by giant Jay, and given a warm welcome (sorry for the grainy quality):

Spring Cleaning with Fireworks – for Your Inner Child


Its Spring here in the Northern Hemisphere, a time when we naturally feel inspired to clean and organize.

Usually, that cleaning takes place in our external worlds: home, car, office, etc.

What about your internal world?  Your internal mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual world can benefit from cleansing, too.  It gets clogged and dirty naturally despite your good intentions.  And, how often do you say “NO” to the garbage being dumped into it?

Some people choose to fast, and/or do a liver cleanse at this time.  That is a good start (and should only be done when working with a qualified healthcare provider).

Taking stock of your thoughts and feelings can be helpful as well.  This requires being aware, brutally honest, and courageous enough to “go there”.  It can be a rich, rewarding, life-changing experience if handled in a healthy, mature manner.

Modern estimates are that only 1-5% of our thoughts and brain activity are conscious.  That means 95-99% of what goes on in our minds and brains is non-conscious. (Remember, your brain does way more than just think).

Your conscious mind can create new thoughts and ideas.  It can think “out of the box”.

Your non-conscious mind is like a mega computer or database loaded with programmed behaviors.  In fact, most of what is in your non-conscious mind is programmed in by the age of 6.  It reacts automatically to situations with previously stored responses, and cannot move beyond its box.  It works without the input from you conscious mind.  And, it is controlling your life……

You can only “think so much” at one time, right?  Even great multi-taskers have a limit….  So, focusing your thoughts on something positive doesn’t mean the negative thoughts aren’t happening under the surface.

It is great to focus on the positives, what IS working in your life.  It helps you move forward from where you are to where you may want to be.

However, consistently ignoring what is eating away at you & boiling beneath the surface isn’t good either.  Even the tiny things can add up till, well, “BOOM!”.  Tears, rants, raves, tantrums, and yes, health issues.

That is why it is important to tend to the root causes of your behaviors with a willingness to face those difficult thoughts, their resulting feelings, and emotions head-on.  Don’t get so caught up in staying positive that you forget not all of  “you” is “there yet”.

I have become very aware of that myself recently.

I am a passionate person.  I feel fully, deeply, HUGELY when my buttons are pushed.

The last few years have been full of growth and change for me.  My capacity to handle it all has been pushed to the limit. I love and embrace all of it.  No regrets.  I’ve done my human best.

Despite that, I also felt my frustration level growing.  My limit was finally exceeded.  I blew.  It was like fireworks in my living room.  fireworks-574739_640

Venting is an understatement, as I am sure my poor husband would tell you.  (He tried to do the supportive spouse thing and console me, which was like trying to suppress a fireworks display by throwing your jacket on it).

No one was hurt.  Nothing was broken except for shattering any respectable image he may have had left of me. But, damn, did I feel great after.  Tired, but relieved.  And, the next day I felt more refreshed, energized, and creative than I have in months.

What I find is that in “THOSE” moments, I am better able to know my true thoughts that are really causing my feelings.  That gives me the insight I really need to address the issues at hand.   Without my filters, my non-conscious mind is free to speak and reveal the pearls of wisdom within.

And, sometimes, all that is needed is to vent that energy, with physical activity, verbalizing, or even crying.  Many times I have had clients say, “I am afraid if I start crying, I won’t stop.”   Have you known anyone who has literally cried to death? However, how many people do you know who have died from stress related illnesses?

What is building and eating away at you inside like a cancer?

We are like batteries with our feelings being constantly charged and discharged.  That energy naturally needs to move thru/out or the battery will eventually explode, or corrode.  Make sense?

girl-1250679_640Even more importantly, what I discovered is that there are still parts of my inner child who is feeling past denial and wounds.  She doesn’t give a hoot what the reasons were that she was denied or hurt.  She is just waiting to have her tantrum.  To be witnessed, and HEARD.

Living in the positives, having harvested the pearls, often by-passes letting her be heard.

She lives largely in my non-conscious world.  Giving her a chance to be heard through guided imagery and craniosacral therapy has helped tremendously.  I have been able to process and resolve even more of those old patterns freeing more body, mind, & spirit.  Cleansing my internal world – without the fireworks…….

What’s your inner child longing for?  What awaits cleaning within you?

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p.s. For those following the story, the last news I had was that Adrienne cow would be fitted with platform shoes to help accommodate the shift in her pelvis and make her comfortable as she goes forward in life.  Surgery would be the only other option, and it is very risky.  If the shoes worked, she was to go to her new forever home this last week.  I have not heard the outcome yet.

Light at the End of a “Shouldy” Experience

Adrienne Cow & Kelly 2Have you ever had a day that was difficult yet rich and rewarding in many ways?  I had such a day Tuesday March 15th, resulting ultimately in saving a life. The epitome of Living my Purpose, it was a perfect example of my Mission.

You see, I was again called to help a Being who was living a very “should” existence “gone wrong”.  Turns out she was in for a course-correction to more fully align with her Purpose, and I was blessed to be a part of that, which was, literally a life-saving opportunity.

This Being was Adrienne, a 21-month old very sweet Holstein heifer.  Adrienne was born into our dairy herd with the idea that she would become a milk producer herself – thus beginning her long list of “should’s”.

This is what “should’ve” happened with her:

  • bred first time to give birth at 24-30 months old
  • produce milk for us to sell
  • give birth once a year to maintain milk production
  • live a productive life as a dairy cow – her Mission to fulfill her Purpose.

Because that is “what you should do” in this “family”.

What did happen: she was injured in the barnyard while out with the herd for breeding.  The exact nature of her pelvic injury could not be easily determined, and the vet recommended we give her time and see what happened.  She showed NO signs of pain, and compensated wonderfully for her disability.

I realized I was her best shot at having any quality of life, and I took a stand for her.  That meant pushing myself to a new level.  You see, my previous experience with our cows was that they aren’t receptive to affection and touch. They can quickly cause harm even with no such intention because of their size and power.  Helping her successfully meant I had to push my caution limits. Trust. Faith.

With an open heart, loving intentions, patience, and trust, I was able to treat her with craniosacral therapy and massage 5-7 days/week for almost a month.  Her body released and self-corrected as much as possible.  The swelling reduced.  She was able to bear more weight on the injured side.

Our mutual trust and respect grew. My husband said on more than one occasion, “You can’t do that with a heifer……” (as he watched me doing the “impossible”).  She guided the session, as is true with my human clients.

Despite all of that, her physical disability persisted significantly, leaving her unable to produce a calf with a favorable outcome for either one of them.  And, we learned 4 months after her injury that she was, in fact, 4 months pregnant.

She could not safely continue to live at our place with any quality of life.  She could not “do the job she should do” – be a dairy producer.  No calf = no milk = no job.

What could we do?  Any treatment was beyond our financial means.  Our choices were limited, including ending her life.  I couldn’t do that, though.  I felt that, with the right help (more than we could afford to give her), she could live a good life in the right place.

Her Soul was whispering for a course-correction that had been going unheard.  A course-correction that would better align her with her TRUE Purpose, her TRUE Mission, vs. the “should’s” that she had been living.  The “shoulds” as we believed them to be.  She was hearing those whispers, and thru her injury, and our connection, was communicating them to me.

My heart compelled me to reach out to my friend Susan Hamlin, The Saratoga Animal Whisperer , for support.  Susan suggested placement in a sanctuary.    We started with Spring Farm CARES, who referred us to Farm Sanctuary in Watkins Glen, NY.

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Monday 3/14/16 at about 5:15 pm I first spoke with Farm Sanctuary.  At 8:30 pm they emailed me that they would take her, and wanted to arrange for pick up as soon as possible.

I talked with their director Tuesday morning the 15th, and we arranged for them to pick her up.  I spent some time with Adrienne explaining what I knew of her future, saying “goodbye for now”, and receiving her thanks……


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I got a little unsolicited help from her for my day…

Chariot (1).jpgFarm Sanctuary picked her up at 1:30 pm that day.

I knew I was doing the “right thing”, because of the deep connection I have to my Inner Wisdom, yet my human side still worried about her.

The transport team was super. They were incredibly compassionate, and sensitive to my feelings.  They took every effort to make her comfortable, with thick bed of straw in the entire 24-foot trailer, and a bale of their best hay for munching during her trip.

First ClassShe loaded fairly easily.  She balked once, and my husband stopped.  I put my hands on her, and gently told her it was ok, that she was going for the help she needed and the life she deserved.

She was like a hound dog once inside the trailer, sniffing and exploring.  I knew she was ok so far.

She was taken to Cornell University Veterinary Hospital for admission, evaluation, and treatment. For those who don’t know, that is the “go to” place here for involved cases, and when service beyond the ability of the local veterinarians is in order.  I have been told that one of their team members is tops in the country for this situation.

Adrienne has had some X-rays which were inconclusive because of her size and the fact that she was standing.  She will have more while on the table under anesthesia.

She has aborted her calf, which, unfortunately, is best for all.

Now, we wait.  After evaluation and treatment, she will go to live at her new forever home at Farm Sanctuary.  I will visit.

I share this with you because so often we get tied to what or how we think things “should” be.  And, when we don’t open our hearts to the whispers of our Soul to look past those “shoulds”, to our TRUTH, the whispers get louder. The language changes to something we can hear…. often the loud shouts of trauma, crises, disruption.   Typically we then lament, mask the pain and go back to the same ways, vs. listening to the deeper message and responding accordingly.

There is light at the end of your “shoulds”, if you look down the tunnel for it. Open not just your eyes, but your heart to light the way in Trust and Faith.

I would have loved to see her body completely self-correct, and be “normal”.  If that had  happened, she would have continued as a dairy cow.  But I know that she has a different Mission, which would not have happened if things went as they “should have”.

Adrienne’s life is meant to be lived in other ways so that she can serve her Purpose.  In “doing” my Mission  (using my gifts and talents with craniosacral and massage therapy, following my Inner Wisdom) I was able to assist her in living her Purpose. It isn’t for me to know what that is, but to do my part in the journey.  I must remain detached from what I may think “should be”.

And, my Mission is evolving as a result.  My next steps are slowly being built and revealed. My life is forever changed. My nest is a little emptier. Because this sweet Being, in living her Purpose, as influenced how I live mine.

It isn’t always easy.  I am still human.  I sobbed this week as I haven’t in  while.  Despair, frustration, grief, relief, hope, gratitude, and joy.  Priceless.

Adrienne’s Purpose is still revealing itself, and it is still being served.  Being a dairy cow was the Mission she “should” have had.  Her TRUE Mission is being revealed as she more fully lives in alignment with her Purpose.  Who knows how many more lives she will touch?  She is HOME now, in her life.  Are you?

Your Purpose is what you HAVE  and your Vision is what will BE as a result of DOING your Mission.

My Purpose is to use my gifts and talents freely to transform the world, and my Soul’s Intentions for this lifetime are fulfilled.  It is my destiny and my birthright.   My Mission is what I DO to accomplish that.  My Vision is what will BE when that all falls into place.

What are your Vision, Mission, and Purpose?   If you aren’t sure, start here: Or, contact me today to see how you can begin spending your next chapter living On-Purpose.

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Feeling emotional. Bittersweet. Goodbye for now, and thank you!!!! Kelly