Your Answers Are Within

Your Answers Are Within

Did you know your answers are within you for all of your health challenges, stressors, and even knowing what’s next for you?  Yes, your answers ARE within.

Whispering to You Through Your Heart, Your Soul is Telling You Your Answers Are Within.

Looking to feel better, experience improved health, find your next steps?  Want to the satisfaction and fulfillment of knowing and living YOUR purpose? Your body is guiding you to follow the path that’s best for you.  Your heart knows your Purpose.  And, your Soul’s whispering through your heart all you need to know to be all you’re designed to be.  You first need to know and trust that, then learn how to listen and follow along.

Centuries ago, the “church” decided that the more esoteric matters of the mind, heart, emotions, and spirit was its domain.  The medical community decided the physical body was its domain.  That was the beginning of separation of “church and state”.  Perhaps that’s what lead to a tendency to look for our answers and solutions outside ourselves.

Sure, you must consult with professionals at times because they have necessary skills and knowledge you don’t.  And, that knowledge will enhance your understanding and decision-making.  But they don’t have ALL of the information.   Only you have lived your life, in your shoes, with your experiences.  You’re the only one who truly knows what’s going on inside your mind, your heart, your Highest self.

Ultimately, only you can make the best decisions for yourself, and manage your thoughts to keep aligned with your design, your Purpose, what IS best for you.  And, when you stray from that, your system will respond in kind with symptoms of stress and dis-ease.

I’m honored to share with you the second in my 12 article series with the newly published international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Answers Are Within”.  Please share your comments below – would love to hear from you!
Your Answers Are Within - Your Soul is Whispering to You Through Your Heart.

Ready to go within to find your answers, reduce your stress, improve your health and well-being, and live your Purpose?  Grab your free copy of my 5-Step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress today. 

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Live an extraordinary life - it is your design

Live An Extraordinary Life – It IS Your Design

You ARE designed to live an extraordinary life.  Did you know that?

You’re programmed and designed to be a YOU-nique BEING, with a you-nique place only you can fill.   You Purpose is to fill it by learning, growing, evolving into the best version of YOU that you can. When  you fulfill your Purpose, you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and love what you’re doing.  Your life fits you, and you fit your life.

Isn’t that in itself amazing, incredible, remarkable?  I think it is.  Oh, and by the way, “amazing”, “incredible”, and “remarkable” are all synonyms for “extraordinary”.

Live an extraordinary lifeI invite you to first consider what “extraordinary” means to you.  It means different things to different people.  Some, because of their “definition” don’t believe they’re meant to live an extraordinary life.

I’m not suggesting you’re necessarily meant to rise to the top in your profession, win a Nobel Prize, nor become famous and filthy rich.  I’m suggesting simply that you are you-nique, and something of value is contributed to the WHOLE when you aspire to being the best version of “YOU” you can be.  Then you’re showing up fully for the world, living your Purpose to the best of your ability, letting your Inner Light shine brightly.

Think about it.

An Intelligence created 100 Trillion cells of “YOU” before you were even born, from 2 completely individual single cells.  Isn’t that incredible? And, it isn’t done.  There is much more of “YOU” to potentially be created, maintained, and evolved.

Your nervous system is key in carrying out that Plan.  It’s continually making adjustments based n your experiences, situation, circumstances, etc.  It’s in charge of keeping you going, functioning, healing, evolving, living.

The ease with which your system can follow the Plan is affected by whether you align with, and support, it in your choices and responses, or you thwart it.

How do you know when you’re thwarting the Plan for your extraordinary life?

Follow the Plan for an extraordinary life - or get off courseYou feel stressed.  Yep.  Stress is an indicator that you’re out of alignment with your Purpose. Any stress, i.e. any sign of living less than an optimally healthy, high quality life is an indicator.

When stressed, your nervous system has to work overtime to make up for the alteration in the Plan.  It’s showing you how to get back on track with symptoms of stress.  If you ignore or tolerate the symptoms, or simply go for a quick-fix to eliminate them, you miss that “re-direct”.  And, you stay off-track.  Thus, you live a less-than-extraordinary life.  It may well be ordinary, or average at least.  But, it isn’t extraordinary.  Click here to see a great TED Talk YouTube video on this topic: “How Ordinary People Become Extraordinary”.

Listening to your Inner Wisdom guiding you through the symptoms of stress you experience can help you better align with the Plan for “YOU” so that you live an extraordinary life.  One in which you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and passionate.  A life that feels like the right fit.

Are you TRULY satisfied with your life?

Or are you settling….. for ordinary?  Ordinary is ok if you are ok with life’s aches, pains, health issues, and the other symptoms of stress.  It’s your life, your health, your choice.  Only you can decide what is and isn’t acceptable, extraordinary.

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Embracing Change while Handling the Fear and Guilt

Embracing change isn’t always easy, but the right perspective can make it worth it in the end.  It will help you become the best version of YOU.  It’s time!

In my last article, I suggested Spring cleaning your life for more energy, joy, clarity and peace. Part of your Spring cleaning likely involves answering the call we all are receiving, i.e., to BE who we are YOU-niquely designed to BE – for the good of the Whole.  Even if you don’t recognize it as such, the TRUE longings in your heart are telling you, “BE YOU!” Always.

Embracing change of that nature can surely stir up resistance, masquerading as guilt and fear. Which can stop you dead in your tracks unless you are prepared to handle them.  I will share with you below how to make it easier.

It’s not always easy letting go and embracing change.

Change can be especially difficult when we are anchored by deeply ingrained habits and “belief baggage” with strong emotional ties.  Your “belief baggage” is especially difficult because it’s a part of your identity, a form of intellectual property, and your familiar home.  In other words, it’s your center and ground, your comfort zone.  Instinctively we protect what is “ours”, and our “home”.  All normal.

And, all holding you back if you aren’t willing to face it head on, feel the fear, and do it anyway.

You aren’t only changing a mental construct, you’re changing your programming, i.e. the wiring in your nervous system.  You’re opening to new ways.

Letting go and embracing change takes time, courage, persistence, and patience.

(It’s also helpful to have a support system, and a plan to help you navigate the journey.  Just sayin’. You know, like your life coach can do with you…).

Letting go and embracing change

What’s stressing you?

Think about the changes that, deep down, you’d really like to make.  The ones that you dismiss, or ignore, but which resurface repeatedly.  You know the ones I mean….

The changes that, if made, would ultimately land you in the most amazing place in your life.  That amazing place for which you are YOU-niquely designed to be.

What’s continually stressing you that needs to go (or needs a belief “re-vamp”)?  A relationship?  A job? A commitment?  Something else?

Which habits could use a little variety, or even hit the highway?

What’s missing that’s waiting for you to open the door and welcome it in?

Let yourself really feel into what it would be like if there were no limits, no excuses.   IF ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING were possible.  How would that feel to have your life EXACTLY as your heart longs for it to be?

How would your body feel?

I invite you to ask yourself, “What’s holding me back?”

And let the answer come through your heart, your gut, from your Higher Self.

Note how you may be limiting yourself with beliefs of impossibility, lack of worth, lack of self esteem,  “should’s”, and “musts”.

Be willing to admit what you’re afraid of.

How much of any of those limits is REALLY true?  Seriously.

Embracing change to be the best version of you...

Sometimes there’s guilt involved. Which is really fear in disguise.

And, you may not even know what you’re guilty about.  Regardless, its your beliefs at work.  Again, knowing yourself and drilling down are key.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you in that process:

  • Are you afraid of hurting someone by saying “no”?  Have you thought of how you might actually empower them to handle something themselves if you say “no”?
  • Is it REALLY true that you don’t deserve improvement?  Do you deserve to take your next breath or even eat when hungry? Aren’t those improvements of a sort? Where’s it fair to draw the line regarding what improvement you DO deserve?
  • Who’s suffering if you “improve”?  Might they benefit, learn, grow, or even become empowered if you improve?
  • Who are you dishonoring or disappointing by making a change?  Are you living YOUR life, or theirs? Aren’t they responsible for their own reactions?
  • What are you really afraid of?   Keep digging.  You answers ARE there.

If someone REALLY loves you unconditionally, they want what’s best for you, and what makes your heart sing.  And, that’s a two-way street, right?

None of us can decide what’s truly best for another.  We only know for certain what is going on inside of US, and what’s best for us.

It’s your birthright to become the best version of you.  It is your Purpose, and your destiny, to be the best YOU, and make your difference in the world.

And, everything you need to do that IS within you.   You will see it, feel it, know it if you look past the fear, and the guilt.

Bottom line…

Which is worse/more stressful?  Changing, or tolerating the way things are now?

Change isn’t necessarily all butterflies and roses.  But, personally, I prefer the stress associated with personal growth and improvement to that from tolerating something that isn’t a good fit for me.  It has a different quality to it. HOPE, ENTHUSIASM, OPTIMISM are mixed in.  That’s better than despair, pessimism, anger, and resentment-  in my book.

And, I also know that I have to be ready, which includes having a plan and support in place…..  Otherwise, the stress WILL be worse – because the anger, resentment, pessimism, and despair will creep into my “new” path to test my resolve as well…..

Are you ready to let go, embrace change, and be the best version of YOU?  A great way to start is to use your complimentary copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress. Get your copy here:

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Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring cleaning your life inside and out can give you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.  Have you ever thought about it that way?

When in sync with spring, you naturally feel restless and you want change.  You want to eliminate what’s in the way, no longer serves you, and/or is cluttering your space.  You want a fresh start, to feel alive, and to welcome “the new”.

Those impulses apply to your life, not just your material world.  The same way cleaning your home, office, car, etc. helps you feel refreshed and rejuvenated, with space for “the new”, cleaning your life can bring you new clarity, energy, and peace.

What does Spring cleaning your life mean?

Eliminating the “obsolete, detrimental, old, toxic, and/or outdated” ways of thinking, doing, and BEING.

You know…. the things that zap your energy, distract you from what’s important, keep you in unhealthy patterns, and keep you stressed.

Spring cleaning your life frees you

How do you know where to start?

Knowing yourself is key.  Be clear about, and honor, your values and Soul’s intentions.  Taking a good, honest, unfiltered look at yourself and your life and drilling down to the core will help you discover what you need to see, know, and do.

Your heart is your source of power and motivation.  It’s the seat of your Soul.  It embodies your Soul’s intentions, values, desires, and Purpose.  Listen to your heart, and then allow your intellect to serve your highest good in bringing what’s in your heart to Life.

Some questions to ask yourself when spring cleaning your life:

Trust your first instincts, your first response, then go deeper.  There’s no “right or wrong”, just your answers ….. for YOUR clarity and guidance…..

Spring cleaning your life for change for the betterIs stress interfering with my quality of life?

What are my biggest “button pushers”?

What nags me most frequently?

Where in my life are my values lacking?

Am I aligned with my Soul’s Intentions?

What do I want to improve?

Am I willing to improve it?

Can I improve it?

How can I begin NOW to be a better version of myself?

What do I commit to changing?

Follow the steps in letting go…..

  1. Identify the need to change
  2. WANT to change
  3. Decide to change
  4. Make the plan – baby doable steps with support
  5. Follow the plan – to DO and BE different
  6. Actually LIVE it – be kind, patient, and consistent with yourself over time to develop new habits
  7. BE the new change – rewired by living it long enough that it IS you. For now.  Until you hit #1 again…

The litmus test:

Do your current life, your current ways, your current possessions embody your values?

Do they support you in realizing your Soul’s Intentions?

Decide what you are ready, willing and able to let go of as you begin Spring cleaning your life.  What’s keeping you from the clarity, energy, joy, and peace you want?

Think about what you are ready to incorporate in your “cleaner” life as well that can bring you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.

Is it time for more FUN!!! ?

I know its time for me to include more FUN!!! in my life.  I have been getting rid of some of the “old” to make room for more “FUN!!!”.

And, isn’t change is always easier, and more FUN!!!, when you don’t go it alone?

I find it is. So, I am creating a new opportunity as my gift to you.  AND, you have the chance to participate in creating that opportunity with me.

It will be a program to help us get out of our own way, and create a plan for FUN!!!, and have mutual support to keep us on track, ending this Mother’s Day.  A gift to the parts of ourselves that give to, support, and care for others.

If you would like to include more FUN in your life, and are interested in learning more, possibly creating and participating in this with me, click here to receive more information.     This time-sensitive opportunity ends April 7.   Click here now to learn more.

Spring cleaning your life for freedom and letting go

 

5 Tips for Managing Overwhelm

Overwhelm – 5 Tips For Managing It

When feelings of overwhelm creep into your daily life, do you ignore them and just keep pushing through your day?  If you’re like me, and many of my clients, you do.   But, if we don’t recognize overwhelm as the warning sign it is, we can end up crashing.

Our daily routine and habits give us our comfort zone, and perhaps a false sense of being in control.  They can keep us from realizing that we really DO need to tend to our stress.  And, we can, therefore, miss a rich opportunity for improvement to ultimately impact our health and well-being.

Until…..  a crisis hits, and feelings of overwhelm are an understatement.

The reality check of a crisis can really push us to the limit, as we are drawn into survival mode, with its own set of dynamics.  It forces us to re-examine our priorities.  Unless we value our wellbeing enough to prepare in advance….. without hitting the wall first…..

Our recent snowstorm here in the Northeast was a great opportunity for me to appreciate all I’ve gained in my ability to handle the tough stuff, as well as discover that, well, let’s just say….. I still have a little work to do……

My home can quickly become inaccessible in poor weather.  That’s bad enough, without also considering: a dairy herd, barns, equipment, two homes (father-in-law next door), and a nearly-96 legally blind grandfather living alone 20 minutes away.  Add in: being a one-person business with no paid time off, and no way to recoup lost client time.

My husband and his aging dad run the farm.  I mostly watch, encourage, and empathize, occasionally handling the dumb end of a shovel, or trying to look imposing while running around waving my arms and yelling (usually to chase cows, sometimes to flag down one of the guys … marginally effective at either). But, when there’s a crisis, I’m often called upon to “girl-up”.

Back to the snowfall, and overwhelm.

It seems like everything needs to be done at once in the morning.  Starting stubborn diesel tractors.  Creating access for the milk truck to pick up our milk (luckily – every other day).  Plowing space in the field to spread manure.  Clearing the manure collection area for the wagon and tractor.  Breaking free the frozen barn cleaner.   Clearing the barnyard so the cows can go out so the guys can clean the barn, or exit in an emergency.  Monitoring roof loads.

In the meantime, water bowls must be thawed so the cows can drink (equivalent of a bathtub of water a day), and silos unfrozen and cleared so feed can be put out.  Then, birthing happens…..

Waiting patiently are the houses, roofs, vents and chimneys, driveways, etc.  Not to mention, access to, and fueling of, the outdoor wood furnace. If lucky, we find our vehicles and clear them off.  All while praying we don’t have an emergency or breakdown……

Not done. I still need to check on my grandfather and his home (as well as other family), cancel and re-schedule appointments, hope my office is still accessible and intact, and remember to eat, drink, bathe, sleep, etc……  Get my drift?  Yes, a pun.

Overwhelm? Definitely.

Overwhelm.  Where do I begin dealing?

Better question: where do you begin?

Here are 5 tips I find useful, and share with my clients, for dealing with overwhelm:

  1. Notice how you’re feeling, and tend to your self-care first.  You’re no good to anyone if, well, you’re no good.  Right?
  2. Be present and mindful, “in the moment” to stay focused, clear, and open to what you really need to know.  Listen to your heart, and gut. Then, you’re more likely to notice important changes, and respond appropriately.
  3. Prioritize calmly, objectively, yet intuitively.  Obviously, a crisis necessitates different prioritizing than daily stress management.  Remember, knowing your values is key in setting priorities that keep stress under control, and get you through a crisis. Let your heart and mind partner-up.
  4. Break tasks into smaller steps, focusing on what you’re doing, not on what else is still waiting for you.   Acknowledge your progress and stamina along the way.
  5. Find a silver lining.  Some joy, accomplishment, awareness, experience.  Try to have fun, and appreciate something or someone…..
What overwhelm?

Birdwatching in the sunny, warm window.  Art, skill, both? Or, just adorable?

I find times of overwhelm are excellent opportunities to remember what is REALLY important to me.  It’s a time to bolster my self-care, be in the moment, acknowledge myself for the small things, find pleasure and joy in the simple things, feel connected to something Greater, and be grateful.

One thing that stands out for me, too, in a crisis, is pulling together in community.  Nothing is more heartwarming to me than seeing everyone do and BE their best to help each other and make the world go ’round.  How about you?

Needing support in times of overwhelm, or managing stress? Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session.   We’ll hop on the phone for about 30-40 minutes and get you on your way! Talk with you soon!

 

 

You shouldn't lose weight

Why You Shouldn’t Lose Weight

I often have requests for help with weight loss.  The first thing that comes to mind when I hear that is: “you shouldn’t lose weight”.

Why you shouldn’t lose weight….

Did you know your non-conscious mind automatically takes action to help you find something you lost?   So, if you lose weight, your non-conscious mind will naturally try to help you find it and get it back……. Hence, you shouldn’t “lose” weight.

And, when focusing on weight loss, where’s your focus?  On the excess weight?  We know from the Law of Attraction, you get more of what you are focused on….  excess weight.

You shouldn't lose weightAdditionally, deciding to “lose weight” can set you up for feeling guilty and upset with yourself, especially if your head is in charge. You may have an ideal diet, size and weight in mind.  All numbers, and very heady.  And, if your head is in charge, you may be setting yourself up for failure because you are missing the underlying issues.  Your heart is what really provides the momentum to carry you to your destination. Your head should follow your heart’s lead for optimal success.

When your head’s in charge, you’re likely relying on willpower to get your through.  “Willpower” is really just saying “no”. “NO” doesn’t work well.  Why not set yourself up to succeed from the beginning by creating the right environment, and having the right internal momentum to maintain your progress and deal with guilt that arises?

Your heart needs to be in it, and your mind needs to be open….

Powerful invitation: adjust your thinking.

Consider “releasing” weight, i.e., that which no longer serves you, vs. “losing” weight that your non-conscious will then try to help you recover.  Let it go to where it best serves, wherever that may be, which is beyond you.

Focus on what you REALLY want, and you will have more success.  What you REALLY want IS NOT a certain weight, or a certain size, or even a certain look.  Nope.  Your motivators for any change are the feelings you will have when you acquire or achieve those “externals”.  Feelings come from the heart, not the head…..  Transformational coaching 101.  Just sayin’.

You should aim for balance, you shouldn't lose weight

Your weight’s a result of many complex interrelated factors.

It’s important to get to all of the underlying issues to achieve your ideal healthy weight.  Genetics, physiology, diet, lifestyle, emotional factors, other health issues, medications, etc. are some of the factors that play a part.

If your weight’s an issue for you, I invite you to expand your perspective.  Assess yourself and your life holistically. What is out of balance?  Commit to restoring balance, and your health as a result.  Your weight will follow.

You shouldn’t lose weight.  Aim for balance in your life for optimal health.

If you wish to begin addressing your weight by focusing on your food intake, check out: “Put Your Best Fork Forward”.  Or, “Enjoy the Taste of Eating Right”.

Your answers ARE within you.

Everything I do with my clients is based upon the idea that within each of us there is wisdom that is guiding us to become who we are designed perfectly to BE.  Learning to tune in to that Inner Wisdom of the body/mind can help you discern what’s holding you back and blocking you, and choose what’s best for you going forward.

It’s about living intuitively.  It’s neither hocus-pocus, nor saved for the “special ones”.  Living intuitively IS in your design.  That applies to living your life in all respects, which is ultimately interrelated with your health and well-being.  Being your ideal healthy weight is no different.

If you’d like more help living intuitively for a balanced life and well-being, just click here to apply for a complimentary Discovery Session, and we’ll set up a time to talk.

I see your Light!  I see your Greatness! Do you?

Create More Energy In Your Life

Would you like to create more energy in your life?

If so, you are not alone.  Feeling depleted, and/or unmotivated, is not uncommon in today’s world.

If your energy is seriously lacking, you should first consult with your healthcare practitioner to properly address any serious underlying health conditions.

Lacking physical energy, motivation, or both?

It’s helpful clarify whether you are lacking physical energy, motivation, or both, so you can seek the underlying causes more efficiently.  Physical energy and motivation go hand in hand, but one aspect may stand out for you more.

Knowing which you are dealing with can help you more efficiently identify the underlying causes and choose long-term solutions.

Understand that Life is the Flow of Energy.

Quantum physics now says we are made of energy, not matter (read more here).  That understanding can help you further determine how your energy is moving, and what to change.

Create More Energy - follow your heart

To Create More Energy, Consider:

  1. Whether your energy is flowing too freely and leaking from you.  
    Some examples of this include giving to situations that do not serve you, and being in unhealthy relationships that chronically drain you.
  2. Your energy may be “stuck” and unavailable.  
    Some examples of this are health issues, tension, pain, and stress.  All of this ties in with your beliefs and mindset as well.  Where are you blocking yourself from reaching your full potential, living and loving unconditionally?Address your health issues, shift your beliefs, adjust your mindset. Open to your worth. Receive. Relax and de-stress.
  3. You may be spending your energy in ways that don’t serve you.  
    Fear-based choices of the Ego drain you, vs. love-infused heart-felt choices that motivate and sustain you. Giving of yourself conditionally (i.e., with unrealistic expectations) could also be a drain. Avoid negative situations, including news, people, etc.Are your fears realistic?  Can you shift them to take off the edge and allow yourself to follow your heart (which is fueled by Source energy: unconditional LOVE)?  Are your activities ones you enjoy, and supportive of your Soul’s intentions for this lifetime?
  4. Refuel.
    create more energy with healthy foodThis boils down to receiving sufficiently from Source, whether that means prayer, and spiritual connection, or general self-care and nourishment. Quality food, hydration, sleep, rest, meditation, and exercise are also ways of refueling from Source energy.  If nothing else, in the moment, breathe deeply to relax and refresh.
  5. Maintain balance between giving and receiving, as well as doing and being.  
    This should be self-explanatory. Input and output must be equal, right?

Spend Your Time Wisely to Create More Energy.

Managing your time wisely, and maintaining a balanced life are both important in maintaining your energy.  If you need refreshers, re-visit my previous articles: “Mastering Time Management for Greater Fulfillment” and “Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being”.

Nothing will change unless you are aware that there is a problem, decide and commit to taking action, and follow-through.  A doable plan is helpful.  Where might you start?

Create more energy with good self careRemember, mindset is everything.  A positive outlook can help maintain your commitment and determination as you create more energy in your life.

Above all, be gentle with yourself.  Change takes time.

Can’t Do it Alone?

Need an objective professional to help you create a clear plan, and stay on track?  Click here and apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today.  If I accept your application (I only have a limited number of spots each month), we will schedule a time to hop on the phone and get you on your way!

An overlooked secret to keeping your New Year's resolutions

An Overlooked Secret to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions

Despite your best intentions and efforts,  do you still fail to keep your New Year’s resolutions?  If you said, “Yes”, you are likely missing an overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

You are not alone. Research shows that about 50% of all Americans make resolutions.  Yet, of those, only about 8% are successful in keeping them.

If you are like most resolution-makers, you choose goals related to health and fitness, finances, or improving your of life.  You may want such changes, but still not be successful despite your best intentions.

If you find it difficult to actually keep your resolutions, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • Am I making resolutions based upon my “shoulds” and “musts”?
  • Are my resolutions the same as what everyone else is doing?
  • Have I made this resolution year after year with no real progress?
  • Am I still falling short despite an accountability or buddy system, and breaking my goals into small steps?

If you answered “Yes” to any or all of the above questions, you may be missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.  You are likely making them from your “head”, i.e. what you “think” you “should” do.

What’s wrong with that? Well, let me ask you this: do you actually feel good about, and enjoy taking the action required?  If not, how likely are you to stick with doing something you don’t like doing, or feel passionate about?

If you don’t feel good about it, you are likely missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

What IS that overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions?

secret to keeping your resolutionsHere it is: Following your heart.

If your heart isn’t in the game, you lack the passion, drive, and desire that provide lasting momentum and energy needed to keep you going.  Your motivations come from other sources that don’t last, like willpower.

You are created of something greater than your personality self, designed to be and live a certain way YOU-nique to you.  Your heart knows what that is, and shows you your path in the form of love, joy and passion.

Positive loving, joyful emotions are life-sustaining Source energy flowing freely, and abundantly within and through you.  When you TRULY love what you are doing, it is a sign that you are on your path to living fully aligned with your Purpose.

Align with your Purpose. Follow your Soul Intentions.

secret to keeping your New Year's ResolutionsYour Soul Intentions for this lifetime are your Purpose.  Your heart knows what your Purpose is, and is guiding you with its love, joy, and passion.

You come into this life designed perfectly to live YOUR Purpose.  When you set goals aligned with your Purpose, you will find you enjoy accomplishing them and that you have the resources needed to do so.

That doesn’t mean it is always easy because there will likely be some tests to support your growth along the way.  But, you will feel less like a square peg in a round hole, and feel less stressed as a result.  You will love your life, and feel like your heart is in living it.

The overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions IS following your heart, thus aligning with your Purpose, i.e. your Soul Intentions for this lifetime.

Don’t make resolutions.

That’s right. Don’t pledge to do those cliché things that you always SAY you should/must do, but your heart isn’t in.   Isn’t it easier to “do it if your heart is in it”?

You are built and resourced to live your Soul Intentions, and when you attune yourself to, and align yourself with those, you will find you have better results. Set goals aligned with your Soul Intentions instead of making cliché resolutions you think you should.

The common tips and tricks to keeping your resolutions still have value.

Most people benefit from breaking goals down into doable, practical steps.  It also helps to celebrate reaching each of those mini milestones.

It can also be helpful to have support in community with others who have similar goals.  You can lean on each other and hold each other accountable.  You also can benefit from suggestions others find helpful.

Another very useful tip is to focus on the feeling of having accomplished your goal.  The feeling is actually the motivator behind it all.  The path you take to get there can vary, and the end result may end up being different than the goal you set.  What matters is the feeling you have at the end showing you whether you ARE on your path, or not.

Choosing the optimal time for changes can also help you succeed in creating them.

The urge to start fresh, commit to change, and begin anew is natural at this time of year.

secret to keeping your New Year's resolutionsIt is related to the cycles of light, and dark, and forces greater than you (remember the Rich Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories ?).  It is an optimal time for aligning with your YOU-niqe path, choosing the changes you will make, and setting your plan in motion.

Above all, have fun and be gentle with yourself in creating your plan for 2017.  Tune in to, and honor your heart.  See what you notice and enjoy the journey.

How do I align with my Soul Intentions?

Meditation and Imagery can help you align with your soul intentionsI meditate, and use guided imagery to listen to my Inner Wisdom, i.e., my Higher Self communicating my Soul’s path to me.

Meditation and imagery can be powerful tools to assist you in aligning with your Soul Intentions, and choosing your goals.  They help you open to the possibilities in your heart, while allowing your “head” to rest in its proper place – out of the way.  These are the same skills I teach my coaching clients to develop.

If you need help discovering your Purpose, or aligning with your Soul Intentions, apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today. Transformational life coaching can help you transcend your “shoulds and musts” to discover your heart’s desires and bring them to Life.

Happy New Year!

Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories

There Is Rich Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories

Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday StoriesThere is rich spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories.

Taking your cue from the spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories, and aligning with the seasonal cycles of nature, can enrich your own journey through spiritual growth to self-actualization. Each of the holiday stories in their own way, and the cycling of the seasons, symbolize the same process: your spiritual growth through illumination of your soul and its growth in consciousness.

The holy days and the winter solstice embody significant stages in our personal and spiritual growth. This is the season of rest, i.e. hibernation, in preparation for renewed life to begin its next phase in Spring.

You likely feel instinctively inclined to connect with your Soul intentions for the coming year at this time.

Many people manifest this inclination by making “resolutions”.

Yet, your Soul intentions are deeper and more meaningful than traditional resolutions.  Your Soul intentions are related to your Purpose, which is connected to your soul’s growth, and is what those inclinations to make resolutions are REALLY about.

Looking deeper at the spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories….

To manifest, i.e. birth,  your Soul intentions, there must parents.  The father figure is the mind, the spirit, the masculine principle.  The mother is the heart, the soul, the feminine receptive principle.

In part, the holiday stories symbolize preparing and purifying yourself by transcending your Human Ego, harmonizing your mind and your heart. In other words, opening to your pure heart and mind working together to manifest your Highest intentions.  Opening in this way, you are birthing the Light within you into your earthly self and existence.

You are birthing your Soul intentions – YOUR Purpose.

Spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories - your inner lightWhen the heart and soul are pure, then the “Child” is born not of the mind, but of the Universal Soul, or the Holy Spirit.  It occurs in the form of Divine Love, entering the human heart and soul. (You know that feeling, don’t you?  The one where you feel deeply inspired, awed, connected, and at peace)?

As Divine Love fills your heart, your Inner Light shines brighter, and your connection to your Purpose is stronger.  You are manifesting your Soul intentions.

As you enter this time of rest and preparation for renewal, reflect upon what you have manifested thus far, and the infinite possibilities awaiting manifestation.

The shortening of days represents the veil of forgetfulness about why you came here and what your purpose is.  As the daylight again increases, your Soul is released into the light, making its way back to Source.

Thus, you have a rich opportunity now to re-connect with your purpose for this lifetime, and set your intentions for the coming year.

Which seeds will you “resolve” to plant?

As you connect with your Source, and open to your Soul’s intentions for this lifetime, do so without reservation or judgement.

Recall the importance of your mind and intellect supporting and protecting that Soul connection through your heart as needed, unconditionally.  Invite your human mind to accept that there is more to your Being than it alone can create, or even understand.

It is a rich time for feeling and experiencing “awe”, which is the most relaxing, stress reducing human emotion. “Awe” is associated also with experiencing unconditional love in the deepest, most profound sense.

Letting your Light shine – more spiritual symbolism of the holiday stories.

Spiritual symbolism in the holiday storiesWhen you are too busy eating, drinking, amusing yourself in the human materialistic sense, there is “no room at the inn” for the one who has received the Divine within.  In other words, your connection to Source isn’t as open, strong, and clear.  Your higher self is not as “welcome”.

When shifting to a “poverty of material conditions” (a.k.a. “the manger”), the connection is made clear, and this inner divine Light is projected from you.  Others can see it from afar, and will be drawn in.

Your Inner Light is there to support, nourish, comfort, heal, and revitalize you on your journey.  It is always within you, and available to you lighting your way.

How will you let your inner light shine more brightly?  What will you bring forth in the new year to bring your Purpose to Life?

I invite you to spend this holy time of solstice reflecting upon your own journey, and opening your pure heart to the possibilities within.

What infinite potential lies within your pure heart, your Soul’s intentions to be birthed in this lifetime?  How can your mind best support this process without your Ego’s judgement interfering?  How will your masculine and feminine aspects harmonize to birth your Purpose?

I find this a very deep, interesting, and complex topic to ponder.  I do not pretend to be an expert in it at all.  What I do profess to be an expert it, is doing my personal best to live my own version of that.  No one else can do it for me.

You are an expert in living your own journey.

Only you could have gotten to exactly where you are, the way you did.  The path you are following is You-nique yours to follow.

You are exactly where you are meant to be, how you are meant to be at all times.

You meant to experience not only the joy, but also the feelings of fear, doubt, and judgement around yourself and your journey.

Spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories - guiding you(I bet you even objected in your own way, if only a little, to the idea of being “an expert in your own journey”, didn’t you?).

Those difficult feelings are your friends and guides.  They are showing you the opportunities for your next steps in your personal growth: to dissolve those fears, doubts, judgements and further purify yourself.  They are showing you where you are blocked from more fully BEING YOU.

The purification process opens you to receive even more clearly from Source, and let your inner light shine even brighter.  In terms of the spiritual symbolism of the holiday stories, it is purifying your heart so that you can experience spiritual birth, and hence renewal.   In so doing, you move closer to living in alignment with your Soul intentions.  Intentionally.

Thank you for BEING You.  In BEING YOU, you fulfill your Purpose, filling your space in the WHOLE.

In the spirit of the spiritual symbolism in the holiday stories, I invite you to devote some quiet, quality time to going within. Connect with stillness, and allow yourself to listen to your own Inner Wisdom. It is guiding you to your next steps with energy, joy, and peace.

During this sacred open time, let your Inner Wisdom help you determine your Soul intentions for 2017, and resolve to align with those to the best of your ability.

The world needs you now more than ever to bring your Purpose to Life, and Life to your Purpose.

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In the spirit of the spiritual symbolism in the holiday seasons, I see your Light!  I see your Greatness!

May you and yours have happy, healthy holiday and winter solstice seasons!  Thank you!  I love you!

 

Simple Self-Care During The Holidays

Simple Holiday Self-Care for Less Stress and More Energy

Simple self-care during the holidays can reduce stress and keep you energized. Is your own self-care even on your holiday list?

If you are the type to put everything and every one else first, you probably do so even more at holiday time, and your answer to that question is likely “NO”.   Simple self-care during the holidays can help reduce stress, and energize you.  Then, you may even find you get more done in less time because you are more effective and efficient.

Putting yourself on your list can be simple and effortless.

You don’t need to buy anything, schedule hours into your day, nor go anywhere.

There are some tips for simple self-care during the holidays you can incorporate effortlessly into your routine that will help minimize the effects of stress.

Simply minimizing the effects of stress can help short term.

Minimizing the effects of stress does not have the lasting effect that getting to the roots of your stress does.  But, it can help short term until you take the needed time to resolve your issues at the roots for long-term, lasting results.

First, it is important to recognize some of the signs that you may be stressed.

Though it may be easy to blame the weather, and being around others, you can’t ignore that these “symptoms” can be directly related to the stress of this very special time of year.  You may be experiencing the fallout of holiday stress if you are experiencing any of the following:

  • Feeling run down, fatigued, irritable, overwhelmed
  • Getting sick
  • Headaches
  • Neck, shoulder, hip, low back pain/tension

During the holidays, you are likely:

  • doing more
  • spending more
  • eating more (and more poorly)
  • sleeping less
  • socializing more

Your innate drive to serve and care for others is likely amped up, fueling your desire to make the holidays perfect and wonderful. For others.

Yet, feeding your deep desire to make the holiday wonderful for others may not be enough to nourish all of your own needs for self-care during the holidays.   You may feel good about what you have done on one hand, yet drained and irritable on the other.

Sound familiar?

If you identify with this, or simply desire to add in some effortless self-care this holiday season, here are 10 tips for simple self-care during the holidays:

Simple Self-Care During the Holidays

  1. Breathe deeply. Deep breathing can trigger a natural relaxation state.
  2. Ground and center yourself.  Take a moment to really feel present, in the moment, connected to Source, and to Earth.
  3. Smile.  This actually tricks your nervous system into a state of feeling happy.  Did you just smile?
  4. Turn on the music. Sing or whistle an inspiring or upbeat tune. Dance as if no one were watching.
  5. Savor your morning routine.  Start your day off positively. Really savor your morning routine – a cup of tea, meditation, prayer time, your shower, applying a favorite moisturizer, the sunrise, the promise of a new day.  Really take it in. Have fun.
  6. BE in the moment.  Find something you can appreciate with your senses, such as a new pleasant scent, something beautiful in nature, a new sight, a new flavor, the coziness of your sweater, the sounds, the silence, etc.
  7. Be gentle with yourself and realistic with your expectations. Don’t beat yourself up for your choices and outcomes.  It is great to notice your feelings around your perceived shortcomings.  Holidays aren’t the time to change dramatically (though you can choose to feel gratitude for the insight into your own ways).  HINT: Set your intention to dig deep here at a better time for handling it – say in the New Year? Request a complimentary consultation for a Discovery Session with me to explore how life coaching may help with expectations, intentions, and goal-setting in the New Year.
  8. Know and honor your values, and set your priorities according to them.   What is REALLY important?  If you honor your values, you will feel more fulfilled, confident, and less stressed.
  9. Eat and drink as healthy as possible, focusing on what you DID eat “right”.  Have an extra glass of water to maintain your hydration.  Try smaller portions, and eat mindfully.   If you give yourself a minute to really savor that one cookie, or piece of candy, you may not really want another…..
  10. Choose the feeling you DO want to experience when all is said and done, and create it for yourself.  How? First, identify the feeling.  Perhaps it’s gratitude, peace, joy, or even can’t be put into words.  Then, using your imagination, assuming anything is possible, imagine actually having that feeling, being in the situation that would create it.

These tips for simple self-care during the holidays can help mitigate the effects of stress short-term, but you need to get to the roots for lasting results.

Ultimately, your beliefs about your situation, expectations, choices, options, experiences, etc., are what create stress, and must be dealt with realistically to resolve stress at the roots.  Taking the plunge into exploring what makes you tick takes time, and commitment, but has its long term rewards in satisfaction, health, joy, and peace.

Put yourself on your list…..

Consider being as generous with yourself as you are others.  Your health matters.  You can’t give as much, as well, to others from a an empty box….

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Which tips resonate best with you?  Which do you find most useful?  Feel free to comment below!  Love to hear from you!