Create a balanced life for fulfillment and well-being

Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being

Do you desire a more balanced life, but feel stuck when it comes to creating one?

A balanced life means something different to everyone.  What would a balanced life look and feel like to you?

To me, it means feeling calm, grounded, clear, focused, and on-track with a sense of connection, purpose, and meaning.  It also means having a handle on your life without being pulled too much in one direction.

How do you know if your life is out of balance?

Only you truly know how you are feeling and what you are thinking.  Being honest with yourself, listening to, and heeding those persistent whispers calling for change, before they become shouts, will help you find balance.

What is your Inner Guidance telling you?  Is it whispering “imbalance” to you through feelings of stress, discontent, agitation, being spread thin, and/or irritability? Fatigue? Depression? Health issues?  Simply a persistent desire for things to be different?

If you are experiencing any of the above, ask yourself if there are certain areas in your life needing more, or even less, attention.

Where do you start?

Assess if you have a balanced lifeAssess your life, state of mind, and how you are feeling.  Where would you like to feel more balance? What are you neglecting?

Would you like more balance among:

  • Doing vs. being
  • Giving vs. receiving
  • Being responsible, vs. being care-free
  • Being alone vs. with others?

Delving a little deeper, do you feel balanced in time and energy spent on your inner vs. your external world?

Inner World:

  • mind/thoughts,
  • emotional life,
  • spiritual life, and
  • physical health and wellbeing

External World:

  • work life,
  • social life,
  • family life, and
  • recreation/fun time

Are you so focused on the activities of life that you are unaware of what is going on inside of you?  Conversely, are you so focused on what is going on within you that you are missing out on living life?

Going deeper…..

You may feel balanced between those two main areas, but desire to balance out the aspects within one or the other. For example, you may feel a need to spend less time thinking, and more time feeling, and connecting to spirit.

Within one or more of those aspects you may desire more balance. For example in the aspect of family, you may desire greater balance between fulfilling family responsibilities and creating healthy boundaries.

Spending time and energy in any of these ways can be positive.  However, excess in any one area can turn that positive into something detrimental to your well-being in the end.

Living a balanced life decreases stress, improves health, and increases well-being.

A balanced life is less stressful and healthier

How do you find your balance?

Knowing what values you hold close to your heart is key in creating a balanced life.  Ultimately, it is the value within that you instinctively seek in your most fulfilling choices. Do what you love.

I teach my clients a process to get their head out of the way, and listen to what their hearts value. Choosing to spend their time and energy in ways that embody those heart-held values helps reduce stress, and increase their fulfillment.

Make a list of your values, and verify that the ways you spend the majority of your time and energy embody those values. Are your values present or absent in the aspects of your life in which you have chosen to create more balance?

How do you create a balanced life?

Commit to being balanced, and embodying that commitment in every decision.

Set intentions.

Make a plan.  Identify tasks needed to achieve your intentions daily, weekly, monthly, annually.  Start with small, baby-step changes.  Then, when you start seeing results, its easier to maintain and build momentum.

Make time to check in with yourself and reassess on a daily basis.  Notice what has and hasn’t worked.  What changes, if any, do you choose to make?

Empower yourself ahead of time to thwart the negative voices and challenges.

Know ahead of time what inner stuff will get in your way so you can be prepared when the resistance rears its head.  It always does.

Know:

  • how you stayed focused in the past when you accomplished the most important things
  • what you need to remember to overcome those worries, fears, doubts, anxieties, and self-sabotaging thoughts
  • how it felt to have succeeded despite the parts of yourself that had a difficult time
  • what you need to tell those parts of yourself
  • how to be kind to yourself so that being balanced feels good

Connect with someone who can be your cheerleader, witness, and support person to keep you focused, supported, motivated.

If you feel you could use an objective professional to fill the gaps your friends can’t in supporting you, consider working with a transformational life coach.  Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session to see if this may be a dynamic resource for you.

A balanced life

As with any change, it takes time and practice to create new habits.

Give yourself a minimum of 3 months to establish new habits and patterns.  If you stay on track with this intentional process for that long, chances are good you will create lasting new habits and feel more balanced and fulfilled going forward.

 

An overlooked secret to keeping your New Year's resolutions

An Overlooked Secret to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions

Despite your best intentions and efforts,  do you still fail to keep your New Year’s resolutions?  If you said, “Yes”, you are likely missing an overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

You are not alone. Research shows that about 50% of all Americans make resolutions.  Yet, of those, only about 8% are successful in keeping them.

If you are like most resolution-makers, you choose goals related to health and fitness, finances, or improving your of life.  You may want such changes, but still not be successful despite your best intentions.

If you find it difficult to actually keep your resolutions, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • Am I making resolutions based upon my “shoulds” and “musts”?
  • Are my resolutions the same as what everyone else is doing?
  • Have I made this resolution year after year with no real progress?
  • Am I still falling short despite an accountability or buddy system, and breaking my goals into small steps?

If you answered “Yes” to any or all of the above questions, you may be missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.  You are likely making them from your “head”, i.e. what you “think” you “should” do.

What’s wrong with that? Well, let me ask you this: do you actually feel good about, and enjoy taking the action required?  If not, how likely are you to stick with doing something you don’t like doing, or feel passionate about?

If you don’t feel good about it, you are likely missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

What IS that overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions?

secret to keeping your resolutionsHere it is: Following your heart.

If your heart isn’t in the game, you lack the passion, drive, and desire that provide lasting momentum and energy needed to keep you going.  Your motivations come from other sources that don’t last, like willpower.

You are created of something greater than your personality self, designed to be and live a certain way YOU-nique to you.  Your heart knows what that is, and shows you your path in the form of love, joy and passion.

Positive loving, joyful emotions are life-sustaining Source energy flowing freely, and abundantly within and through you.  When you TRULY love what you are doing, it is a sign that you are on your path to living fully aligned with your Purpose.

Align with your Purpose. Follow your Soul Intentions.

secret to keeping your New Year's ResolutionsYour Soul Intentions for this lifetime are your Purpose.  Your heart knows what your Purpose is, and is guiding you with its love, joy, and passion.

You come into this life designed perfectly to live YOUR Purpose.  When you set goals aligned with your Purpose, you will find you enjoy accomplishing them and that you have the resources needed to do so.

That doesn’t mean it is always easy because there will likely be some tests to support your growth along the way.  But, you will feel less like a square peg in a round hole, and feel less stressed as a result.  You will love your life, and feel like your heart is in living it.

The overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions IS following your heart, thus aligning with your Purpose, i.e. your Soul Intentions for this lifetime.

Don’t make resolutions.

That’s right. Don’t pledge to do those cliché things that you always SAY you should/must do, but your heart isn’t in.   Isn’t it easier to “do it if your heart is in it”?

You are built and resourced to live your Soul Intentions, and when you attune yourself to, and align yourself with those, you will find you have better results. Set goals aligned with your Soul Intentions instead of making cliché resolutions you think you should.

The common tips and tricks to keeping your resolutions still have value.

Most people benefit from breaking goals down into doable, practical steps.  It also helps to celebrate reaching each of those mini milestones.

It can also be helpful to have support in community with others who have similar goals.  You can lean on each other and hold each other accountable.  You also can benefit from suggestions others find helpful.

Another very useful tip is to focus on the feeling of having accomplished your goal.  The feeling is actually the motivator behind it all.  The path you take to get there can vary, and the end result may end up being different than the goal you set.  What matters is the feeling you have at the end showing you whether you ARE on your path, or not.

Choosing the optimal time for changes can also help you succeed in creating them.

The urge to start fresh, commit to change, and begin anew is natural at this time of year.

secret to keeping your New Year's resolutionsIt is related to the cycles of light, and dark, and forces greater than you (remember the Rich Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories ?).  It is an optimal time for aligning with your YOU-niqe path, choosing the changes you will make, and setting your plan in motion.

Above all, have fun and be gentle with yourself in creating your plan for 2017.  Tune in to, and honor your heart.  See what you notice and enjoy the journey.

How do I align with my Soul Intentions?

Meditation and Imagery can help you align with your soul intentionsI meditate, and use guided imagery to listen to my Inner Wisdom, i.e., my Higher Self communicating my Soul’s path to me.

Meditation and imagery can be powerful tools to assist you in aligning with your Soul Intentions, and choosing your goals.  They help you open to the possibilities in your heart, while allowing your “head” to rest in its proper place – out of the way.  These are the same skills I teach my coaching clients to develop.

If you need help discovering your Purpose, or aligning with your Soul Intentions, apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today. Transformational life coaching can help you transcend your “shoulds and musts” to discover your heart’s desires and bring them to Life.

Happy New Year!