Into the Light of Your Purpose

Is it time for another part of yourself to emerge into the light of your purpose?   You may not even be aware its within you.  But, when it IS time, it will find a way to emerge, and be born into the light.   And, its a beautiful thing, whether you think so at the time, or not.

At the time, I had no idea the significance of my experience, but I’m grateful for it.   Though it was traumatic,  it was miraculous.  It was amazing.  And, couldn’t have been any other way, or my Purpose wouldn’t be served.  Mind if I share a little of it with you in the following article, adapted from its original version published in Luminous Wisdom Sophia, November, 2017?

Follow Your Heart Into the Light of Your Purpose

Into the light of your purposeAs I lay in that warm, dark, very cramped, uncomfortable place being repeatedly squashed, I didn’t know what was happening.  I didn’t belong there, but I couldn’t leave.  Intuitively, I knew I wasn’t facing the right direction.  I tried for all I was worth to turn.  No luck.

I pleaded, “Please, stop this!!!  I feel awful. Mom, can you help me? Please, Mom, help! Why don’t you help me?”  Nothing.  It was like banging my head repeatedly into a brick wall.  I was frustrated, angry, and afraid.  This was my first experience of feeling powerless, and unable to move forward despite knowing exactly what I needed to do.  The pattern was set.  Or, was it?

Suddenly, the space around me expanded.  What was happening?  Finally!! Someone pulled me into the light as the temperature dropped, and unfamiliar sounds and voices filled my awareness.  I cried as my rescuers rushed about tending to their perception of my needs.  No one asked me how I felt, or what I needed.  They assumed they knew best.  But, they were missing SO much!

All Worth It

My birth was my longest 11-1/2 hours, and one of the richest experiences, of my yet-to-be-life.  It’s been a key in my own healing process.  From it I realized learning begins before birth, and that our birth experience shapes our life patterns and personalities.  I also developed a deep appreciation of our coping and adapting mechanisms, having lived with the resulting physical stress and tension for decades.  And, I honor the significance of all experiences in my journey for awakening me to the TRUTH of who I AM and aligning me with my Purpose.  I cherish this as I celebrate another anniversary of my birth.Into the light of your Purpose

No matter how old it is, or how insignificant it may seem, when it’s time for something to surface and awaken you, it will.  It’ll get your attention in the best way for you to notice it, bring it to light, and resolve it, just as my birth experience has done.

Just as a lifetime of stress, challenges, and experiences since that day have done for me, so, too, yours are calling to you.  Always.

Time to Notice What’s Emerging Into the Light of Your Purpose

Notice what’s asking for your attention, guiding you to ask yourself important questions.  How are you feeling?  What are you thinking?  What’s it showing you?  How can you grow from it and resolve it at the root, so its purpose is served?  How can you, and the world, be better because of it?

This awakening revealed my next steps for bringing to others such opportunities for health, healing, growth, and awakingn to their Purpose.  If I didn’t take them, my heart would break, and I’d be doing a disservice to the Universe.  I’d miss my chance to make my difference and feel fulfilled. I’d regret

If its’ stressing, challenging, and/or ailing you, it IS calling you.  Tune in. Open your heart to it. Otherwise, you may be missing one of the riches experiences in your life.  Could you live with that?  What lies within you waiting to be born into the light?

Feeling unsure of how to answer the call of your stress and challenges?  Could you use an objective professional to guide you into the light of your Purpose with greater clarity, joy, and Peace?

Adult Baby Steps Through Challenge and Change

Adult baby steps.  Do you take them, or do you tend to just bull your way through life?  Perhaps you hold yourself back and crawl? Or, do you cower in the corner?

I hope you find value in the following article, adapted from its original publication in the September, 2017 issue of Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.  I’m honored to be among those selected to guest author.   Did you get your copy?  If not, click here so you don’t miss another issue: Sibella Publications – Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.

Do you forget?

As children, we instinctively and courageously take baby steps as we learn to navigate the world. But, do you, as I do, forget that deep inside our mature adult selves that same child still yearns for love, support, understanding, guidance, and the simple successes born of baby steps?

My inner child still welcomes small safe steps, but feels somehow expected by my adult self to move confidently in leaps and bounds. Yet, my adult self has learned to fear the consequences of “failing”. No wonder its hard to change!

As much as I heard growing up, “You can do anything you put your mind to”, no one really taught me how to do that. And, I have no recollection of hearing, “You can do anything as long as your HEART’s in it.” Wouldn’t a little passion help when my rational mind says “be afraid because ______”? And, wouldn’t a little “gut instinct” have value? If learning to walk was just a head game, I doubt many of us would try it lest we risk a terrible fall…. Then where would we be?

One of My Biggest Adult Baby Steps

One of my biggest adult baby steps came on my birthday in the mid-‘90’s. I drove 3+ hours one way for a department meeting in which each of us was told whether or not our job was being eliminated. My co-workers were nervously sharing contacts and leads. I smiled to myself because I intuitively knew I was being Divinely guided to something greater. That knowing made it easier to handle the news, though trusting that intuition wasn’t so easy. I walked into the room where my boss and the HR person were waiting. My boss said, “Well.” I quickly responded, “No s**t. Where do we go from here?” Thus ended my corporate employment, and began a priceless future. I’m glad I trusted my guidance.

I’ve had to learn on my own to navigate the unknown, often re-defining baby steps while falling. While talking with a colleague recently, I realized how much more I expect of my adult self. No wonder change IS harder.

What if….?

Inner child yearns for support

What if we were to be easier on ourselves? Imagine treating that often overlooked inner child with the same compassion she was shown when her body was small and less experienced.  What if we remembered to honor and use those most important tools still within us? You know, actually follow our hearts, trust our guts, and show our fearful minds it isn’t all that bad, just like way back when….. And, let our rational minds chime in when appropriate.

I still need support from my team of coaches, peers, and wellness pros. They help me connect with those tools when I can’t alone.   My support team holds space for me to breathe, be calm, go within, and ask the big questions: “What do I need to know? What are my next baby steps?” They help me LISTEN, and trust.

What are your next adult baby steps?

Are you ready to go forward with courage in your adult baby steps? Do you need support to listen, trust, and take them?

If you could use some support finding and taking your adult baby steps through your challenges and change, apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today to see how we may work together to give you the needed direction, and courage.

Handling Tough Times

Handling Tough Times

We often find ourselves handling tough times these days.  More pressures, more crises, more disturbing events in the news, more health issues, etc.

I share with you my secrets to handling tough times in the article below, which was originally published in the August, 2017 issue of Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.   You can grab your copy of the magazine here: Sibella Publications – Luminous Wisdom: Sophia

In challenging times….it’s natural to seek safety, security, reassurance, comfort and confidence, right?

But, how you numb the pain, hide, and/or find “home” can make a difference in the quality of your life.

In tough times, I center and ground myself in my connection to Source, and my deep knowing that everything happens for a reason. Those “reasons” keep me aligned with the Purpose for which I am designed to live. This natural sense of “home”, always available to me, reminds me I’m not alone, no matter how lonely I feel.

Whether my life, or my body, is challenging me (or both) I tune into my Inner Wisdom. I notice my feelings, their underlying thoughts and beliefs, and how my body is responding to them. I take stock of the dominant themes in my life, stress, and fears. Equally important are the whispered dreams and urgings of my Soul that I often easily dismiss. My pain and stress are guides to my opportunities for growth. All ARE the things that need to be addressed for my body to heal, and my life to course-correct.

What can you control when handling tough times?

The only thing I can control is my response to my situation. By finding the silver lining, choosing new positive thoughts, re-framing my beliefs, and aligning my actions with this new perspective, my body responds in healthier ways. Then, I know I’m back on track with my Purpose, naturally congruent with my design. When my mind and my actions are back on track, aligned with my design, fulfilling my Purpose, I feel better. I AM better, on all levels.

I also listen to my body and notice its response to help me make decisions. Unhealthy stress responses indicate that my choice may not be right for me, and/or that I’m experiencing normal human doubt and fear. Even the “right” decision can be stressful, but the quality of that stress is different than that related to a decision that isn’t best for me. “Good stress” is accompanied, and offset, by the positives of the situation. The excitement and “deep knowing” that I am living my Purpose. The key is learning to tell the difference between what is and isn’t best for me.

That doesn’t mean its always rainbows and roses.

Handling tough times isn't always rainbows and rosesTough times help me to grow. Life’s about change, which can be difficult, as I fear the loss of the familiar, cherished, and loved, while opening to the new. Being an inefficient system, I may not heal completely and continue to live with “dis-ease” even after adopting healthier ways, perspectives, and habits. It also may be part of my journey to live with challenge, symptoms, dis-ease, etc.

Resting into my connection to Source and deep inner knowing helps me resolve anxiety, chronic pain and stress, and trust that all is going perfectly according to Divine Plan. I know I’m supported even when I break down.

Going with that flow IS following my heart, my Purpose. How do you handle the tough times?

If you could use a little help learning to listen to your body to navigate the tough times, grab your free copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress:  5-step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress

Your Answers Are Within

Your Answers Are Within

Did you know your answers are within you for all of your health challenges, stressors, and even knowing what’s next for you?  Yes, your answers ARE within.

Whispering to You Through Your Heart, Your Soul is Telling You Your Answers Are Within.

Looking to feel better, experience improved health, find your next steps?  Want to the satisfaction and fulfillment of knowing and living YOUR purpose? Your body is guiding you to follow the path that’s best for you.  Your heart knows your Purpose.  And, your Soul’s whispering through your heart all you need to know to be all you’re designed to be.  You first need to know and trust that, then learn how to listen and follow along.

Centuries ago, the “church” decided that the more esoteric matters of the mind, heart, emotions, and spirit was its domain.  The medical community decided the physical body was its domain.  That was the beginning of separation of “church and state”.  Perhaps that’s what lead to a tendency to look for our answers and solutions outside ourselves.

Sure, you must consult with professionals at times because they have necessary skills and knowledge you don’t.  And, that knowledge will enhance your understanding and decision-making.  But they don’t have ALL of the information.   Only you have lived your life, in your shoes, with your experiences.  You’re the only one who truly knows what’s going on inside your mind, your heart, your Highest self.

Ultimately, only you can make the best decisions for yourself, and manage your thoughts to keep aligned with your design, your Purpose, what IS best for you.  And, when you stray from that, your system will respond in kind with symptoms of stress and dis-ease.

I’m honored to share with you the second in my 12 article series with the newly published international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Answers Are Within”.  Please share your comments below – would love to hear from you!
Your Answers Are Within - Your Soul is Whispering to You Through Your Heart.

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Your body's saying, "Be YOU!"

Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU!”  It begins with a whisper, and if you don’t heed its message….. it gets louder.  First, you have to know enough to listen. Are you listening?

I’m pleased to share with you my first article from the newly launched international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”: 

Your Body's Saying, "Be YOU!"

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU.”

If you’d like to learn to listen to it and follow its guidance to resolve your issues at the root joy, peace, purpose, fulfillment,  apply here for a complimentary Discovery Session.    Questions?  Email me today.

It’s an honor to be a contributing author for Sibella Publications’ newly launched Luminous Wisdom – Sophia online magazine.  If interested in a subscription, you can learn more here.

Live an extraordinary life - it is your design

Live An Extraordinary Life – It IS Your Design

You ARE designed to live an extraordinary life.  Did you know that?

You’re programmed and designed to be a YOU-nique BEING, with a you-nique place only you can fill.   You Purpose is to fill it by learning, growing, evolving into the best version of YOU that you can. When  you fulfill your Purpose, you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and love what you’re doing.  Your life fits you, and you fit your life.

Isn’t that in itself amazing, incredible, remarkable?  I think it is.  Oh, and by the way, “amazing”, “incredible”, and “remarkable” are all synonyms for “extraordinary”.

Live an extraordinary lifeI invite you to first consider what “extraordinary” means to you.  It means different things to different people.  Some, because of their “definition” don’t believe they’re meant to live an extraordinary life.

I’m not suggesting you’re necessarily meant to rise to the top in your profession, win a Nobel Prize, nor become famous and filthy rich.  I’m suggesting simply that you are you-nique, and something of value is contributed to the WHOLE when you aspire to being the best version of “YOU” you can be.  Then you’re showing up fully for the world, living your Purpose to the best of your ability, letting your Inner Light shine brightly.

Think about it.

An Intelligence created 100 Trillion cells of “YOU” before you were even born, from 2 completely individual single cells.  Isn’t that incredible? And, it isn’t done.  There is much more of “YOU” to potentially be created, maintained, and evolved.

Your nervous system is key in carrying out that Plan.  It’s continually making adjustments based n your experiences, situation, circumstances, etc.  It’s in charge of keeping you going, functioning, healing, evolving, living.

The ease with which your system can follow the Plan is affected by whether you align with, and support, it in your choices and responses, or you thwart it.

How do you know when you’re thwarting the Plan for your extraordinary life?

Follow the Plan for an extraordinary life - or get off courseYou feel stressed.  Yep.  Stress is an indicator that you’re out of alignment with your Purpose. Any stress, i.e. any sign of living less than an optimally healthy, high quality life is an indicator.

When stressed, your nervous system has to work overtime to make up for the alteration in the Plan.  It’s showing you how to get back on track with symptoms of stress.  If you ignore or tolerate the symptoms, or simply go for a quick-fix to eliminate them, you miss that “re-direct”.  And, you stay off-track.  Thus, you live a less-than-extraordinary life.  It may well be ordinary, or average at least.  But, it isn’t extraordinary.  Click here to see a great TED Talk YouTube video on this topic: “How Ordinary People Become Extraordinary”.

Listening to your Inner Wisdom guiding you through the symptoms of stress you experience can help you better align with the Plan for “YOU” so that you live an extraordinary life.  One in which you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and passionate.  A life that feels like the right fit.

Are you TRULY satisfied with your life?

Or are you settling….. for ordinary?  Ordinary is ok if you are ok with life’s aches, pains, health issues, and the other symptoms of stress.  It’s your life, your health, your choice.  Only you can decide what is and isn’t acceptable, extraordinary.

“If you would like help living an extraordinary life, grab your free copy of my “5-Step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress”:

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Embracing Change while Handling the Fear and Guilt

Embracing change isn’t always easy, but the right perspective can make it worth it in the end.  It will help you become the best version of YOU.  It’s time!

In my last article, I suggested Spring cleaning your life for more energy, joy, clarity and peace. Part of your Spring cleaning likely involves answering the call we all are receiving, i.e., to BE who we are YOU-niquely designed to BE – for the good of the Whole.  Even if you don’t recognize it as such, the TRUE longings in your heart are telling you, “BE YOU!” Always.

Embracing change of that nature can surely stir up resistance, masquerading as guilt and fear. Which can stop you dead in your tracks unless you are prepared to handle them.  I will share with you below how to make it easier.

It’s not always easy letting go and embracing change.

Change can be especially difficult when we are anchored by deeply ingrained habits and “belief baggage” with strong emotional ties.  Your “belief baggage” is especially difficult because it’s a part of your identity, a form of intellectual property, and your familiar home.  In other words, it’s your center and ground, your comfort zone.  Instinctively we protect what is “ours”, and our “home”.  All normal.

And, all holding you back if you aren’t willing to face it head on, feel the fear, and do it anyway.

You aren’t only changing a mental construct, you’re changing your programming, i.e. the wiring in your nervous system.  You’re opening to new ways.

Letting go and embracing change takes time, courage, persistence, and patience.

(It’s also helpful to have a support system, and a plan to help you navigate the journey.  Just sayin’. You know, like your life coach can do with you…).

Letting go and embracing change

What’s stressing you?

Think about the changes that, deep down, you’d really like to make.  The ones that you dismiss, or ignore, but which resurface repeatedly.  You know the ones I mean….

The changes that, if made, would ultimately land you in the most amazing place in your life.  That amazing place for which you are YOU-niquely designed to be.

What’s continually stressing you that needs to go (or needs a belief “re-vamp”)?  A relationship?  A job? A commitment?  Something else?

Which habits could use a little variety, or even hit the highway?

What’s missing that’s waiting for you to open the door and welcome it in?

Let yourself really feel into what it would be like if there were no limits, no excuses.   IF ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING were possible.  How would that feel to have your life EXACTLY as your heart longs for it to be?

How would your body feel?

I invite you to ask yourself, “What’s holding me back?”

And let the answer come through your heart, your gut, from your Higher Self.

Note how you may be limiting yourself with beliefs of impossibility, lack of worth, lack of self esteem,  “should’s”, and “musts”.

Be willing to admit what you’re afraid of.

How much of any of those limits is REALLY true?  Seriously.

Embracing change to be the best version of you...

Sometimes there’s guilt involved. Which is really fear in disguise.

And, you may not even know what you’re guilty about.  Regardless, its your beliefs at work.  Again, knowing yourself and drilling down are key.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you in that process:

  • Are you afraid of hurting someone by saying “no”?  Have you thought of how you might actually empower them to handle something themselves if you say “no”?
  • Is it REALLY true that you don’t deserve improvement?  Do you deserve to take your next breath or even eat when hungry? Aren’t those improvements of a sort? Where’s it fair to draw the line regarding what improvement you DO deserve?
  • Who’s suffering if you “improve”?  Might they benefit, learn, grow, or even become empowered if you improve?
  • Who are you dishonoring or disappointing by making a change?  Are you living YOUR life, or theirs? Aren’t they responsible for their own reactions?
  • What are you really afraid of?   Keep digging.  You answers ARE there.

If someone REALLY loves you unconditionally, they want what’s best for you, and what makes your heart sing.  And, that’s a two-way street, right?

None of us can decide what’s truly best for another.  We only know for certain what is going on inside of US, and what’s best for us.

It’s your birthright to become the best version of you.  It is your Purpose, and your destiny, to be the best YOU, and make your difference in the world.

And, everything you need to do that IS within you.   You will see it, feel it, know it if you look past the fear, and the guilt.

Bottom line…

Which is worse/more stressful?  Changing, or tolerating the way things are now?

Change isn’t necessarily all butterflies and roses.  But, personally, I prefer the stress associated with personal growth and improvement to that from tolerating something that isn’t a good fit for me.  It has a different quality to it. HOPE, ENTHUSIASM, OPTIMISM are mixed in.  That’s better than despair, pessimism, anger, and resentment-  in my book.

And, I also know that I have to be ready, which includes having a plan and support in place…..  Otherwise, the stress WILL be worse – because the anger, resentment, pessimism, and despair will creep into my “new” path to test my resolve as well…..

Are you ready to let go, embrace change, and be the best version of YOU?  A great way to start is to use your complimentary copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress. Get your copy here:

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Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring cleaning your life inside and out can give you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.  Have you ever thought about it that way?

When in sync with spring, you naturally feel restless and you want change.  You want to eliminate what’s in the way, no longer serves you, and/or is cluttering your space.  You want a fresh start, to feel alive, and to welcome “the new”.

Those impulses apply to your life, not just your material world.  The same way cleaning your home, office, car, etc. helps you feel refreshed and rejuvenated, with space for “the new”, cleaning your life can bring you new clarity, energy, and peace.

What does Spring cleaning your life mean?

Eliminating the “obsolete, detrimental, old, toxic, and/or outdated” ways of thinking, doing, and BEING.

You know…. the things that zap your energy, distract you from what’s important, keep you in unhealthy patterns, and keep you stressed.

Spring cleaning your life frees you

How do you know where to start?

Knowing yourself is key.  Be clear about, and honor, your values and Soul’s intentions.  Taking a good, honest, unfiltered look at yourself and your life and drilling down to the core will help you discover what you need to see, know, and do.

Your heart is your source of power and motivation.  It’s the seat of your Soul.  It embodies your Soul’s intentions, values, desires, and Purpose.  Listen to your heart, and then allow your intellect to serve your highest good in bringing what’s in your heart to Life.

Some questions to ask yourself when spring cleaning your life:

Trust your first instincts, your first response, then go deeper.  There’s no “right or wrong”, just your answers ….. for YOUR clarity and guidance…..

Spring cleaning your life for change for the betterIs stress interfering with my quality of life?

What are my biggest “button pushers”?

What nags me most frequently?

Where in my life are my values lacking?

Am I aligned with my Soul’s Intentions?

What do I want to improve?

Am I willing to improve it?

Can I improve it?

How can I begin NOW to be a better version of myself?

What do I commit to changing?

Follow the steps in letting go…..

  1. Identify the need to change
  2. WANT to change
  3. Decide to change
  4. Make the plan – baby doable steps with support
  5. Follow the plan – to DO and BE different
  6. Actually LIVE it – be kind, patient, and consistent with yourself over time to develop new habits
  7. BE the new change – rewired by living it long enough that it IS you. For now.  Until you hit #1 again…

The litmus test:

Do your current life, your current ways, your current possessions embody your values?

Do they support you in realizing your Soul’s Intentions?

Decide what you are ready, willing and able to let go of as you begin Spring cleaning your life.  What’s keeping you from the clarity, energy, joy, and peace you want?

Think about what you are ready to incorporate in your “cleaner” life as well that can bring you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.

Is it time for more FUN!!! ?

I know its time for me to include more FUN!!! in my life.  I have been getting rid of some of the “old” to make room for more “FUN!!!”.

And, isn’t change is always easier, and more FUN!!!, when you don’t go it alone?

I find it is. So, I am creating a new opportunity as my gift to you.  AND, you have the chance to participate in creating that opportunity with me.

It will be a program to help us get out of our own way, and create a plan for FUN!!!, and have mutual support to keep us on track, ending this Mother’s Day.  A gift to the parts of ourselves that give to, support, and care for others.

If you would like to include more FUN in your life, and are interested in learning more, possibly creating and participating in this with me, click here to receive more information.     This time-sensitive opportunity ends April 7.   Click here now to learn more.

Spring cleaning your life for freedom and letting go

 

5 Tips for Managing Overwhelm

Overwhelm – 5 Tips For Managing It

When feelings of overwhelm creep into your daily life, do you ignore them and just keep pushing through your day?  If you’re like me, and many of my clients, you do.   But, if we don’t recognize overwhelm as the warning sign it is, we can end up crashing.

Our daily routine and habits give us our comfort zone, and perhaps a false sense of being in control.  They can keep us from realizing that we really DO need to tend to our stress.  And, we can, therefore, miss a rich opportunity for improvement to ultimately impact our health and well-being.

Until…..  a crisis hits, and feelings of overwhelm are an understatement.

The reality check of a crisis can really push us to the limit, as we are drawn into survival mode, with its own set of dynamics.  It forces us to re-examine our priorities.  Unless we value our wellbeing enough to prepare in advance….. without hitting the wall first…..

Our recent snowstorm here in the Northeast was a great opportunity for me to appreciate all I’ve gained in my ability to handle the tough stuff, as well as discover that, well, let’s just say….. I still have a little work to do……

My home can quickly become inaccessible in poor weather.  That’s bad enough, without also considering: a dairy herd, barns, equipment, two homes (father-in-law next door), and a nearly-96 legally blind grandfather living alone 20 minutes away.  Add in: being a one-person business with no paid time off, and no way to recoup lost client time.

My husband and his aging dad run the farm.  I mostly watch, encourage, and empathize, occasionally handling the dumb end of a shovel, or trying to look imposing while running around waving my arms and yelling (usually to chase cows, sometimes to flag down one of the guys … marginally effective at either). But, when there’s a crisis, I’m often called upon to “girl-up”.

Back to the snowfall, and overwhelm.

It seems like everything needs to be done at once in the morning.  Starting stubborn diesel tractors.  Creating access for the milk truck to pick up our milk (luckily – every other day).  Plowing space in the field to spread manure.  Clearing the manure collection area for the wagon and tractor.  Breaking free the frozen barn cleaner.   Clearing the barnyard so the cows can go out so the guys can clean the barn, or exit in an emergency.  Monitoring roof loads.

In the meantime, water bowls must be thawed so the cows can drink (equivalent of a bathtub of water a day), and silos unfrozen and cleared so feed can be put out.  Then, birthing happens…..

Waiting patiently are the houses, roofs, vents and chimneys, driveways, etc.  Not to mention, access to, and fueling of, the outdoor wood furnace. If lucky, we find our vehicles and clear them off.  All while praying we don’t have an emergency or breakdown……

Not done. I still need to check on my grandfather and his home (as well as other family), cancel and re-schedule appointments, hope my office is still accessible and intact, and remember to eat, drink, bathe, sleep, etc……  Get my drift?  Yes, a pun.

Overwhelm? Definitely.

Overwhelm.  Where do I begin dealing?

Better question: where do you begin?

Here are 5 tips I find useful, and share with my clients, for dealing with overwhelm:

  1. Notice how you’re feeling, and tend to your self-care first.  You’re no good to anyone if, well, you’re no good.  Right?
  2. Be present and mindful, “in the moment” to stay focused, clear, and open to what you really need to know.  Listen to your heart, and gut. Then, you’re more likely to notice important changes, and respond appropriately.
  3. Prioritize calmly, objectively, yet intuitively.  Obviously, a crisis necessitates different prioritizing than daily stress management.  Remember, knowing your values is key in setting priorities that keep stress under control, and get you through a crisis. Let your heart and mind partner-up.
  4. Break tasks into smaller steps, focusing on what you’re doing, not on what else is still waiting for you.   Acknowledge your progress and stamina along the way.
  5. Find a silver lining.  Some joy, accomplishment, awareness, experience.  Try to have fun, and appreciate something or someone…..
What overwhelm?

Birdwatching in the sunny, warm window.  Art, skill, both? Or, just adorable?

I find times of overwhelm are excellent opportunities to remember what is REALLY important to me.  It’s a time to bolster my self-care, be in the moment, acknowledge myself for the small things, find pleasure and joy in the simple things, feel connected to something Greater, and be grateful.

One thing that stands out for me, too, in a crisis, is pulling together in community.  Nothing is more heartwarming to me than seeing everyone do and BE their best to help each other and make the world go ’round.  How about you?

Needing support in times of overwhelm, or managing stress? Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session.   We’ll hop on the phone for about 30-40 minutes and get you on your way! Talk with you soon!