Handling Tough Times

Handling Tough Times

We often find ourselves handling tough times these days.  More pressures, more crises, more disturbing events in the news, more health issues, etc.

I share with you my secrets to handling tough times in the article below, which was originally published in the August, 2017 issue of Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.   You can grab your copy of the magazine here: Sibella Publications – Luminous Wisdom: Sophia

In challenging times….it’s natural to seek safety, security, reassurance, comfort and confidence, right?

But, how you numb the pain, hide, and/or find “home” can make a difference in the quality of your life.

In tough times, I center and ground myself in my connection to Source, and my deep knowing that everything happens for a reason. Those “reasons” keep me aligned with the Purpose for which I am designed to live. This natural sense of “home”, always available to me, reminds me I’m not alone, no matter how lonely I feel.

Whether my life, or my body, is challenging me (or both) I tune into my Inner Wisdom. I notice my feelings, their underlying thoughts and beliefs, and how my body is responding to them. I take stock of the dominant themes in my life, stress, and fears. Equally important are the whispered dreams and urgings of my Soul that I often easily dismiss. My pain and stress are guides to my opportunities for growth. All ARE the things that need to be addressed for my body to heal, and my life to course-correct.

What can you control when handling tough times?

The only thing I can control is my response to my situation. By finding the silver lining, choosing new positive thoughts, re-framing my beliefs, and aligning my actions with this new perspective, my body responds in healthier ways. Then, I know I’m back on track with my Purpose, naturally congruent with my design. When my mind and my actions are back on track, aligned with my design, fulfilling my Purpose, I feel better. I AM better, on all levels.

I also listen to my body and notice its response to help me make decisions. Unhealthy stress responses indicate that my choice may not be right for me, and/or that I’m experiencing normal human doubt and fear. Even the “right” decision can be stressful, but the quality of that stress is different than that related to a decision that isn’t best for me. “Good stress” is accompanied, and offset, by the positives of the situation. The excitement and “deep knowing” that I am living my Purpose. The key is learning to tell the difference between what is and isn’t best for me.

That doesn’t mean its always rainbows and roses.

Handling tough times isn't always rainbows and rosesTough times help me to grow. Life’s about change, which can be difficult, as I fear the loss of the familiar, cherished, and loved, while opening to the new. Being an inefficient system, I may not heal completely and continue to live with “dis-ease” even after adopting healthier ways, perspectives, and habits. It also may be part of my journey to live with challenge, symptoms, dis-ease, etc.

Resting into my connection to Source and deep inner knowing helps me resolve anxiety, chronic pain and stress, and trust that all is going perfectly according to Divine Plan. I know I’m supported even when I break down.

Going with that flow IS following my heart, my Purpose. How do you handle the tough times?

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Your Answers Are Within

Your Answers Are Within

Did you know your answers are within you for all of your health challenges, stressors, and even knowing what’s next for you?  Yes, your answers ARE within.

Whispering to You Through Your Heart, Your Soul is Telling You Your Answers Are Within.

Looking to feel better, experience improved health, find your next steps?  Want to the satisfaction and fulfillment of knowing and living YOUR purpose? Your body is guiding you to follow the path that’s best for you.  Your heart knows your Purpose.  And, your Soul’s whispering through your heart all you need to know to be all you’re designed to be.  You first need to know and trust that, then learn how to listen and follow along.

Centuries ago, the “church” decided that the more esoteric matters of the mind, heart, emotions, and spirit was its domain.  The medical community decided the physical body was its domain.  That was the beginning of separation of “church and state”.  Perhaps that’s what lead to a tendency to look for our answers and solutions outside ourselves.

Sure, you must consult with professionals at times because they have necessary skills and knowledge you don’t.  And, that knowledge will enhance your understanding and decision-making.  But they don’t have ALL of the information.   Only you have lived your life, in your shoes, with your experiences.  You’re the only one who truly knows what’s going on inside your mind, your heart, your Highest self.

Ultimately, only you can make the best decisions for yourself, and manage your thoughts to keep aligned with your design, your Purpose, what IS best for you.  And, when you stray from that, your system will respond in kind with symptoms of stress and dis-ease.

I’m honored to share with you the second in my 12 article series with the newly published international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Answers Are Within”.  Please share your comments below – would love to hear from you!
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Live an extraordinary life - it is your design

Live An Extraordinary Life – It IS Your Design

You ARE designed to live an extraordinary life.  Did you know that?

You’re programmed and designed to be a YOU-nique BEING, with a you-nique place only you can fill.   You Purpose is to fill it by learning, growing, evolving into the best version of YOU that you can. When  you fulfill your Purpose, you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and love what you’re doing.  Your life fits you, and you fit your life.

Isn’t that in itself amazing, incredible, remarkable?  I think it is.  Oh, and by the way, “amazing”, “incredible”, and “remarkable” are all synonyms for “extraordinary”.

Live an extraordinary lifeI invite you to first consider what “extraordinary” means to you.  It means different things to different people.  Some, because of their “definition” don’t believe they’re meant to live an extraordinary life.

I’m not suggesting you’re necessarily meant to rise to the top in your profession, win a Nobel Prize, nor become famous and filthy rich.  I’m suggesting simply that you are you-nique, and something of value is contributed to the WHOLE when you aspire to being the best version of “YOU” you can be.  Then you’re showing up fully for the world, living your Purpose to the best of your ability, letting your Inner Light shine brightly.

Think about it.

An Intelligence created 100 Trillion cells of “YOU” before you were even born, from 2 completely individual single cells.  Isn’t that incredible? And, it isn’t done.  There is much more of “YOU” to potentially be created, maintained, and evolved.

Your nervous system is key in carrying out that Plan.  It’s continually making adjustments based n your experiences, situation, circumstances, etc.  It’s in charge of keeping you going, functioning, healing, evolving, living.

The ease with which your system can follow the Plan is affected by whether you align with, and support, it in your choices and responses, or you thwart it.

How do you know when you’re thwarting the Plan for your extraordinary life?

Follow the Plan for an extraordinary life - or get off courseYou feel stressed.  Yep.  Stress is an indicator that you’re out of alignment with your Purpose. Any stress, i.e. any sign of living less than an optimally healthy, high quality life is an indicator.

When stressed, your nervous system has to work overtime to make up for the alteration in the Plan.  It’s showing you how to get back on track with symptoms of stress.  If you ignore or tolerate the symptoms, or simply go for a quick-fix to eliminate them, you miss that “re-direct”.  And, you stay off-track.  Thus, you live a less-than-extraordinary life.  It may well be ordinary, or average at least.  But, it isn’t extraordinary.  Click here to see a great TED Talk YouTube video on this topic: “How Ordinary People Become Extraordinary”.

Listening to your Inner Wisdom guiding you through the symptoms of stress you experience can help you better align with the Plan for “YOU” so that you live an extraordinary life.  One in which you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and passionate.  A life that feels like the right fit.

Are you TRULY satisfied with your life?

Or are you settling….. for ordinary?  Ordinary is ok if you are ok with life’s aches, pains, health issues, and the other symptoms of stress.  It’s your life, your health, your choice.  Only you can decide what is and isn’t acceptable, extraordinary.

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You shouldn't lose weight

Why You Shouldn’t Lose Weight

I often have requests for help with weight loss.  The first thing that comes to mind when I hear that is: “you shouldn’t lose weight”.

Why you shouldn’t lose weight….

Did you know your non-conscious mind automatically takes action to help you find something you lost?   So, if you lose weight, your non-conscious mind will naturally try to help you find it and get it back……. Hence, you shouldn’t “lose” weight.

And, when focusing on weight loss, where’s your focus?  On the excess weight?  We know from the Law of Attraction, you get more of what you are focused on….  excess weight.

You shouldn't lose weightAdditionally, deciding to “lose weight” can set you up for feeling guilty and upset with yourself, especially if your head is in charge. You may have an ideal diet, size and weight in mind.  All numbers, and very heady.  And, if your head is in charge, you may be setting yourself up for failure because you are missing the underlying issues.  Your heart is what really provides the momentum to carry you to your destination. Your head should follow your heart’s lead for optimal success.

When your head’s in charge, you’re likely relying on willpower to get your through.  “Willpower” is really just saying “no”. “NO” doesn’t work well.  Why not set yourself up to succeed from the beginning by creating the right environment, and having the right internal momentum to maintain your progress and deal with guilt that arises?

Your heart needs to be in it, and your mind needs to be open….

Powerful invitation: adjust your thinking.

Consider “releasing” weight, i.e., that which no longer serves you, vs. “losing” weight that your non-conscious will then try to help you recover.  Let it go to where it best serves, wherever that may be, which is beyond you.

Focus on what you REALLY want, and you will have more success.  What you REALLY want IS NOT a certain weight, or a certain size, or even a certain look.  Nope.  Your motivators for any change are the feelings you will have when you acquire or achieve those “externals”.  Feelings come from the heart, not the head…..  Transformational coaching 101.  Just sayin’.

You should aim for balance, you shouldn't lose weight

Your weight’s a result of many complex interrelated factors.

It’s important to get to all of the underlying issues to achieve your ideal healthy weight.  Genetics, physiology, diet, lifestyle, emotional factors, other health issues, medications, etc. are some of the factors that play a part.

If your weight’s an issue for you, I invite you to expand your perspective.  Assess yourself and your life holistically. What is out of balance?  Commit to restoring balance, and your health as a result.  Your weight will follow.

You shouldn’t lose weight.  Aim for balance in your life for optimal health.

If you wish to begin addressing your weight by focusing on your food intake, check out: “Put Your Best Fork Forward”.  Or, “Enjoy the Taste of Eating Right”.

Your answers ARE within you.

Everything I do with my clients is based upon the idea that within each of us there is wisdom that is guiding us to become who we are designed perfectly to BE.  Learning to tune in to that Inner Wisdom of the body/mind can help you discern what’s holding you back and blocking you, and choose what’s best for you going forward.

It’s about living intuitively.  It’s neither hocus-pocus, nor saved for the “special ones”.  Living intuitively IS in your design.  That applies to living your life in all respects, which is ultimately interrelated with your health and well-being.  Being your ideal healthy weight is no different.

If you’d like more help living intuitively for a balanced life and well-being, just click here to apply for a complimentary Discovery Session, and we’ll set up a time to talk.

I see your Light!  I see your Greatness! Do you?

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Your Best Resource is Who You ARE

Your Purpose is to Be YOU

Intuition - Your Key to Health and Well-Being

Intuition – Your Mind-Body Key to Health and Well-Being

What if you had intuition?

And, what if intuition could improve your health and well-being?  How might your life be different if that were true?

Like many people, I used to think that intuition was reserved for “the gifted”, and produced insight into the future or situations in a mystical way.  Does that resonate with your belief, too?

Though I had a gut feeling that was “true” at times, I always considered it to be a fluke, or a fleeting moment that may or may never happen again.  I never used to think of myself as intuitive.  Sound familiar?

And, I certainly never thought of it as a capacity I could develop, that could enhance my health and well-being.

But, then I learned I was…. uh….. wrong.  Yep.  W-R-O-N-G.

We ALL have the capacity for intuition.

We all have intuitionThat includes you and me.  Yes, ALL of us.  The capacity for intuition develops to a greater extent in some people than others, but we all have it.

When we perceive facts directly, independently from any reasoning, and outside the function of our other 5 senses, we are using intuition.  Still sounds like a stretch, though, right?

Intuition is part of the mind-body network that you can learn to tap into,  and develop. It is no different than your other senses and functions as a transmitter of mind-body messages that you can use to guide your choices and actions for a happier, healthier life.

Why is this important?

I have shared information with you in previous posts regarding the mind-body relationship, and how you can use that to your benefit.  That relationship IS part of your innate intuition network, which I call your Inner Wisdom.

Your experiences, and the emotions relating to them, get encoded in not only your brain, but your tissues and organs as well.  Your memory of those experiences is thus, not only “brain memory”, but “tissue memory”.

Because of that “memory”, those experiences can continue to influence your life, health, and reality.  Not only do they influence your conscious mind, they communicate messages to you through “symptoms” of physical disorders and disease.  The trick is in learning to LISTEN and respond differently, in order to create a new outcome, i.e. a new reality, for yourself.

NOTE: Please remember none of this is intended to substitute for necessary medical care.

So, how do you connect with your intuition?

You have to screen out interference and be aware to connect with your intuitionYou have to increase self-awareness, and learn to screen out the “interference”.  It comes with practice.

Practices that support reaching a deep, quiet, relaxed state naturally support developing your capacity for intuition.  These practices help you discern what really “matters”, and what is non-serving, distracting “chatter”.

When my messages, a.k.a. “symptoms”,  grew loud enough that I couldn’t ignore them, I sought out craniosacral therapy.  At the time, I had NO clue that there was anything for me to “hear”.

How does craniosacral therapy help?

By receiving craniosacral therapy regularly, I began to:

  • relax in new, deeper ways;
  • let go of the messages and patterns that were no longer serving me; and
  • open to what I REALLY needed to know.

My system released all of the distracting, non-serving noise making that deeper, clearer listening easier.

As I began to listen, I learned to respond in a way that improved my health when nothing else did.  My life grew richer when I didn’t know I even wanted that.

I had a greater connection to my life, and to the choices that were best for me.  I experienced a deeper “knowing” that transcended reason and aligned with a Higher plan. And, through that knowing, I instinctively aligned with, and cultivated, the changes in my life that were an inherent part of this rewarding outcome.

What support is there for this concept?

Intuition = body + mind + spiritOne HUGE key in my process was the work of medical intuitive, neuropsychiatrist, and neuroscientist Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz, M.D., PhD.  Her book  Awakening Intuition: Using Your Mind-Body Network for Insight and Healing (read an excerpt), helped me understand what was happening with me in ways nothing else had.  It confirmed what my intuition was telling me, supporting me in taking my process to the next level. And, it fascinated the daylights out of me, too…..

The work of Carolyn Myss, Christine Page, Barbara Brennan, Anodea Judith, and many others also provided the support and confirmation I needed to understand, embrace, and follow my intuition.

My experience and training during my craniosacral therapy and transformational coaching certification processes deepened my capacity for intuition, too.  This work developed my faith, trust, and relationship with that which is Higher than our Ego selves, which helped me increase my capacity to support not only my own, but the inherent healing journey of others.

How does Transformational Coaching help?

Transformational Coaching transcends the traditional goals and accountability coaching model.  It helps you connect to what is in your heart, and to your own YOU-nique journey to being who you are truly designed to be. Transformational coaching helps you discover what is and is not working for you, filter out the “noise” and “distractions” to hear your TRUTH, so that you can make the best decisions, and take the best actions for YOU.

It adds the benefits of working in a systematic, yet organic way, that keeps you on track and accountable.

Bottom line, what does Intuition do for health and well-being?

Developing your capacity for intuition can reduce stress, and help you discern your best choices for YOU by listening to your Inner Wisdom, i.e. utilizing your mind-body network.  That network IS a part of your design as a human being.

Your body responds to input received and processed in your nervous system.  That includes input from all of your senses, including your gut, your intuition.  And, processing that input, listening to it, can guide you to new awareness, perspectives, beliefs, and choices for more energy, joy, and peace.

All of my work with clients helps them learn to discover the pearls of wisdom, and listen to the messages, in their symptoms, pain and stress to create the energy, joy, and peace they seek.

Are you listening?

Here’s to Higher Knowing and “Gut Feelings”!

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So, ARE you listening?  What does your gut tell you now?

 

 

 

Being aware leads to being respons-able for your life and health

Being Respons-ABLE for Your Life and Health

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Pain and Stress as Teachers

Listen to Your Body - Heal from the Inside Out

Listen to Your Body: Heal From the Inside Out

Listen to Your Body

In my last post, I suggested that if you are having health issues, experiencing chronic pain, or are stressed, something is calling for your attention. We are going to dig a little deeper into how to “answer your call”: listen to your body.

Stress, pain, and health issues are a part of being human.  Therefore, we will continue to experience them to some degree as long as we are living, breathing human beings.

However, that doesn’t mean you have to let them rule your life. They can be a rich opportunity to engage intentionally, proactively, co-creatively to in creating your reality, which may reduce and/or eliminate them depending upon their root causes.  . And, if you can’t eliminate them, you can still approach them as an opportunity to learn, and grow.  You can listen to your body, and your inner wisdom.

Richer Life Because of the Crisis? Survive, or THRIVE …..

Most of us know at least one story of someone who dealt with a crisis, or a life-limiting illness, and who’s life became richer as a result.  They had a wake-up call.  Their perspective changed.  They saw themselves and their lives differently, and responded.

What if that was their fate to experience the crisis because they didn’t answer “their call” sooner?  What if it serves some bigger purpose?What if answering that “call”, is in essence, looking at the bigger picture in a deeper way by following the guidance built within you toward health and wellness, and a greater way of Being?

What if you were to tune in, listen to your body deeply, and respond NOW, averting the crisis, and enriching your life sooner rather than later?  Maybe you won’t avert it, but by tuning in you can at least weather the crisis with greater ease and peace.

Would you rather thrive now, or simply survive?

3 Steps to More Energy, Peace, and Joy

As humans, we can only change so much, so fast.  And, we are all built certain ways that seem intended to always be.  But what if you became the best version of yourself, with the least stress, and best health you can have?

  1. Tune into your body and ask yourself:

    • What do I notice in my body?
    • How does my body feel?
    • Where do I not feel well?
    • Do I feel open, closed, tight, loose, heavy, light etc.?
    • Do I feel balanced and equal from side to side?
  2. Pay attention to the areas in which you are experiencing discomfort, dis-ease, or imbalance.

    • What functions do they perform?
    • How are they used?
    • What common metaphors might be associated with their function?

listen to your body - your sore neckLet’s look at the example I mentioned in another previous post, the common problem of a stiff or sore neck.  Asking the questions above, you may answer the following ways:

  • Your neck holds your head up.
  • It turns your head so you can look around.
  • It allows you to bow your head in grace.
  • Your neck is a connection between your head and the rest of you, especially your heart (interesting factoid from embryology here: early on in development, your heart is “above” your brain, and they eventually switch; there remains a connection in the 3rd cervical spinal segment to your heart).

3. Look at the way you are currently meeting, experiencing, and/or living life, including the themes and the metaphors that apply.

For example:

  • How would you describe the way you are meeting/experiencing/living life? Struggling? With grace and ease? In between? Avoiding it? Facing it head-on?
  • What themes/issues are in your common stresses?
  • What metaphors might describe your situation in 1 & 2 above?
    • Having trouble keeping your head above water?
    • Having trouble holding your head up high?
    • Sticking your neck out?
    • Feeling challenged to look at and know what is around you, or change your perspective?
    • Always looking over your shoulder?
    • Are your head and your heart fighting each other?

Listen to Your Body – Connect the Dots

With practice, you will begin to notice the relationships between what is going on in your life, and what is going on in your body.  There are patterns between physical sensations, and issues, and what is going on in your life. Once you notice the patterns, you can make new choices for your life and health from an “informed” place of awareness to address your health, and your life.

Why is This Important?

Isn’t this a different perspective, which offers insight and real solutions?  Doesn’t it make sense to go deeper and discover the causes of your stress and pain?

Yes, you may benefit from changing your pillow, or getting a new recliner, having a massage, or taking pain relievers.  However, if you are still struggling with the same life issues, your neck is still taking the hit, and prone to succumbing because your body still instinctively works in the same way despite the symptomatic relief you are applying. Your body is programmed to survive, but not necessarily thrive.

You Can Intercept the Program…

When you are aware of what is happening within you, you can intercept the process and improve your quality of life.

Looking at what is going on inside your mind relative to what is going on in your life, and connecting that to what is going on in your body can give you clues to how you can adjust your perspective, thinking, beliefs, and approach.  Those adjustments and course-corrections can bring different results.  Then you are solving the problem with a “different mind than the one that created it”.

Change originates inside of you that way.   This is an inside-out approach to wellness.

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Listen to your body and your inner wisdom.  What are they telling you? How can you look at things differently from a higher perspective?  How can you respond, i.e. course-correct?

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How can you adjust your thinking so that you are less stressed?  You will feel better and be healthier for it.

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Listen to your body and your inner wisdom. I have found with many clients just having the awareness of what they are really thinking, how that makes them feel, and the effect that has on their body opens the door for new ways of thinking, doing, and being.  It happens organically.  And, they are better for it.

If you would like help listening to your body and your inner wisdom to discover the roots of your stress and pain, so you can create more energy, joy, and peace for yourself, contact me today for a complimentary consultation.

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