Into the Light of Your Purpose

Is it time for another part of yourself to emerge into the light of your purpose?   You may not even be aware its within you.  But, when it IS time, it will find a way to emerge, and be born into the light.   And, its a beautiful thing, whether you think so at the time, or not.

At the time, I had no idea the significance of my experience, but I’m grateful for it.   Though it was traumatic,  it was miraculous.  It was amazing.  And, couldn’t have been any other way, or my Purpose wouldn’t be served.  Mind if I share a little of it with you in the following article, adapted from its original version published in Luminous Wisdom Sophia, November, 2017?

Follow Your Heart Into the Light of Your Purpose

Into the light of your purposeAs I lay in that warm, dark, very cramped, uncomfortable place being repeatedly squashed, I didn’t know what was happening.  I didn’t belong there, but I couldn’t leave.  Intuitively, I knew I wasn’t facing the right direction.  I tried for all I was worth to turn.  No luck.

I pleaded, “Please, stop this!!!  I feel awful. Mom, can you help me? Please, Mom, help! Why don’t you help me?”  Nothing.  It was like banging my head repeatedly into a brick wall.  I was frustrated, angry, and afraid.  This was my first experience of feeling powerless, and unable to move forward despite knowing exactly what I needed to do.  The pattern was set.  Or, was it?

Suddenly, the space around me expanded.  What was happening?  Finally!! Someone pulled me into the light as the temperature dropped, and unfamiliar sounds and voices filled my awareness.  I cried as my rescuers rushed about tending to their perception of my needs.  No one asked me how I felt, or what I needed.  They assumed they knew best.  But, they were missing SO much!

All Worth It

My birth was my longest 11-1/2 hours, and one of the richest experiences, of my yet-to-be-life.  It’s been a key in my own healing process.  From it I realized learning begins before birth, and that our birth experience shapes our life patterns and personalities.  I also developed a deep appreciation of our coping and adapting mechanisms, having lived with the resulting physical stress and tension for decades.  And, I honor the significance of all experiences in my journey for awakening me to the TRUTH of who I AM and aligning me with my Purpose.  I cherish this as I celebrate another anniversary of my birth.Into the light of your Purpose

No matter how old it is, or how insignificant it may seem, when it’s time for something to surface and awaken you, it will.  It’ll get your attention in the best way for you to notice it, bring it to light, and resolve it, just as my birth experience has done.

Just as a lifetime of stress, challenges, and experiences since that day have done for me, so, too, yours are calling to you.  Always.

Time to Notice What’s Emerging Into the Light of Your Purpose

Notice what’s asking for your attention, guiding you to ask yourself important questions.  How are you feeling?  What are you thinking?  What’s it showing you?  How can you grow from it and resolve it at the root, so its purpose is served?  How can you, and the world, be better because of it?

This awakening revealed my next steps for bringing to others such opportunities for health, healing, growth, and awakingn to their Purpose.  If I didn’t take them, my heart would break, and I’d be doing a disservice to the Universe.  I’d miss my chance to make my difference and feel fulfilled. I’d regret

If its’ stressing, challenging, and/or ailing you, it IS calling you.  Tune in. Open your heart to it. Otherwise, you may be missing one of the riches experiences in your life.  Could you live with that?  What lies within you waiting to be born into the light?

Feeling unsure of how to answer the call of your stress and challenges?  Could you use an objective professional to guide you into the light of your Purpose with greater clarity, joy, and Peace?

Adult Baby Steps Through Challenge and Change

Adult baby steps.  Do you take them, or do you tend to just bull your way through life?  Perhaps you hold yourself back and crawl? Or, do you cower in the corner?

I hope you find value in the following article, adapted from its original publication in the September, 2017 issue of Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.  I’m honored to be among those selected to guest author.   Did you get your copy?  If not, click here so you don’t miss another issue: Sibella Publications – Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.

Do you forget?

As children, we instinctively and courageously take baby steps as we learn to navigate the world. But, do you, as I do, forget that deep inside our mature adult selves that same child still yearns for love, support, understanding, guidance, and the simple successes born of baby steps?

My inner child still welcomes small safe steps, but feels somehow expected by my adult self to move confidently in leaps and bounds. Yet, my adult self has learned to fear the consequences of “failing”. No wonder its hard to change!

As much as I heard growing up, “You can do anything you put your mind to”, no one really taught me how to do that. And, I have no recollection of hearing, “You can do anything as long as your HEART’s in it.” Wouldn’t a little passion help when my rational mind says “be afraid because ______”? And, wouldn’t a little “gut instinct” have value? If learning to walk was just a head game, I doubt many of us would try it lest we risk a terrible fall…. Then where would we be?

One of My Biggest Adult Baby Steps

One of my biggest adult baby steps came on my birthday in the mid-‘90’s. I drove 3+ hours one way for a department meeting in which each of us was told whether or not our job was being eliminated. My co-workers were nervously sharing contacts and leads. I smiled to myself because I intuitively knew I was being Divinely guided to something greater. That knowing made it easier to handle the news, though trusting that intuition wasn’t so easy. I walked into the room where my boss and the HR person were waiting. My boss said, “Well.” I quickly responded, “No s**t. Where do we go from here?” Thus ended my corporate employment, and began a priceless future. I’m glad I trusted my guidance.

I’ve had to learn on my own to navigate the unknown, often re-defining baby steps while falling. While talking with a colleague recently, I realized how much more I expect of my adult self. No wonder change IS harder.

What if….?

Inner child yearns for support

What if we were to be easier on ourselves? Imagine treating that often overlooked inner child with the same compassion she was shown when her body was small and less experienced.  What if we remembered to honor and use those most important tools still within us? You know, actually follow our hearts, trust our guts, and show our fearful minds it isn’t all that bad, just like way back when….. And, let our rational minds chime in when appropriate.

I still need support from my team of coaches, peers, and wellness pros. They help me connect with those tools when I can’t alone.   My support team holds space for me to breathe, be calm, go within, and ask the big questions: “What do I need to know? What are my next baby steps?” They help me LISTEN, and trust.

What are your next adult baby steps?

Are you ready to go forward with courage in your adult baby steps? Do you need support to listen, trust, and take them?

If you could use some support finding and taking your adult baby steps through your challenges and change, apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today to see how we may work together to give you the needed direction, and courage.

Handling Tough Times

Handling Tough Times

We often find ourselves handling tough times these days.  More pressures, more crises, more disturbing events in the news, more health issues, etc.

I share with you my secrets to handling tough times in the article below, which was originally published in the August, 2017 issue of Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.   You can grab your copy of the magazine here: Sibella Publications – Luminous Wisdom: Sophia

In challenging times….it’s natural to seek safety, security, reassurance, comfort and confidence, right?

But, how you numb the pain, hide, and/or find “home” can make a difference in the quality of your life.

In tough times, I center and ground myself in my connection to Source, and my deep knowing that everything happens for a reason. Those “reasons” keep me aligned with the Purpose for which I am designed to live. This natural sense of “home”, always available to me, reminds me I’m not alone, no matter how lonely I feel.

Whether my life, or my body, is challenging me (or both) I tune into my Inner Wisdom. I notice my feelings, their underlying thoughts and beliefs, and how my body is responding to them. I take stock of the dominant themes in my life, stress, and fears. Equally important are the whispered dreams and urgings of my Soul that I often easily dismiss. My pain and stress are guides to my opportunities for growth. All ARE the things that need to be addressed for my body to heal, and my life to course-correct.

What can you control when handling tough times?

The only thing I can control is my response to my situation. By finding the silver lining, choosing new positive thoughts, re-framing my beliefs, and aligning my actions with this new perspective, my body responds in healthier ways. Then, I know I’m back on track with my Purpose, naturally congruent with my design. When my mind and my actions are back on track, aligned with my design, fulfilling my Purpose, I feel better. I AM better, on all levels.

I also listen to my body and notice its response to help me make decisions. Unhealthy stress responses indicate that my choice may not be right for me, and/or that I’m experiencing normal human doubt and fear. Even the “right” decision can be stressful, but the quality of that stress is different than that related to a decision that isn’t best for me. “Good stress” is accompanied, and offset, by the positives of the situation. The excitement and “deep knowing” that I am living my Purpose. The key is learning to tell the difference between what is and isn’t best for me.

That doesn’t mean its always rainbows and roses.

Handling tough times isn't always rainbows and rosesTough times help me to grow. Life’s about change, which can be difficult, as I fear the loss of the familiar, cherished, and loved, while opening to the new. Being an inefficient system, I may not heal completely and continue to live with “dis-ease” even after adopting healthier ways, perspectives, and habits. It also may be part of my journey to live with challenge, symptoms, dis-ease, etc.

Resting into my connection to Source and deep inner knowing helps me resolve anxiety, chronic pain and stress, and trust that all is going perfectly according to Divine Plan. I know I’m supported even when I break down.

Going with that flow IS following my heart, my Purpose. How do you handle the tough times?

If you could use a little help learning to listen to your body to navigate the tough times, grab your free copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress:  5-step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress

Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

Spring cleaning your life inside and out can give you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.  Have you ever thought about it that way?

When in sync with spring, you naturally feel restless and you want change.  You want to eliminate what’s in the way, no longer serves you, and/or is cluttering your space.  You want a fresh start, to feel alive, and to welcome “the new”.

Those impulses apply to your life, not just your material world.  The same way cleaning your home, office, car, etc. helps you feel refreshed and rejuvenated, with space for “the new”, cleaning your life can bring you new clarity, energy, and peace.

What does Spring cleaning your life mean?

Eliminating the “obsolete, detrimental, old, toxic, and/or outdated” ways of thinking, doing, and BEING.

You know…. the things that zap your energy, distract you from what’s important, keep you in unhealthy patterns, and keep you stressed.

Spring cleaning your life frees you

How do you know where to start?

Knowing yourself is key.  Be clear about, and honor, your values and Soul’s intentions.  Taking a good, honest, unfiltered look at yourself and your life and drilling down to the core will help you discover what you need to see, know, and do.

Your heart is your source of power and motivation.  It’s the seat of your Soul.  It embodies your Soul’s intentions, values, desires, and Purpose.  Listen to your heart, and then allow your intellect to serve your highest good in bringing what’s in your heart to Life.

Some questions to ask yourself when spring cleaning your life:

Trust your first instincts, your first response, then go deeper.  There’s no “right or wrong”, just your answers ….. for YOUR clarity and guidance…..

Spring cleaning your life for change for the betterIs stress interfering with my quality of life?

What are my biggest “button pushers”?

What nags me most frequently?

Where in my life are my values lacking?

Am I aligned with my Soul’s Intentions?

What do I want to improve?

Am I willing to improve it?

Can I improve it?

How can I begin NOW to be a better version of myself?

What do I commit to changing?

Follow the steps in letting go…..

  1. Identify the need to change
  2. WANT to change
  3. Decide to change
  4. Make the plan – baby doable steps with support
  5. Follow the plan – to DO and BE different
  6. Actually LIVE it – be kind, patient, and consistent with yourself over time to develop new habits
  7. BE the new change – rewired by living it long enough that it IS you. For now.  Until you hit #1 again…

The litmus test:

Do your current life, your current ways, your current possessions embody your values?

Do they support you in realizing your Soul’s Intentions?

Decide what you are ready, willing and able to let go of as you begin Spring cleaning your life.  What’s keeping you from the clarity, energy, joy, and peace you want?

Think about what you are ready to incorporate in your “cleaner” life as well that can bring you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.

Is it time for more FUN!!! ?

I know its time for me to include more FUN!!! in my life.  I have been getting rid of some of the “old” to make room for more “FUN!!!”.

And, isn’t change is always easier, and more FUN!!!, when you don’t go it alone?

I find it is. So, I am creating a new opportunity as my gift to you.  AND, you have the chance to participate in creating that opportunity with me.

It will be a program to help us get out of our own way, and create a plan for FUN!!!, and have mutual support to keep us on track, ending this Mother’s Day.  A gift to the parts of ourselves that give to, support, and care for others.

If you would like to include more FUN in your life, and are interested in learning more, possibly creating and participating in this with me, click here to receive more information.     This time-sensitive opportunity ends April 7.   Click here now to learn more.

Spring cleaning your life for freedom and letting go

 

5 Tips for Managing Overwhelm

Overwhelm – 5 Tips For Managing It

When feelings of overwhelm creep into your daily life, do you ignore them and just keep pushing through your day?  If you’re like me, and many of my clients, you do.   But, if we don’t recognize overwhelm as the warning sign it is, we can end up crashing.

Our daily routine and habits give us our comfort zone, and perhaps a false sense of being in control.  They can keep us from realizing that we really DO need to tend to our stress.  And, we can, therefore, miss a rich opportunity for improvement to ultimately impact our health and well-being.

Until…..  a crisis hits, and feelings of overwhelm are an understatement.

The reality check of a crisis can really push us to the limit, as we are drawn into survival mode, with its own set of dynamics.  It forces us to re-examine our priorities.  Unless we value our wellbeing enough to prepare in advance….. without hitting the wall first…..

Our recent snowstorm here in the Northeast was a great opportunity for me to appreciate all I’ve gained in my ability to handle the tough stuff, as well as discover that, well, let’s just say….. I still have a little work to do……

My home can quickly become inaccessible in poor weather.  That’s bad enough, without also considering: a dairy herd, barns, equipment, two homes (father-in-law next door), and a nearly-96 legally blind grandfather living alone 20 minutes away.  Add in: being a one-person business with no paid time off, and no way to recoup lost client time.

My husband and his aging dad run the farm.  I mostly watch, encourage, and empathize, occasionally handling the dumb end of a shovel, or trying to look imposing while running around waving my arms and yelling (usually to chase cows, sometimes to flag down one of the guys … marginally effective at either). But, when there’s a crisis, I’m often called upon to “girl-up”.

Back to the snowfall, and overwhelm.

It seems like everything needs to be done at once in the morning.  Starting stubborn diesel tractors.  Creating access for the milk truck to pick up our milk (luckily – every other day).  Plowing space in the field to spread manure.  Clearing the manure collection area for the wagon and tractor.  Breaking free the frozen barn cleaner.   Clearing the barnyard so the cows can go out so the guys can clean the barn, or exit in an emergency.  Monitoring roof loads.

In the meantime, water bowls must be thawed so the cows can drink (equivalent of a bathtub of water a day), and silos unfrozen and cleared so feed can be put out.  Then, birthing happens…..

Waiting patiently are the houses, roofs, vents and chimneys, driveways, etc.  Not to mention, access to, and fueling of, the outdoor wood furnace. If lucky, we find our vehicles and clear them off.  All while praying we don’t have an emergency or breakdown……

Not done. I still need to check on my grandfather and his home (as well as other family), cancel and re-schedule appointments, hope my office is still accessible and intact, and remember to eat, drink, bathe, sleep, etc……  Get my drift?  Yes, a pun.

Overwhelm? Definitely.

Overwhelm.  Where do I begin dealing?

Better question: where do you begin?

Here are 5 tips I find useful, and share with my clients, for dealing with overwhelm:

  1. Notice how you’re feeling, and tend to your self-care first.  You’re no good to anyone if, well, you’re no good.  Right?
  2. Be present and mindful, “in the moment” to stay focused, clear, and open to what you really need to know.  Listen to your heart, and gut. Then, you’re more likely to notice important changes, and respond appropriately.
  3. Prioritize calmly, objectively, yet intuitively.  Obviously, a crisis necessitates different prioritizing than daily stress management.  Remember, knowing your values is key in setting priorities that keep stress under control, and get you through a crisis. Let your heart and mind partner-up.
  4. Break tasks into smaller steps, focusing on what you’re doing, not on what else is still waiting for you.   Acknowledge your progress and stamina along the way.
  5. Find a silver lining.  Some joy, accomplishment, awareness, experience.  Try to have fun, and appreciate something or someone…..
What overwhelm?

Birdwatching in the sunny, warm window.  Art, skill, both? Or, just adorable?

I find times of overwhelm are excellent opportunities to remember what is REALLY important to me.  It’s a time to bolster my self-care, be in the moment, acknowledge myself for the small things, find pleasure and joy in the simple things, feel connected to something Greater, and be grateful.

One thing that stands out for me, too, in a crisis, is pulling together in community.  Nothing is more heartwarming to me than seeing everyone do and BE their best to help each other and make the world go ’round.  How about you?

Needing support in times of overwhelm, or managing stress? Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session.   We’ll hop on the phone for about 30-40 minutes and get you on your way! Talk with you soon!

 

 

Create a balanced life for fulfillment and well-being

Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being

Do you desire a more balanced life, but feel stuck when it comes to creating one?

A balanced life means something different to everyone.  What would a balanced life look and feel like to you?

To me, it means feeling calm, grounded, clear, focused, and on-track with a sense of connection, purpose, and meaning.  It also means having a handle on your life without being pulled too much in one direction.

How do you know if your life is out of balance?

Only you truly know how you are feeling and what you are thinking.  Being honest with yourself, listening to, and heeding those persistent whispers calling for change, before they become shouts, will help you find balance.

What is your Inner Guidance telling you?  Is it whispering “imbalance” to you through feelings of stress, discontent, agitation, being spread thin, and/or irritability? Fatigue? Depression? Health issues?  Simply a persistent desire for things to be different?

If you are experiencing any of the above, ask yourself if there are certain areas in your life needing more, or even less, attention.

Where do you start?

Assess if you have a balanced lifeAssess your life, state of mind, and how you are feeling.  Where would you like to feel more balance? What are you neglecting?

Would you like more balance among:

  • Doing vs. being
  • Giving vs. receiving
  • Being responsible, vs. being care-free
  • Being alone vs. with others?

Delving a little deeper, do you feel balanced in time and energy spent on your inner vs. your external world?

Inner World:

  • mind/thoughts,
  • emotional life,
  • spiritual life, and
  • physical health and wellbeing

External World:

  • work life,
  • social life,
  • family life, and
  • recreation/fun time

Are you so focused on the activities of life that you are unaware of what is going on inside of you?  Conversely, are you so focused on what is going on within you that you are missing out on living life?

Going deeper…..

You may feel balanced between those two main areas, but desire to balance out the aspects within one or the other. For example, you may feel a need to spend less time thinking, and more time feeling, and connecting to spirit.

Within one or more of those aspects you may desire more balance. For example in the aspect of family, you may desire greater balance between fulfilling family responsibilities and creating healthy boundaries.

Spending time and energy in any of these ways can be positive.  However, excess in any one area can turn that positive into something detrimental to your well-being in the end.

Living a balanced life decreases stress, improves health, and increases well-being.

A balanced life is less stressful and healthier

How do you find your balance?

Knowing what values you hold close to your heart is key in creating a balanced life.  Ultimately, it is the value within that you instinctively seek in your most fulfilling choices. Do what you love.

I teach my clients a process to get their head out of the way, and listen to what their hearts value. Choosing to spend their time and energy in ways that embody those heart-held values helps reduce stress, and increase their fulfillment.

Make a list of your values, and verify that the ways you spend the majority of your time and energy embody those values. Are your values present or absent in the aspects of your life in which you have chosen to create more balance?

How do you create a balanced life?

Commit to being balanced, and embodying that commitment in every decision.

Set intentions.

Make a plan.  Identify tasks needed to achieve your intentions daily, weekly, monthly, annually.  Start with small, baby-step changes.  Then, when you start seeing results, its easier to maintain and build momentum.

Make time to check in with yourself and reassess on a daily basis.  Notice what has and hasn’t worked.  What changes, if any, do you choose to make?

Empower yourself ahead of time to thwart the negative voices and challenges.

Know ahead of time what inner stuff will get in your way so you can be prepared when the resistance rears its head.  It always does.

Know:

  • how you stayed focused in the past when you accomplished the most important things
  • what you need to remember to overcome those worries, fears, doubts, anxieties, and self-sabotaging thoughts
  • how it felt to have succeeded despite the parts of yourself that had a difficult time
  • what you need to tell those parts of yourself
  • how to be kind to yourself so that being balanced feels good

Connect with someone who can be your cheerleader, witness, and support person to keep you focused, supported, motivated.

If you feel you could use an objective professional to fill the gaps your friends can’t in supporting you, consider working with a transformational life coach.  Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session to see if this may be a dynamic resource for you.

A balanced life

As with any change, it takes time and practice to create new habits.

Give yourself a minimum of 3 months to establish new habits and patterns.  If you stay on track with this intentional process for that long, chances are good you will create lasting new habits and feel more balanced and fulfilled going forward.

 

An overlooked secret to keeping your New Year's resolutions

An Overlooked Secret to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions

Despite your best intentions and efforts,  do you still fail to keep your New Year’s resolutions?  If you said, “Yes”, you are likely missing an overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

You are not alone. Research shows that about 50% of all Americans make resolutions.  Yet, of those, only about 8% are successful in keeping them.

If you are like most resolution-makers, you choose goals related to health and fitness, finances, or improving your of life.  You may want such changes, but still not be successful despite your best intentions.

If you find it difficult to actually keep your resolutions, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • Am I making resolutions based upon my “shoulds” and “musts”?
  • Are my resolutions the same as what everyone else is doing?
  • Have I made this resolution year after year with no real progress?
  • Am I still falling short despite an accountability or buddy system, and breaking my goals into small steps?

If you answered “Yes” to any or all of the above questions, you may be missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.  You are likely making them from your “head”, i.e. what you “think” you “should” do.

What’s wrong with that? Well, let me ask you this: do you actually feel good about, and enjoy taking the action required?  If not, how likely are you to stick with doing something you don’t like doing, or feel passionate about?

If you don’t feel good about it, you are likely missing the overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

What IS that overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions?

secret to keeping your resolutionsHere it is: Following your heart.

If your heart isn’t in the game, you lack the passion, drive, and desire that provide lasting momentum and energy needed to keep you going.  Your motivations come from other sources that don’t last, like willpower.

You are created of something greater than your personality self, designed to be and live a certain way YOU-nique to you.  Your heart knows what that is, and shows you your path in the form of love, joy and passion.

Positive loving, joyful emotions are life-sustaining Source energy flowing freely, and abundantly within and through you.  When you TRULY love what you are doing, it is a sign that you are on your path to living fully aligned with your Purpose.

Align with your Purpose. Follow your Soul Intentions.

secret to keeping your New Year's ResolutionsYour Soul Intentions for this lifetime are your Purpose.  Your heart knows what your Purpose is, and is guiding you with its love, joy, and passion.

You come into this life designed perfectly to live YOUR Purpose.  When you set goals aligned with your Purpose, you will find you enjoy accomplishing them and that you have the resources needed to do so.

That doesn’t mean it is always easy because there will likely be some tests to support your growth along the way.  But, you will feel less like a square peg in a round hole, and feel less stressed as a result.  You will love your life, and feel like your heart is in living it.

The overlooked secret to keeping your New Year’s Resolutions IS following your heart, thus aligning with your Purpose, i.e. your Soul Intentions for this lifetime.

Don’t make resolutions.

That’s right. Don’t pledge to do those cliché things that you always SAY you should/must do, but your heart isn’t in.   Isn’t it easier to “do it if your heart is in it”?

You are built and resourced to live your Soul Intentions, and when you attune yourself to, and align yourself with those, you will find you have better results. Set goals aligned with your Soul Intentions instead of making cliché resolutions you think you should.

The common tips and tricks to keeping your resolutions still have value.

Most people benefit from breaking goals down into doable, practical steps.  It also helps to celebrate reaching each of those mini milestones.

It can also be helpful to have support in community with others who have similar goals.  You can lean on each other and hold each other accountable.  You also can benefit from suggestions others find helpful.

Another very useful tip is to focus on the feeling of having accomplished your goal.  The feeling is actually the motivator behind it all.  The path you take to get there can vary, and the end result may end up being different than the goal you set.  What matters is the feeling you have at the end showing you whether you ARE on your path, or not.

Choosing the optimal time for changes can also help you succeed in creating them.

The urge to start fresh, commit to change, and begin anew is natural at this time of year.

secret to keeping your New Year's resolutionsIt is related to the cycles of light, and dark, and forces greater than you (remember the Rich Spiritual Symbolism in the Holiday Stories ?).  It is an optimal time for aligning with your YOU-niqe path, choosing the changes you will make, and setting your plan in motion.

Above all, have fun and be gentle with yourself in creating your plan for 2017.  Tune in to, and honor your heart.  See what you notice and enjoy the journey.

How do I align with my Soul Intentions?

Meditation and Imagery can help you align with your soul intentionsI meditate, and use guided imagery to listen to my Inner Wisdom, i.e., my Higher Self communicating my Soul’s path to me.

Meditation and imagery can be powerful tools to assist you in aligning with your Soul Intentions, and choosing your goals.  They help you open to the possibilities in your heart, while allowing your “head” to rest in its proper place – out of the way.  These are the same skills I teach my coaching clients to develop.

If you need help discovering your Purpose, or aligning with your Soul Intentions, apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today. Transformational life coaching can help you transcend your “shoulds and musts” to discover your heart’s desires and bring them to Life.

Happy New Year!

Simple Self-Care During The Holidays

Simple Holiday Self-Care for Less Stress and More Energy

Simple self-care during the holidays can reduce stress and keep you energized. Is your own self-care even on your holiday list?

If you are the type to put everything and every one else first, you probably do so even more at holiday time, and your answer to that question is likely “NO”.   Simple self-care during the holidays can help reduce stress, and energize you.  Then, you may even find you get more done in less time because you are more effective and efficient.

Putting yourself on your list can be simple and effortless.

You don’t need to buy anything, schedule hours into your day, nor go anywhere.

There are some tips for simple self-care during the holidays you can incorporate effortlessly into your routine that will help minimize the effects of stress.

Simply minimizing the effects of stress can help short term.

Minimizing the effects of stress does not have the lasting effect that getting to the roots of your stress does.  But, it can help short term until you take the needed time to resolve your issues at the roots for long-term, lasting results.

First, it is important to recognize some of the signs that you may be stressed.

Though it may be easy to blame the weather, and being around others, you can’t ignore that these “symptoms” can be directly related to the stress of this very special time of year.  You may be experiencing the fallout of holiday stress if you are experiencing any of the following:

  • Feeling run down, fatigued, irritable, overwhelmed
  • Getting sick
  • Headaches
  • Neck, shoulder, hip, low back pain/tension

During the holidays, you are likely:

  • doing more
  • spending more
  • eating more (and more poorly)
  • sleeping less
  • socializing more

Your innate drive to serve and care for others is likely amped up, fueling your desire to make the holidays perfect and wonderful. For others.

Yet, feeding your deep desire to make the holiday wonderful for others may not be enough to nourish all of your own needs for self-care during the holidays.   You may feel good about what you have done on one hand, yet drained and irritable on the other.

Sound familiar?

If you identify with this, or simply desire to add in some effortless self-care this holiday season, here are 10 tips for simple self-care during the holidays:

Simple Self-Care During the Holidays

  1. Breathe deeply. Deep breathing can trigger a natural relaxation state.
  2. Ground and center yourself.  Take a moment to really feel present, in the moment, connected to Source, and to Earth.
  3. Smile.  This actually tricks your nervous system into a state of feeling happy.  Did you just smile?
  4. Turn on the music. Sing or whistle an inspiring or upbeat tune. Dance as if no one were watching.
  5. Savor your morning routine.  Start your day off positively. Really savor your morning routine – a cup of tea, meditation, prayer time, your shower, applying a favorite moisturizer, the sunrise, the promise of a new day.  Really take it in. Have fun.
  6. BE in the moment.  Find something you can appreciate with your senses, such as a new pleasant scent, something beautiful in nature, a new sight, a new flavor, the coziness of your sweater, the sounds, the silence, etc.
  7. Be gentle with yourself and realistic with your expectations. Don’t beat yourself up for your choices and outcomes.  It is great to notice your feelings around your perceived shortcomings.  Holidays aren’t the time to change dramatically (though you can choose to feel gratitude for the insight into your own ways).  HINT: Set your intention to dig deep here at a better time for handling it – say in the New Year? Request a complimentary consultation for a Discovery Session with me to explore how life coaching may help with expectations, intentions, and goal-setting in the New Year.
  8. Know and honor your values, and set your priorities according to them.   What is REALLY important?  If you honor your values, you will feel more fulfilled, confident, and less stressed.
  9. Eat and drink as healthy as possible, focusing on what you DID eat “right”.  Have an extra glass of water to maintain your hydration.  Try smaller portions, and eat mindfully.   If you give yourself a minute to really savor that one cookie, or piece of candy, you may not really want another…..
  10. Choose the feeling you DO want to experience when all is said and done, and create it for yourself.  How? First, identify the feeling.  Perhaps it’s gratitude, peace, joy, or even can’t be put into words.  Then, using your imagination, assuming anything is possible, imagine actually having that feeling, being in the situation that would create it.

These tips for simple self-care during the holidays can help mitigate the effects of stress short-term, but you need to get to the roots for lasting results.

Ultimately, your beliefs about your situation, expectations, choices, options, experiences, etc., are what create stress, and must be dealt with realistically to resolve stress at the roots.  Taking the plunge into exploring what makes you tick takes time, and commitment, but has its long term rewards in satisfaction, health, joy, and peace.

Put yourself on your list…..

Consider being as generous with yourself as you are others.  Your health matters.  You can’t give as much, as well, to others from a an empty box….

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Which tips resonate best with you?  Which do you find most useful?  Feel free to comment below!  Love to hear from you!

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