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Your Answers Are Within

Your Answers Are Within

Did you know your answers are within you for all of your health challenges, stressors, and even knowing what’s next for you?  Yes, your answers ARE within.

Whispering to You Through Your Heart, Your Soul is Telling You Your Answers Are Within.

Looking to feel better, experience improved health, find your next steps?  Want to the satisfaction and fulfillment of knowing and living YOUR purpose? Your body is guiding you to follow the path that’s best for you.  Your heart knows your Purpose.  And, your Soul’s whispering through your heart all you need to know to be all you’re designed to be.  You first need to know and trust that, then learn how to listen and follow along.

Centuries ago, the “church” decided that the more esoteric matters of the mind, heart, emotions, and spirit was its domain.  The medical community decided the physical body was its domain.  That was the beginning of separation of “church and state”.  Perhaps that’s what lead to a tendency to look for our answers and solutions outside ourselves.

Sure, you must consult with professionals at times because they have necessary skills and knowledge you don’t.  And, that knowledge will enhance your understanding and decision-making.  But they don’t have ALL of the information.   Only you have lived your life, in your shoes, with your experiences.  You’re the only one who truly knows what’s going on inside your mind, your heart, your Highest self.

Ultimately, only you can make the best decisions for yourself, and manage your thoughts to keep aligned with your design, your Purpose, what IS best for you.  And, when you stray from that, your system will respond in kind with symptoms of stress and dis-ease.

I’m honored to share with you the second in my 12 article series with the newly published international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Answers Are Within”.  Please share your comments below – would love to hear from you!
Your Answers Are Within - Your Soul is Whispering to You Through Your Heart.

Ready to go within to find your answers, reduce your stress, improve your health and well-being, and live your Purpose?  Grab your free copy of my 5-Step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress today. 

5-step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress

 

Your body's saying, "Be YOU!"

Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU!”  It begins with a whisper, and if you don’t heed its message….. it gets louder.  First, you have to know enough to listen. Are you listening?

I’m pleased to share with you my first article from the newly launched international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”: 

Your Body's Saying, "Be YOU!"

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU.”

If you’d like to learn to listen to it and follow its guidance to resolve your issues at the root joy, peace, purpose, fulfillment,  apply here for a complimentary Discovery Session.    Questions?  Email me today.

It’s an honor to be a contributing author for Sibella Publications’ newly launched Luminous Wisdom – Sophia online magazine.  If interested in a subscription, you can learn more here.

Live an extraordinary life - it is your design

Live An Extraordinary Life – It IS Your Design

You ARE designed to live an extraordinary life.  Did you know that?

You’re programmed and designed to be a YOU-nique BEING, with a you-nique place only you can fill.   You Purpose is to fill it by learning, growing, evolving into the best version of YOU that you can. When  you fulfill your Purpose, you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and love what you’re doing.  Your life fits you, and you fit your life.

Isn’t that in itself amazing, incredible, remarkable?  I think it is.  Oh, and by the way, “amazing”, “incredible”, and “remarkable” are all synonyms for “extraordinary”.

Live an extraordinary lifeI invite you to first consider what “extraordinary” means to you.  It means different things to different people.  Some, because of their “definition” don’t believe they’re meant to live an extraordinary life.

I’m not suggesting you’re necessarily meant to rise to the top in your profession, win a Nobel Prize, nor become famous and filthy rich.  I’m suggesting simply that you are you-nique, and something of value is contributed to the WHOLE when you aspire to being the best version of “YOU” you can be.  Then you’re showing up fully for the world, living your Purpose to the best of your ability, letting your Inner Light shine brightly.

Think about it.

An Intelligence created 100 Trillion cells of “YOU” before you were even born, from 2 completely individual single cells.  Isn’t that incredible? And, it isn’t done.  There is much more of “YOU” to potentially be created, maintained, and evolved.

Your nervous system is key in carrying out that Plan.  It’s continually making adjustments based n your experiences, situation, circumstances, etc.  It’s in charge of keeping you going, functioning, healing, evolving, living.

The ease with which your system can follow the Plan is affected by whether you align with, and support, it in your choices and responses, or you thwart it.

How do you know when you’re thwarting the Plan for your extraordinary life?

Follow the Plan for an extraordinary life - or get off courseYou feel stressed.  Yep.  Stress is an indicator that you’re out of alignment with your Purpose. Any stress, i.e. any sign of living less than an optimally healthy, high quality life is an indicator.

When stressed, your nervous system has to work overtime to make up for the alteration in the Plan.  It’s showing you how to get back on track with symptoms of stress.  If you ignore or tolerate the symptoms, or simply go for a quick-fix to eliminate them, you miss that “re-direct”.  And, you stay off-track.  Thus, you live a less-than-extraordinary life.  It may well be ordinary, or average at least.  But, it isn’t extraordinary.  Click here to see a great TED Talk YouTube video on this topic: “How Ordinary People Become Extraordinary”.

Listening to your Inner Wisdom guiding you through the symptoms of stress you experience can help you better align with the Plan for “YOU” so that you live an extraordinary life.  One in which you feel alive, connected, fulfilled, and passionate.  A life that feels like the right fit.

Are you TRULY satisfied with your life?

Or are you settling….. for ordinary?  Ordinary is ok if you are ok with life’s aches, pains, health issues, and the other symptoms of stress.  It’s your life, your health, your choice.  Only you can decide what is and isn’t acceptable, extraordinary.

“If you would like help living an extraordinary life, grab your free copy of my “5-Step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress”:

5-step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress

Embracing Change while Handling the Fear and Guilt

Embracing change isn’t always easy, but the right perspective can make it worth it in the end.  It will help you become the best version of YOU.  It’s time!

In my last article, I suggested Spring cleaning your life for more energy, joy, clarity and peace. Part of your Spring cleaning likely involves answering the call we all are receiving, i.e., to BE who we are YOU-niquely designed to BE – for the good of the Whole.  Even if you don’t recognize it as such, the TRUE longings in your heart are telling you, “BE YOU!” Always.

Embracing change of that nature can surely stir up resistance, masquerading as guilt and fear. Which can stop you dead in your tracks unless you are prepared to handle them.  I will share with you below how to make it easier.

It’s not always easy letting go and embracing change.

Change can be especially difficult when we are anchored by deeply ingrained habits and “belief baggage” with strong emotional ties.  Your “belief baggage” is especially difficult because it’s a part of your identity, a form of intellectual property, and your familiar home.  In other words, it’s your center and ground, your comfort zone.  Instinctively we protect what is “ours”, and our “home”.  All normal.

And, all holding you back if you aren’t willing to face it head on, feel the fear, and do it anyway.

You aren’t only changing a mental construct, you’re changing your programming, i.e. the wiring in your nervous system.  You’re opening to new ways.

Letting go and embracing change takes time, courage, persistence, and patience.

(It’s also helpful to have a support system, and a plan to help you navigate the journey.  Just sayin’. You know, like your life coach can do with you…).

Letting go and embracing change

What’s stressing you?

Think about the changes that, deep down, you’d really like to make.  The ones that you dismiss, or ignore, but which resurface repeatedly.  You know the ones I mean….

The changes that, if made, would ultimately land you in the most amazing place in your life.  That amazing place for which you are YOU-niquely designed to be.

What’s continually stressing you that needs to go (or needs a belief “re-vamp”)?  A relationship?  A job? A commitment?  Something else?

Which habits could use a little variety, or even hit the highway?

What’s missing that’s waiting for you to open the door and welcome it in?

Let yourself really feel into what it would be like if there were no limits, no excuses.   IF ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING were possible.  How would that feel to have your life EXACTLY as your heart longs for it to be?

How would your body feel?

I invite you to ask yourself, “What’s holding me back?”

And let the answer come through your heart, your gut, from your Higher Self.

Note how you may be limiting yourself with beliefs of impossibility, lack of worth, lack of self esteem,  “should’s”, and “musts”.

Be willing to admit what you’re afraid of.

How much of any of those limits is REALLY true?  Seriously.

Embracing change to be the best version of you...

Sometimes there’s guilt involved. Which is really fear in disguise.

And, you may not even know what you’re guilty about.  Regardless, its your beliefs at work.  Again, knowing yourself and drilling down are key.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you in that process:

  • Are you afraid of hurting someone by saying “no”?  Have you thought of how you might actually empower them to handle something themselves if you say “no”?
  • Is it REALLY true that you don’t deserve improvement?  Do you deserve to take your next breath or even eat when hungry? Aren’t those improvements of a sort? Where’s it fair to draw the line regarding what improvement you DO deserve?
  • Who’s suffering if you “improve”?  Might they benefit, learn, grow, or even become empowered if you improve?
  • Who are you dishonoring or disappointing by making a change?  Are you living YOUR life, or theirs? Aren’t they responsible for their own reactions?
  • What are you really afraid of?   Keep digging.  You answers ARE there.

If someone REALLY loves you unconditionally, they want what’s best for you, and what makes your heart sing.  And, that’s a two-way street, right?

None of us can decide what’s truly best for another.  We only know for certain what is going on inside of US, and what’s best for us.

It’s your birthright to become the best version of you.  It is your Purpose, and your destiny, to be the best YOU, and make your difference in the world.

And, everything you need to do that IS within you.   You will see it, feel it, know it if you look past the fear, and the guilt.

Bottom line…

Which is worse/more stressful?  Changing, or tolerating the way things are now?

Change isn’t necessarily all butterflies and roses.  But, personally, I prefer the stress associated with personal growth and improvement to that from tolerating something that isn’t a good fit for me.  It has a different quality to it. HOPE, ENTHUSIASM, OPTIMISM are mixed in.  That’s better than despair, pessimism, anger, and resentment-  in my book.

And, I also know that I have to be ready, which includes having a plan and support in place…..  Otherwise, the stress WILL be worse – because the anger, resentment, pessimism, and despair will creep into my “new” path to test my resolve as well…..

Are you ready to let go, embrace change, and be the best version of YOU?  A great way to start is to use your complimentary copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress. Get your copy here:

5-step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress

Create a balanced life for fulfillment and well-being

Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being

Do you desire a more balanced life, but feel stuck when it comes to creating one?

A balanced life means something different to everyone.  What would a balanced life look and feel like to you?

To me, it means feeling calm, grounded, clear, focused, and on-track with a sense of connection, purpose, and meaning.  It also means having a handle on your life without being pulled too much in one direction.

How do you know if your life is out of balance?

Only you truly know how you are feeling and what you are thinking.  Being honest with yourself, listening to, and heeding those persistent whispers calling for change, before they become shouts, will help you find balance.

What is your Inner Guidance telling you?  Is it whispering “imbalance” to you through feelings of stress, discontent, agitation, being spread thin, and/or irritability? Fatigue? Depression? Health issues?  Simply a persistent desire for things to be different?

If you are experiencing any of the above, ask yourself if there are certain areas in your life needing more, or even less, attention.

Where do you start?

Assess if you have a balanced lifeAssess your life, state of mind, and how you are feeling.  Where would you like to feel more balance? What are you neglecting?

Would you like more balance among:

  • Doing vs. being
  • Giving vs. receiving
  • Being responsible, vs. being care-free
  • Being alone vs. with others?

Delving a little deeper, do you feel balanced in time and energy spent on your inner vs. your external world?

Inner World:

  • mind/thoughts,
  • emotional life,
  • spiritual life, and
  • physical health and wellbeing

External World:

  • work life,
  • social life,
  • family life, and
  • recreation/fun time

Are you so focused on the activities of life that you are unaware of what is going on inside of you?  Conversely, are you so focused on what is going on within you that you are missing out on living life?

Going deeper…..

You may feel balanced between those two main areas, but desire to balance out the aspects within one or the other. For example, you may feel a need to spend less time thinking, and more time feeling, and connecting to spirit.

Within one or more of those aspects you may desire more balance. For example in the aspect of family, you may desire greater balance between fulfilling family responsibilities and creating healthy boundaries.

Spending time and energy in any of these ways can be positive.  However, excess in any one area can turn that positive into something detrimental to your well-being in the end.

Living a balanced life decreases stress, improves health, and increases well-being.

A balanced life is less stressful and healthier

How do you find your balance?

Knowing what values you hold close to your heart is key in creating a balanced life.  Ultimately, it is the value within that you instinctively seek in your most fulfilling choices. Do what you love.

I teach my clients a process to get their head out of the way, and listen to what their hearts value. Choosing to spend their time and energy in ways that embody those heart-held values helps reduce stress, and increase their fulfillment.

Make a list of your values, and verify that the ways you spend the majority of your time and energy embody those values. Are your values present or absent in the aspects of your life in which you have chosen to create more balance?

How do you create a balanced life?

Commit to being balanced, and embodying that commitment in every decision.

Set intentions.

Make a plan.  Identify tasks needed to achieve your intentions daily, weekly, monthly, annually.  Start with small, baby-step changes.  Then, when you start seeing results, its easier to maintain and build momentum.

Make time to check in with yourself and reassess on a daily basis.  Notice what has and hasn’t worked.  What changes, if any, do you choose to make?

Empower yourself ahead of time to thwart the negative voices and challenges.

Know ahead of time what inner stuff will get in your way so you can be prepared when the resistance rears its head.  It always does.

Know:

  • how you stayed focused in the past when you accomplished the most important things
  • what you need to remember to overcome those worries, fears, doubts, anxieties, and self-sabotaging thoughts
  • how it felt to have succeeded despite the parts of yourself that had a difficult time
  • what you need to tell those parts of yourself
  • how to be kind to yourself so that being balanced feels good

Connect with someone who can be your cheerleader, witness, and support person to keep you focused, supported, motivated.

If you feel you could use an objective professional to fill the gaps your friends can’t in supporting you, consider working with a transformational life coach.  Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session to see if this may be a dynamic resource for you.

A balanced life

As with any change, it takes time and practice to create new habits.

Give yourself a minimum of 3 months to establish new habits and patterns.  If you stay on track with this intentional process for that long, chances are good you will create lasting new habits and feel more balanced and fulfilled going forward.

 

Mastering TIme Management for Fulfillment

Mastering Time Management for Greater Fulfillment

Are you good at mastering time management to bring your Soul Intentions into your life, or could you use a little help?

Do you, like many of my clients, find yourself feeling scattered, spread thin; and/or lacking the focus and organization needed to using your time well?

Or are you are good at mastering time management, falling asleep at night feeling satisfied with your day?

If  you the latter is you, great!  But, if that isn’t you, read on…..

Need a little help? Here are some tips for mastering time management.

  1. Align your actions with your values.  This is a big key to using your time in a way that feels effective, efficient, and satisfying. Otherwise, you will feel drained, resentful, reluctant (i.e., procrastinating) and/or overwhelmed.
  2. Know, and give priority to, what you value most, i.e. what is in your heart. If you listen only to your head, you will be following those draining “shoulds” and “musts” with no momentum and fuel from your best motivator – your heart.
  3. Know what motivates you to create new, lasting habits and patterns. Again, this is another critical step in my work with coaching clients.
  4. Be organized.

Another big key to mastering time management is…..

Organization.

Many people I work with are admittedly stellar procrastinators, easily distracted, unable to see the bigger picture, unable to see the details in the bigger picture, and/or unable to sort the details and map out their day in a satisfying, manageable way.

Sound familiar?

So, how do you organize your time?

  1. Make list of tasks to be completed. Some do this at night for the next day.
  2. Verify that your tasks align with, or embody at least one of your core values.   If a task doesn’t ask yourself if you REALLY need to do it….. You may be surprised at the answer.
  3. Set your priorities based upon life-sustaining tasks; time sensitivity and deadlines; and those things that you feel most ready, willing and able to do.
  4. Make schedule. Some find it helpful to do this at night for the next day.
    • Schedule time for those big time consumers such as checking email, social media, messages, etc. Yes, some of those ARE important, but I bet you can easily get lost in them, too…..  You know what I mean.
    • Break your day, and tasks, into small manageable 15-50 minute increments, depending upon the task.
    • Schedule breaks every 50 minutes.

Tips for Success and Momentum:

  1. As you complete a segment of your schedule, acknowledge your progress for a sense of accomplishment to build upon.
  2. Use your breaks to refuel, i.e. time to BE, vs. doing, doing, doing.
  3. If you must “DO” on a break, do something that will feel good to complete, but doesn’t require as much of you – fold a little laundry, dust a shelf, pick up a small area, put something away that has been waiting for its home.

Your time is your most precious resource.

You can’t get it back, until you master time travel, which is beyond the scope of this article….

How can you make the most of your time, if you aren’t clear on what is most valuable to you?

And, how can you spend it wisely if you aren’t organized once you have your priorities clear?

I can help you find what is REALLY in your heart, and manage your time in bringing it to life.  Apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today to discover how to make the most of your most precious resource.  Make your time count!

In my next article I will give you some tips for mastering time management at the next level: creating a more balanced life.