Adult Baby Steps Through Challenge and Change

September 16, 2017/0 Comments/in embracing change, Personal Growth and Development, Stress /by Kelly Myszkowski

Adult baby steps. Do you take them, or do you tend to just bull your way through life? Perhaps you hold yourself back and crawl? Or, do you cower in the corner?

I hope you find value in the following article, adapted from its original publication in the September, 2017 issue of Luminous Wisdom: Sophia. I’m honored to be among those selected to guest author. Did you get your copy? If not, click here so you don’t miss another issue: Sibella Publications – Luminous Wisdom: Sophia.

Do you forget?

As children, we instinctively and courageously take baby steps as we learn to navigate the world. But, do you, as I do, forget that deep inside our mature adult selves that same child still yearns for love, support, understanding, guidance, and the simple successes born of baby steps?

My inner child still welcomes small safe steps, but feels somehow expected by my adult self to move confidently in leaps and bounds. Yet, my adult self has learned to fear the consequences of “failing”. No wonder its hard to change!

As much as I heard growing up, “You can do anything you put your mind to”, no one really taught me how to do that. And, I have no recollection of hearing, “You can do anything as long as your HEART’s in it.” Wouldn’t a little passion help when my rational mind says “be afraid because ______”? And, wouldn’t a little “gut instinct” have value? If learning to walk was just a head game, I doubt many of us would try it lest we risk a terrible fall…. Then where would we be?

One of My Biggest Adult Baby Steps

One of my biggest adult baby steps came on my birthday in the mid-‘90’s. I drove 3+ hours one way for a department meeting in which each of us was told whether or not our job was being eliminated. My co-workers were nervously sharing contacts and leads. I smiled to myself because I intuitively knew I was being Divinely guided to something greater. That knowing made it easier to handle the news, though trusting that intuition wasn’t so easy. I walked into the room where my boss and the HR person were waiting. My boss said, “Well.” I quickly responded, “No s**t. Where do we go from here?” Thus ended my corporate employment, and began a priceless future. I’m glad I trusted my guidance.

I’ve had to learn on my own to navigate the unknown, often re-defining baby steps while falling. While talking with a colleague recently, I realized how much more I expect of my adult self. No wonder change IS harder.

What if….?

What if we were to be easier on ourselves? Imagine treating that often overlooked inner child with the same compassion she was shown when her body was small and less experienced. What if we remembered to honor and use those most important tools still within us? You know, actually follow our hearts, trust our guts, and show our fearful minds it isn’t all that bad, just like way back when….. And, let our rational minds chime in when appropriate.

I still need support from my team of coaches, peers, and wellness pros. They help me connect with those tools when I can’t alone. My support team holds space for me to breathe, be calm, go within, and ask the big questions: “What do I need to know? What are my next baby steps?” They help me LISTEN, and trust.

What are your next adult baby steps?

Are you ready to go forward with courage in your adult baby steps? Do you need support to listen, trust, and take them?

If you could use some support finding and taking your adult baby steps through your challenges and change, apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today to see how we may work together to give you the needed direction, and courage.

Handling Tough Times

August 14, 2017/0 Comments/in chronic stress, Mind Body Connection, self care, Stress, Wisdom of the mind and body /by Kelly Myszkowski

We often find ourselves handling tough times these days. More pressures, more crises, more disturbing events in the news, more health issues, etc.

I share with you my secrets to handling tough times in the article below, which was originally published in the August, 2017 issue of Luminous Wisdom: Sophia. You can grab your copy of the magazine here: Sibella Publications – Luminous Wisdom: Sophia

In challenging times….it’s natural to seek safety, security, reassurance, comfort and confidence, right?

But, how you numb the pain, hide, and/or find “home” can make a difference in the quality of your life.

In tough times, I center and ground myself in my connection to Source, and my deep knowing that everything happens for a reason. Those “reasons” keep me aligned with the Purpose for which I am designed to live. This natural sense of “home”, always available to me, reminds me I’m not alone, no matter how lonely I feel.

Whether my life, or my body, is challenging me (or both) I tune into my Inner Wisdom. I notice my feelings, their underlying thoughts and beliefs, and how my body is responding to them. I take stock of the dominant themes in my life, stress, and fears. Equally important are the whispered dreams and urgings of my Soul that I often easily dismiss. My pain and stress are guides to my opportunities for growth. All ARE the things that need to be addressed for my body to heal, and my life to course-correct.

What can you control when handling tough times?

The only thing I can control is my response to my situation. By finding the silver lining, choosing new positive thoughts, re-framing my beliefs, and aligning my actions with this new perspective, my body responds in healthier ways. Then, I know I’m back on track with my Purpose, naturally congruent with my design. When my mind and my actions are back on track, aligned with my design, fulfilling my Purpose, I feel better. I AM better, on all levels.

I also listen to my body and notice its response to help me make decisions. Unhealthy stress responses indicate that my choice may not be right for me, and/or that I’m experiencing normal human doubt and fear. Even the “right” decision can be stressful, but the quality of that stress is different than that related to a decision that isn’t best for me. “Good stress” is accompanied, and offset, by the positives of the situation. The excitement and “deep knowing” that I am living my Purpose. The key is learning to tell the difference between what is and isn’t best for me.

That doesn’t mean its always rainbows and roses.

Tough times help me to grow. Life’s about change, which can be difficult, as I fear the loss of the familiar, cherished, and loved, while opening to the new. Being an inefficient system, I may not heal completely and continue to live with “dis-ease” even after adopting healthier ways, perspectives, and habits. It also may be part of my journey to live with challenge, symptoms, dis-ease, etc.

Resting into my connection to Source and deep inner knowing helps me resolve anxiety, chronic pain and stress, and trust that all is going perfectly according to Divine Plan. I know I’m supported even when I break down.

Going with that flow IS following my heart, my Purpose. How do you handle the tough times?

If you could use a little help learning to listen to your body to navigate the tough times, grab your free copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress:

Your Answers Are Within

July 13, 2017/0 Comments/in Being respons-able for your life and health, chronic stress, Fulfillment, Life Purpose, Mind Body Connection, Pain and Stress as Teachers, Personal Growth and Development, Resolve pain and stress at the root, self care, Uncategorized, Wisdom of the mind and body /by Kelly Myszkowski

Did you know your answers are within you for all of your health challenges, stressors, and even knowing what’s next for you? Yes, your answers ARE within.

Whispering to You Through Your Heart, Your Soul is Telling You Your Answers Are Within.

Looking to feel better, experience improved health, find your next steps? Want to the satisfaction and fulfillment of knowing and living YOUR purpose? Your body is guiding you to follow the path that’s best for you. Your heart knows your Purpose. And, your Soul’s whispering through your heart all you need to know to be all you’re designed to be. You first need to know and trust that, then learn how to listen and follow along.

Centuries ago, the “church” decided that the more esoteric matters of the mind, heart, emotions, and spirit was its domain. The medical community decided the physical body was its domain. That was the beginning of separation of “church and state”. Perhaps that’s what lead to a tendency to look for our answers and solutions outside ourselves.

Sure, you must consult with professionals at times because they have necessary skills and knowledge you don’t. And, that knowledge will enhance your understanding and decision-making. But they don’t have ALL of the information. Only you have lived your life, in your shoes, with your experiences. You’re the only one who truly knows what’s going on inside your mind, your heart, your Highest self.

Ultimately, only you can make the best decisions for yourself, and manage your thoughts to keep aligned with your design, your Purpose, what IS best for you. And, when you stray from that, your system will respond in kind with symptoms of stress and dis-ease.

I’m honored to share with you the second in my 12 article series with the newly published international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Answers Are Within”. Please share your comments below – would love to hear from you!

Ready to go within to find your answers, reduce your stress, improve your health and well-being, and live your Purpose? Grab your free copy of my 5-Step Quick-Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress today.

Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”

June 15, 2017/0 Comments/in Being respons-able for your life and health, chronic stress, Fulfillment, Intuition, Life Purpose, Midlife Women, Pain and Stress as Teachers, Resolve pain and stress at the root, self care, Self Healing, Wisdom of the mind and body /by Kelly Myszkowski

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU!” It begins with a whisper, and if you don’t heed its message….. it gets louder. First, you have to know enough to listen. Are you listening?

I’m pleased to share with you my first article from the newly launched international online magazine, Luminous Wisdom – Sophia “Follow Your Heart, Your Purpose: Your Body’s Saying, “Be YOU!”:

Your body’s saying, “Be YOU.”

If you’d like to learn to listen to it and follow its guidance to resolve your issues at the root joy, peace, purpose, fulfillment, apply here for a complimentary Discovery Session. Questions? Email me today.

It’s an honor to be a contributing author for Sibella Publications’ newly launched Luminous Wisdom – Sophia online magazine. If interested in a subscription, you can learn more here.

Embracing Change while Handling the Fear and Guilt

April 15, 2017/0 Comments/in chronic stress, embracing change, Life Purpose, Midlife Women, Personal Growth and Development, Uncategorized /by Kelly Myszkowski

Embracing change isn’t always easy, but the right perspective can make it worth it in the end. It will help you become the best version of YOU. It’s time!

In my last article, I suggested Spring cleaning your life for more energy, joy, clarity and peace. Part of your Spring cleaning likely involves answering the call we all are receiving, i.e., to BE who we are YOU-niquely designed to BE – for the good of the Whole. Even if you don’t recognize it as such, the TRUE longings in your heart are telling you, “BE YOU!” Always.

Embracing change of that nature can surely stir up resistance, masquerading as guilt and fear. Which can stop you dead in your tracks unless you are prepared to handle them. I will share with you below how to make it easier.

It’s not always easy letting go and embracing change.

Change can be especially difficult when we are anchored by deeply ingrained habits and “belief baggage” with strong emotional ties. Your “belief baggage” is especially difficult because it’s a part of your identity, a form of intellectual property, and your familiar home. In other words, it’s your center and ground, your comfort zone. Instinctively we protect what is “ours”, and our “home”. All normal.

And, all holding you back if you aren’t willing to face it head on, feel the fear, and do it anyway.

You aren’t only changing a mental construct, you’re changing your programming, i.e. the wiring in your nervous system. You’re opening to new ways.

Letting go and embracing change takes time, courage, persistence, and patience.

(It’s also helpful to have a support system, and a plan to help you navigate the journey. Just sayin’. You know, like your life coach can do with you…).

What’s stressing you?

Think about the changes that, deep down, you’d really like to make. The ones that you dismiss, or ignore, but which resurface repeatedly. You know the ones I mean….

The changes that, if made, would ultimately land you in the most amazing place in your life. That amazing place for which you are YOU-niquely designed to be.

What’s continually stressing you that needs to go (or needs a belief “re-vamp”)? A relationship? A job? A commitment? Something else?

Which habits could use a little variety, or even hit the highway?

What’s missing that’s waiting for you to open the door and welcome it in?

Let yourself really feel into what it would be like if there were no limits, no excuses. IF ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING were possible. How would that feel to have your life EXACTLY as your heart longs for it to be?

How would your body feel?

I invite you to ask yourself, “What’s holding me back?”

And let the answer come through your heart, your gut, from your Higher Self.

Note how you may be limiting yourself with beliefs of impossibility, lack of worth, lack of self esteem, “should’s”, and “musts”.

Be willing to admit what you’re afraid of.

How much of any of those limits is REALLY true? Seriously.

Sometimes there’s guilt involved. Which is really fear in disguise.

And, you may not even know what you’re guilty about. Regardless, its your beliefs at work. Again, knowing yourself and drilling down are key.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you in that process:

Are you afraid of hurting someone by saying “no”? Have you thought of how you might actually empower them to handle something themselves if you say “no”?
Is it REALLY true that you don’t deserve improvement? Do you deserve to take your next breath or even eat when hungry? Aren’t those improvements of a sort? Where’s it fair to draw the line regarding what improvement you DO deserve?
Who’s suffering if you “improve”? Might they benefit, learn, grow, or even become empowered if you improve?
Who are you dishonoring or disappointing by making a change? Are you living YOUR life, or theirs? Aren’t they responsible for their own reactions?
What are you really afraid of? Keep digging. You answers ARE there.

If someone REALLY loves you unconditionally, they want what’s best for you, and what makes your heart sing. And, that’s a two-way street, right?

None of us can decide what’s truly best for another. We only know for certain what is going on inside of US, and what’s best for us.

It’s your birthright to become the best version of you. It is your Purpose, and your destiny, to be the best YOU, and make your difference in the world.

And, everything you need to do that IS within you. You will see it, feel it, know it if you look past the fear, and the guilt.

Bottom line…

Which is worse/more stressful? Changing, or tolerating the way things are now?

Change isn’t necessarily all butterflies and roses. But, personally, I prefer the stress associated with personal growth and improvement to that from tolerating something that isn’t a good fit for me. It has a different quality to it. HOPE, ENTHUSIASM, OPTIMISM are mixed in. That’s better than despair, pessimism, anger, and resentment- in my book.

And, I also know that I have to be ready, which includes having a plan and support in place….. Otherwise, the stress WILL be worse – because the anger, resentment, pessimism, and despair will creep into my “new” path to test my resolve as well…..

Are you ready to let go, embrace change, and be the best version of YOU? A great way to start is to use your complimentary copy of my 5-Step Quick Start Guide to Release Anxiety, Chronic Pain, and Stress. Get your copy here:

Spring Cleaning Your Life for More Clarity, Energy, Joy, and Peace

April 1, 2017/1 Comment/in balanced life, chronic stress, Midlife Women, Personal Growth and Development, self care, Stress /by Kelly Myszkowski

Spring cleaning your life inside and out can give you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace. Have you ever thought about it that way?

When in sync with spring, you naturally feel restless and you want change. You want to eliminate what’s in the way, no longer serves you, and/or is cluttering your space. You want a fresh start, to feel alive, and to welcome “the new”.

Those impulses apply to your life, not just your material world. The same way cleaning your home, office, car, etc. helps you feel refreshed and rejuvenated, with space for “the new”, cleaning your life can bring you new clarity, energy, and peace.

What does Spring cleaning your life mean?

Eliminating the “obsolete, detrimental, old, toxic, and/or outdated” ways of thinking, doing, and BEING.

You know…. the things that zap your energy, distract you from what’s important, keep you in unhealthy patterns, and keep you stressed.

How do you know where to start?

Knowing yourself is key. Be clear about, and honor, your values and Soul’s intentions. Taking a good, honest, unfiltered look at yourself and your life and drilling down to the core will help you discover what you need to see, know, and do.

Your heart is your source of power and motivation. It’s the seat of your Soul. It embodies your Soul’s intentions, values, desires, and Purpose. Listen to your heart, and then allow your intellect to serve your highest good in bringing what’s in your heart to Life.

Some questions to ask yourself when spring cleaning your life:

Trust your first instincts, your first response, then go deeper. There’s no “right or wrong”, just your answers ….. for YOUR clarity and guidance…..

Is stress interfering with my quality of life?

What are my biggest “button pushers”?

What nags me most frequently?

Where in my life are my values lacking?

Am I aligned with my Soul’s Intentions?

What do I want to improve?

Am I willing to improve it?

Can I improve it?

How can I begin NOW to be a better version of myself?

What do I commit to changing?

Follow the steps in letting go…..

Identify the need to change
WANT to change
Decide to change
Make the plan – baby doable steps with support
Follow the plan – to DO and BE different
Actually LIVE it – be kind, patient, and consistent with yourself over time to develop new habits
BE the new change – rewired by living it long enough that it IS you. For now. Until you hit #1 again…

The litmus test:

Do your current life, your current ways, your current possessions embody your values?

Do they support you in realizing your Soul’s Intentions?

Decide what you are ready, willing and able to let go of as you begin Spring cleaning your life. What’s keeping you from the clarity, energy, joy, and peace you want?

Think about what you are ready to incorporate in your “cleaner” life as well that can bring you more clarity, energy, joy, and peace.

Is it time for more FUN!!! ?

I know its time for me to include more FUN!!! in my life. I have been getting rid of some of the “old” to make room for more “FUN!!!”.

And, isn’t change is always easier, and more FUN!!!, when you don’t go it alone?

I find it is. So, I am creating a new opportunity as my gift to you. AND, you have the chance to participate in creating that opportunity with me.

It will be a program to help us get out of our own way, and create a plan for FUN!!!, and have mutual support to keep us on track, ending this Mother’s Day. A gift to the parts of ourselves that give to, support, and care for others.

If you would like to include more FUN in your life, and are interested in learning more, possibly creating and participating in this with me, click here to receive more information. This time-sensitive opportunity ends April 7. Click here now to learn more.

Overwhelm – 5 Tips For Managing It

March 18, 2017/0 Comments/in balanced life, chronic stress, Gratitude, Intuition, Personal Growth and Development, self care, Stress /by Kelly Myszkowski

When feelings of overwhelm creep into your daily life, do you ignore them and just keep pushing through your day? If you’re like me, and many of my clients, you do. But, if we don’t recognize overwhelm as the warning sign it is, we can end up crashing.

Our daily routine and habits give us our comfort zone, and perhaps a false sense of being in control. They can keep us from realizing that we really DO need to tend to our stress. And, we can, therefore, miss a rich opportunity for improvement to ultimately impact our health and well-being.

Until….. a crisis hits, and feelings of overwhelm are an understatement.

The reality check of a crisis can really push us to the limit, as we are drawn into survival mode, with its own set of dynamics. It forces us to re-examine our priorities. Unless we value our wellbeing enough to prepare in advance….. without hitting the wall first…..

Our recent snowstorm here in the Northeast was a great opportunity for me to appreciate all I’ve gained in my ability to handle the tough stuff, as well as discover that, well, let’s just say….. I still have a little work to do……

My home can quickly become inaccessible in poor weather. That’s bad enough, without also considering: a dairy herd, barns, equipment, two homes (father-in-law next door), and a nearly-96 legally blind grandfather living alone 20 minutes away. Add in: being a one-person business with no paid time off, and no way to recoup lost client time.

My husband and his aging dad run the farm. I mostly watch, encourage, and empathize, occasionally handling the dumb end of a shovel, or trying to look imposing while running around waving my arms and yelling (usually to chase cows, sometimes to flag down one of the guys … marginally effective at either). But, when there’s a crisis, I’m often called upon to “girl-up”.

Back to the snowfall, and overwhelm.

It seems like everything needs to be done at once in the morning. Starting stubborn diesel tractors. Creating access for the milk truck to pick up our milk (luckily – every other day). Plowing space in the field to spread manure. Clearing the manure collection area for the wagon and tractor. Breaking free the frozen barn cleaner. Clearing the barnyard so the cows can go out so the guys can clean the barn, or exit in an emergency. Monitoring roof loads.

In the meantime, water bowls must be thawed so the cows can drink (equivalent of a bathtub of water a day), and silos unfrozen and cleared so feed can be put out. Then, birthing happens…..

Waiting patiently are the houses, roofs, vents and chimneys, driveways, etc. Not to mention, access to, and fueling of, the outdoor wood furnace. If lucky, we find our vehicles and clear them off. All while praying we don’t have an emergency or breakdown……

Not done. I still need to check on my grandfather and his home (as well as other family), cancel and re-schedule appointments, hope my office is still accessible and intact, and remember to eat, drink, bathe, sleep, etc…… Get my drift? Yes, a pun.

Overwhelm. Where do I begin dealing?

Better question: where do you begin?

Here are 5 tips I find useful, and share with my clients, for dealing with overwhelm:

Notice how you’re feeling, and tend to your self-care first. You’re no good to anyone if, well, you’re no good. Right?
Be present and mindful, “in the moment” to stay focused, clear, and open to what you really need to know. Listen to your heart, and gut. Then, you’re more likely to notice important changes, and respond appropriately.
Prioritize calmly, objectively, yet intuitively. Obviously, a crisis necessitates different prioritizing than daily stress management. Remember, knowing your values is key in setting priorities that keep stress under control, and get you through a crisis. Let your heart and mind partner-up.
Break tasks into smaller steps, focusing on what you’re doing, not on what else is still waiting for you. Acknowledge your progress and stamina along the way.
Find a silver lining. Some joy, accomplishment, awareness, experience. Try to have fun, and appreciate something or someone…..

Birdwatching in the sunny, warm window. Art, skill, both? Or, just adorable?

I find times of overwhelm are excellent opportunities to remember what is REALLY important to me. It’s a time to bolster my self-care, be in the moment, acknowledge myself for the small things, find pleasure and joy in the simple things, feel connected to something Greater, and be grateful.

One thing that stands out for me, too, in a crisis, is pulling together in community. Nothing is more heartwarming to me than seeing everyone do and BE their best to help each other and make the world go ’round. How about you?

Needing support in times of overwhelm, or managing stress? Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session. We’ll hop on the phone for about 30-40 minutes and get you on your way! Talk with you soon!

Why You Shouldn’t Lose Weight

March 5, 2017/2 Comments/in balanced life, Intuition, Midlife Women, Mind Body Connection, Personal Growth and Development, self care, weight loss, Wisdom of the mind and body /by Kelly Myszkowski

I often have requests for help with weight loss. The first thing that comes to mind when I hear that is: “you shouldn’t lose weight”.

Why you shouldn’t lose weight….

Did you know your non-conscious mind automatically takes action to help you find something you lost? So, if you lose weight, your non-conscious mind will naturally try to help you find it and get it back……. Hence, you shouldn’t “lose” weight.

And, when focusing on weight loss, where’s your focus? On the excess weight? We know from the Law of Attraction, you get more of what you are focused on…. excess weight.

Additionally, deciding to “lose weight” can set you up for feeling guilty and upset with yourself, especially if your head is in charge. You may have an ideal diet, size and weight in mind. All numbers, and very heady. And, if your head is in charge, you may be setting yourself up for failure because you are missing the underlying issues. Your heart is what really provides the momentum to carry you to your destination. Your head should follow your heart’s lead for optimal success.

When your head’s in charge, you’re likely relying on willpower to get your through. “Willpower” is really just saying “no”. “NO” doesn’t work well. Why not set yourself up to succeed from the beginning by creating the right environment, and having the right internal momentum to maintain your progress and deal with guilt that arises?

Your heart needs to be in it, and your mind needs to be open….

Powerful invitation: adjust your thinking.

Consider “releasing” weight, i.e., that which no longer serves you, vs. “losing” weight that your non-conscious will then try to help you recover. Let it go to where it best serves, wherever that may be, which is beyond you.

Focus on what you REALLY want, and you will have more success. What you REALLY want IS NOT a certain weight, or a certain size, or even a certain look. Nope. Your motivators for any change are the feelings you will have when you acquire or achieve those “externals”. Feelings come from the heart, not the head….. Transformational coaching 101. Just sayin’.

Your weight’s a result of many complex interrelated factors.

It’s important to get to all of the underlying issues to achieve your ideal healthy weight. Genetics, physiology, diet, lifestyle, emotional factors, other health issues, medications, etc. are some of the factors that play a part.

If your weight’s an issue for you, I invite you to expand your perspective. Assess yourself and your life holistically. What is out of balance? Commit to restoring balance, and your health as a result. Your weight will follow.

You shouldn’t lose weight. Aim for balance in your life for optimal health.

If you wish to begin addressing your weight by focusing on your food intake, check out: “Put Your Best Fork Forward”. Or, “Enjoy the Taste of Eating Right”.

Your answers ARE within you.

Everything I do with my clients is based upon the idea that within each of us there is wisdom that is guiding us to become who we are designed perfectly to BE. Learning to tune in to that Inner Wisdom of the body/mind can help you discern what’s holding you back and blocking you, and choose what’s best for you going forward.

It’s about living intuitively. It’s neither hocus-pocus, nor saved for the “special ones”. Living intuitively IS in your design. That applies to living your life in all respects, which is ultimately interrelated with your health and well-being. Being your ideal healthy weight is no different.

If you’d like more help living intuitively for a balanced life and well-being, just click here to apply for a complimentary Discovery Session, and we’ll set up a time to talk.

I see your Light! I see your Greatness! Do you?

Create More Energy In Your Life

February 18, 2017/0 Comments/in balanced life, chronic health conditions, chronic stress, mastering time management, Midlife Women, Personal Growth and Development, self care, Self Healing /by Kelly Myszkowski

Would you like to create more energy in your life?

If so, you are not alone. Feeling depleted, and/or unmotivated, is not uncommon in today’s world.

If your energy is seriously lacking, you should first consult with your healthcare practitioner to properly address any serious underlying health conditions.

Lacking physical energy, motivation, or both?

It’s helpful clarify whether you are lacking physical energy, motivation, or both, so you can seek the underlying causes more efficiently. Physical energy and motivation go hand in hand, but one aspect may stand out for you more.

Knowing which you are dealing with can help you more efficiently identify the underlying causes and choose long-term solutions.

Understand that Life is the Flow of Energy.

Quantum physics now says we are made of energy, not matter (read more here). That understanding can help you further determine how your energy is moving, and what to change.

To Create More Energy, Consider:

Whether your energy is flowing too freely and leaking from you.
Some examples of this include giving to situations that do not serve you, and being in unhealthy relationships that chronically drain you.
Your energy may be “stuck” and unavailable.
Some examples of this are health issues, tension, pain, and stress. All of this ties in with your beliefs and mindset as well. Where are you blocking yourself from reaching your full potential, living and loving unconditionally?Address your health issues, shift your beliefs, adjust your mindset. Open to your worth. Receive. Relax and de-stress.
You may be spending your energy in ways that don’t serve you.
Fear-based choices of the Ego drain you, vs. love-infused heart-felt choices that motivate and sustain you. Giving of yourself conditionally (i.e., with unrealistic expectations) could also be a drain. Avoid negative situations, including news, people, etc.Are your fears realistic? Can you shift them to take off the edge and allow yourself to follow your heart (which is fueled by Source energy: unconditional LOVE)? Are your activities ones you enjoy, and supportive of your Soul’s intentions for this lifetime?
Refuel.
This boils down to receiving sufficiently from Source, whether that means prayer, and spiritual connection, or general self-care and nourishment. Quality food, hydration, sleep, rest, meditation, and exercise are also ways of refueling from Source energy. If nothing else, in the moment, breathe deeply to relax and refresh.
Maintain balance between giving and receiving, as well as doing and being.
This should be self-explanatory. Input and output must be equal, right?

Spend Your Time Wisely to Create More Energy.

Managing your time wisely, and maintaining a balanced life are both important in maintaining your energy. If you need refreshers, re-visit my previous articles: “Mastering Time Management for Greater Fulfillment” and “Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being”.

Nothing will change unless you are aware that there is a problem, decide and commit to taking action, and follow-through. A doable plan is helpful. Where might you start?

Remember, mindset is everything. A positive outlook can help maintain your commitment and determination as you create more energy in your life.

Above all, be gentle with yourself. Change takes time.

Can’t Do it Alone?

Need an objective professional to help you create a clear plan, and stay on track? Click here and apply for a complimentary Discovery Session today. If I accept your application (I only have a limited number of spots each month), we will schedule a time to hop on the phone and get you on your way!

Create a Balanced Life for Fulfillment and Well-Being

February 4, 2017/0 Comments/in balanced life, Being respons-able for your life and health, Life Purpose, mastering time management, self care, setting goals, Stress, time management for fulfillment /by Kelly Myszkowski

Do you desire a more balanced life, but feel stuck when it comes to creating one?

A balanced life means something different to everyone. What would a balanced life look and feel like to you?

To me, it means feeling calm, grounded, clear, focused, and on-track with a sense of connection, purpose, and meaning. It also means having a handle on your life without being pulled too much in one direction.

How do you know if your life is out of balance?

Only you truly know how you are feeling and what you are thinking. Being honest with yourself, listening to, and heeding those persistent whispers calling for change, before they become shouts, will help you find balance.

What is your Inner Guidance telling you? Is it whispering “imbalance” to you through feelings of stress, discontent, agitation, being spread thin, and/or irritability? Fatigue? Depression? Health issues? Simply a persistent desire for things to be different?

If you are experiencing any of the above, ask yourself if there are certain areas in your life needing more, or even less, attention.

Where do you start?

Assess your life, state of mind, and how you are feeling. Where would you like to feel more balance? What are you neglecting?

Would you like more balance among:

Doing vs. being
Giving vs. receiving
Being responsible, vs. being care-free
Being alone vs. with others?

Delving a little deeper, do you feel balanced in time and energy spent on your inner vs. your external world?

Inner World:

mind/thoughts,
emotional life,
spiritual life, and
physical health and wellbeing

External World:

work life,
social life,
family life, and
recreation/fun time

Are you so focused on the activities of life that you are unaware of what is going on inside of you? Conversely, are you so focused on what is going on within you that you are missing out on living life?

Going deeper…..

You may feel balanced between those two main areas, but desire to balance out the aspects within one or the other. For example, you may feel a need to spend less time thinking, and more time feeling, and connecting to spirit.

Within one or more of those aspects you may desire more balance. For example in the aspect of family, you may desire greater balance between fulfilling family responsibilities and creating healthy boundaries.

Spending time and energy in any of these ways can be positive. However, excess in any one area can turn that positive into something detrimental to your well-being in the end.

Living a balanced life decreases stress, improves health, and increases well-being.

How do you find your balance?

Knowing what values you hold close to your heart is key in creating a balanced life. Ultimately, it is the value within that you instinctively seek in your most fulfilling choices. Do what you love.

I teach my clients a process to get their head out of the way, and listen to what their hearts value. Choosing to spend their time and energy in ways that embody those heart-held values helps reduce stress, and increase their fulfillment.

Make a list of your values, and verify that the ways you spend the majority of your time and energy embody those values. Are your values present or absent in the aspects of your life in which you have chosen to create more balance?

How do you create a balanced life?

Commit to being balanced, and embodying that commitment in every decision.

Set intentions.

Make a plan. Identify tasks needed to achieve your intentions daily, weekly, monthly, annually. Start with small, baby-step changes. Then, when you start seeing results, its easier to maintain and build momentum.

Make time to check in with yourself and reassess on a daily basis. Notice what has and hasn’t worked. What changes, if any, do you choose to make?

Empower yourself ahead of time to thwart the negative voices and challenges.

Know ahead of time what inner stuff will get in your way so you can be prepared when the resistance rears its head. It always does.

Know:

how you stayed focused in the past when you accomplished the most important things
what you need to remember to overcome those worries, fears, doubts, anxieties, and self-sabotaging thoughts
how it felt to have succeeded despite the parts of yourself that had a difficult time
what you need to tell those parts of yourself
how to be kind to yourself so that being balanced feels good

Connect with someone who can be your cheerleader, witness, and support person to keep you focused, supported, motivated.

If you feel you could use an objective professional to fill the gaps your friends can’t in supporting you, consider working with a transformational life coach. Apply today for a complimentary Discovery Session to see if this may be a dynamic resource for you.

As with any change, it takes time and practice to create new habits.

Give yourself a minimum of 3 months to establish new habits and patterns. If you stay on track with this intentional process for that long, chances are good you will create lasting new habits and feel more balanced and fulfilled going forward.

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